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Teen Dating Violence: One In Six U.S. Students Age 12 Are Victimized, Survey Shows

Dating Violence

First Posted: 03/29/2012 4:06 pm Updated: 05/29/2012 5:12 am


By Cynthia Johnston

March 29 (Reuters) - U.S. middle School students age 12 have experienced alarming rates of physical violence at the hands of a romantic partner, including being shoved, grabbed, hit or kicked, a survey showed on Thursday.

Nearly one in six of 1,430 students surveyed, most of whom were just 12 years old, said they had experienced physical dating violence in the past six months, while more than one in three had witnessed such violence among their peers.

Moreover, nearly a quarter said they had a friend who was violent to their partner, and a similar proportion strongly disagreed that hitting their girlfriend or boyfriend would lead to a break-up.

"Society doesn't think about these behaviors happening among middle schoolers," Shari Miller, lead researcher at RTI International, which conducted the survey, told Reuters, describing the results as "definitely alarming".

"We don't even think about them dating, never mind experiencing dating violence," she added.

The survey, conducted for the Robert Wood Johnson Foundation and Blue Shield of California, found that dating was common among the students surveyed, with 75 percent reporting having had a boyfriend or girlfriend.

But Miller said that relationships in seventh grade - middle school comprises grades six through eight - might often take a different form than those in later years, with students pairing off within groups more than engaging in traditional one-on-one dating scenarios.

"My sense is that kids are just learning about dating... I think this is awkward and uncomfortable and new for them," she said. "These relationships in middle school years tend to be brief. They may never go anywhere. They may sit together at lunch. They may only be boyfriend and girlfriend on Facebook."

In high schools, nearly 10 percent of students nationwide reported being physically hurt by a boyfriend or girlfriend in the past 12 months, survey authors said, citing data from the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. But they said there was no longer-term data that followed student dating behavior from middle school into the high school years.

The survey of middle school found that violence was coupled with gendered thinking. Nearly two out of every three students agreed with at least one harmful gender stereotype, including that the boy in a relationship should be smarter than the girl, or that girls try to manipulate boys into going along with what they want.

Moreover, while only 7 percent of students strongly agreed it was acceptable for a boy to hit his girlfriend under certain circumstances, half agreed that it was okay for a girl to do so.

More than a third of students said they had been a victim of psychological dating abuse, while 31 percent said they had been harassed by a boyfriend or girlfriend over electronic media.

Sexual harassment was also common, with nearly half of students reporting experiencing it in the past six months, such as being grabbed or pinched or being the subject of sexual jokes.

On the positive side, the survey found that three-quarters of students said they sometimes or often talked with their parents about dating topics, including how to tell if someone might be attracted to them.

The survey, which researchers said was not a nationally representative sample, was conducted in schools in California, Connecticut, Indiana and Michigan. It has a margin of error of 2.6 percent. (Reporting By Cynthia Johnston; Editing by Paul Thomasch and Philip Barbara)

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12:46 PM on 04/01/2012
Right....and 50% of all statistics are made up.
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acumenguy
It could be carried by an African swallow
10:58 AM on 04/01/2012
Huff is really "jumping the shark" with this headline.

Why does this article about 12 YO's show a picture of a top-less toddler (can't be older than 5) about to get hit by a shadowed hand?

Pathetic. Truely pathetic.
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acumenguy
It could be carried by an African swallow
10:45 AM on 04/01/2012
12 year olds are "dating?"
Shouldn't they be out play sports, scouting, performing arts, playing ....?

Am I to understand that the parent of a 12 YO who gets abused doesn't: beat the *dirty word* out of the abuser AND the abusers parents, have the abuser arrested?

Now days .... parents aint worth *another dirty word*
Don't have children if you're not fit to raise them.

Focus on your education. Get a job. Do something productive.
But don't do the wild thing. You're not grown up enough.
11:48 PM on 03/31/2012
What ???? The abstinence ONLY propaganda of the G.W. Bush administration didn't solve the problem ????
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rewith85man
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08:34 PM on 03/31/2012
When I was young, I wanted a girlfriend or even a date.
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mtdenuccisr
06:42 PM on 03/31/2012
It is not my intent to belittle abuse. But child who is 12 yrs old is in 6th or 7th grade and what 12 yr old child should be dating? Where are these children's parents?
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Fran Jaime
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06:52 PM on 03/31/2012
I started dating when I was 13, back in the 60s. We didn't do much just hold hands.
JenAshley
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06:06 PM on 03/31/2012
I teach 7th & 8th Grade in the urban, inner-city. When I read the comments and saw how many people are surprised that 6,7 and 8th graders are "dating," I had to LOL and wonder what rock do these people live under?

All throughout the day, I see students hugging/kissing/groping their "boyfriends/girlfriends." I am constantly telling students to "back up and keep your hands off" when I see any behavior that goes beyond a hug. Few of these students have any shame when it comes to making out in front of a teacher and many parents seem to be aware of their child's "relationship" when I bring it to their attention.

Now what does surprise me is the all sex talk/sexual activities that students discuss and admit to engaging in. In the hallway, at lunch, during free time or during group work; I always hear sex talk from my students. From sending racy pictures to their boyfriends' cell phones to "getting some head" afterschool; our "tweens" are doing adult things when they know adults aren't looking. And while some may be making their stories up - many are not. I have seen these racy pics (boys love to come to school and show those off) and heard them describe things/ask questions that only come from expierence.

People, wake up and monitor your children! The best defense to the cultural assault from the media is consistent parental involvement.
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MerryW
01:03 PM on 04/01/2012
You are correct.
05:12 AM on 03/31/2012
The accuracy of "self-report" surveys is highly questionable. Some respondents use these anonymous surveys as an outlet for their fantasy lives (particularly in regard to romance and dating), and youngsters may provide exaggerated, glorified or wholly inaccurate answers for the same reason they sometimes engage in other outrageous behaviors----to deliberately shock their elders. In the absence of external corroborating data, the conclusions of this survey must be taken with a grain of salt. I am skeptical.
08:41 PM on 03/30/2012
People this has been going on a long time, weather ones want dates or not.
Have people forgotten, how many people are not responsible for their kids let alone theirselves.
Begs a question of what was lost in general.
Now we're all one big cheated family.
Old Chinese proverb says; see how that works.
06:01 PM on 03/30/2012
12 years old seems a bit young to be dating. I *expect* bad choices to be made by 12 year old children.
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lcr999
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11:35 PM on 03/30/2012
Well, where I live you don't find 1 in 6 12 year olds dating.
01:13 AM on 03/31/2012
AND perhaps they are modeling inappropropriate behaviors seen in their pitiful violent households
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Sprinks678
Have I said too much? Probably.
05:16 PM on 03/31/2012
You've got that right!
Allthosewhowander
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04:43 PM on 03/30/2012
A lot of the comments on here expressing shock that 12 yr olds are "dating" would be horrified by the realities of some of the social behaviors of 'tweens'.
01:14 AM on 03/31/2012
A MUST SEE
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acumenguy
It could be carried by an African swallow
10:49 AM on 04/01/2012
Yup .... modern day parents are a bunch of iresponsible children who should have participated in *self gratification* rather than do the "wild thing" and make a baby they are not equiped to raise.
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04:34 PM on 03/30/2012
Why is this article about teen dating violence on the Education page? It belongs on the Parenting and/or Crime page. If 12 year olds are "dating", their parents need to have their heads examined!

When I was working in a middle school, a girl showed me a letter her boyfriend had written to her--both were 15 years old. It was disgusting. Very graphic and bordering on abusive about the things he wanted to do to her. We called her parents and his parents and showed them the letter, and I told her to break up with him. I told her if a boy doesn't treat her with gentleness and respect then he isn't worthy of her time and attention.

She did break up with him, but I wish all girls understood their worth and would never tolerate any unkindness in words and actions from boys. If they stood strong in this boys would have to change because no girl would ever be with them, and boys will behave according to what girls will accept. If girls only understood how much power they have in boy-girl relationships, there would be no such thing as dating violence.
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ifquilt
03:41 PM on 03/30/2012
Stupid is as stupid does. *SMH An as# kicking would definitely be in order.
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jf12
When I saw her I marveled greatly.
02:36 PM on 03/30/2012
Poorly reported lazily collected erroneously analyzed data.
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01:51 PM on 03/30/2012
Not too early to date? I guess dating in a sandbox produces violence, too. "Dating violence which occurs between the ages of 11 and 14 is often referred to as "tween" dating violence. Race stratifies the experience of physical teen dating violence as well. The CDC (2006) found that among students experiencing physical dating violence, the prevalence among black females was 14.0% compared to 7.5% of whites and 9.2% for Hispanics. "