So you meet the man of your dreams, set up shop and make plans to grow old together. Then you find out that his plan does not include having children...ever.
Do you: a) run for the hills; b) give up your hopes of having a mini-me to call your own; or c) proceed with the marriage and then flush your contraception down the toilet so you can get pregnant anyway?
Last week's episode of Cafe Mom Studios' Coffee Shop Confessions took on the topic and, more broadly, the idea of lying to your spouse. The subject of debate? A mother who says that she stopped taking her birth control pills without her husband's knowledge (and against his will presumably) and is now expecting their third child.
"Talk about deceitful!" says Timberly Whitfield, who co-hosts the 10-part YouTube series with Andrew Shue of "Melrose Place" and co-founder of Do Something, Alex McCord of the "Real Housewives of New York," and actress and dancer Julie Knight.
An international survey conducted in 2009 revealed that spouses are most likely to mislead each other over their whereabouts, but most are far more scrupulous on matters related to sex, money and "the kids."
"I would say, if I were giving advice to her, number one: fess up," Whitfield tells the Huffington Post, and the mom in question (whose identity has been concealed for privacy). "I would think at this point, after a third child, she's already gotten what she wants. Now it's time to say to her husband 'Hey, look, I've been a little untruthful over the years...but this is it.' It may be that he says 'You know what, honey, I kind of figured that out...and he may just laugh about it," Whitfield says.
Upcoming confessions, which debut every Friday, include a mom who says she starts her day by flipping her daughter the bird and another who faked an identity on Facebook to try to catch her husband cheating.
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