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Amanda Dougherty, Junior At Catholic High School, Banned From Prom For Having No Date

Posted: 04/25/2012 10:43 am Updated: 04/25/2012 2:38 pm

Amanda Doughtery

If there wasn't enough pressure already to score the perfect date for prom, one Catholic high school in Pennsylvania took it a step further with a rule forbidding students from going to the dance solo.

Seventeen-year-old Amanda Dougherty was gearing up for the junior prom of her dreams, with her dress, shoes, accessories and date all ready for the big night. But when her date backed out at the last minute, her plans for the entire evening were thrown to the wind. Not only was she left dateless, but Amanda found out that she wasn't permitted to attend stag. School administrators at Archbishop John Carroll High School alerted her that a rule by the Archdiocese of Philadelphia banned students from attending the dance without a date.

Amanda expressed her frustration to CBS Philadelphia: "For them to say we're not good enough to go without a guy next to us, that's kind of sickening."

She had already bought her $95 ticket and spent an estimated $1,000 on her dress and accoutrements -- roughly the amount a Visa Survey projects that the average American family will devote to prom this year.

A statement from the office of Catholic Education addressed the rule with little explanation as to its rationale:

The prom is an exciting event for students in all of our Archdiocesan high schools. We do have policies in place to regulate both the junior and senior prom. Unfortunately, not all students are able to attend. We can’t address specific issues with specific students but there are various reasons that a student would not be able to attend. Not having a date is one example. Our high schools offer numerous dances and events throughout the year where dates are not required, but we view the prom as a special social event where a date is required to attend.

But despite the Archdiocese's mandate, Amanda is planning to fight for her right to attend the most exciting event of her high school career.

Amanda isn't the only student who has decided to take a less conventional approach to prom this year. An alternative Mormon prom was held in Southern California for students who wanted to have a more affordable and wholesome dating experience. And in the fashion department, high school senior Maura Pozek from Missouri decided to forgo the usual costly formalwear and red-carpet trends -- instead, she constructed her own prom dress out of cardboard.

Do you think the rule should be reversed so that single students can attend prom alone? Tell us in the comments below or tweet your reactions @HuffPostTeen!

Correction: Amanda Dougherty's name was initially misspelled in the headline. It has since been corrected.
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If there wasn't enough pressure already to score the perfect date for prom, one Catholic high school in Pennsylvania took it a step further with a rule forbidding students from going to the dance solo...
If there wasn't enough pressure already to score the perfect date for prom, one Catholic high school in Pennsylvania took it a step further with a rule forbidding students from going to the dance solo...
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hossrocks42
08:56 AM on 04/30/2012
did they give her a refund? because at the very LEAST they should pay for her ticket and dress...
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southingtonian
"I'm a Capricorn and you can't make me do sh*t.."
05:55 AM on 04/30/2012
the reason? Because they said so. another version of ruler-to-knuckles for nonconformity.
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imokit
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04:35 PM on 04/29/2012
I don't get it.
Surely the Catholic church should want people attending by themselves or in single sex groups. A couple is far more likely to have premartal after prom sex or simply dance in a way the church could construe to be inappropriate than a singleton or a group of friends.
Why does the church object to her going alone?
(Disclaimer - I'm stating the church's views on premarital sex, not necessarily my own)
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marrmae1
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02:23 PM on 04/29/2012
Sad. I've had my best times being solo at parties and dances rife with couples, and scoping out my next, ex girlfriends!!! Would be interesting to see what the school's definition of a "date" is? Perhaps she can bring a mannequin, just like some people do in the HOV lane here in Houston!!!
04:42 PM on 04/27/2012
That makes me sad, I don't understand the logic behind that decision.
What I find even more disturbing though is the amount it indicates she spent on her dress and accessories... and then a statement that this amount $1000 is about average? How can that be when you hear about how many people are unemployed and can't make their mortgage payments?
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Jessie Alex
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03:22 PM on 04/27/2012
Prom is a fun experience that you share with friends. Making memories and celebrating the end of your high school years. Since when did prom become a dating service?
11:44 AM on 04/27/2012
what if her date was a girl lol? would they take her then?
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06:47 AM on 04/30/2012
LOL or a poodle?!?!
11:44 AM on 04/27/2012
I thought the days of backing out at the last minute were over for good. So many law suits over this in the past few years. But setting that aside ... This is ridiculous!! There have always been people who go to the prom stag. Do we really want to teach our youth that they aren't included unless they have a date on their arm ? What would it hurt for her to go by herself? I think it's a strong statement for a girl to go to the prom alone. Stay strong Amanda ... lots of people are behind you... and NEVER think you have to have a man escort you anywhere... there is nothing wrong with being a strong and independent woman who goes to the party alone.
08:26 AM on 04/29/2012
You comment is right up there. I have trouble composing my comments but you did a great job!!
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hossrocks42
08:52 AM on 04/30/2012
my guess is if a guy showed up alone, they'd be like "yeah its all right."
10:24 AM on 04/27/2012
Ridiculous and demeaning. I support and encourage Amanda to continue the fight to attend HER prom, with or without a date.
12:51 AM on 04/27/2012
This school may want to consider how their "policy" is being portrayed to it's youth.

The message may be conceived by students as a notion that men and women are incapable of being independent of one another. Instead, the school should do a better job at teaching their students that they are worth just as much with a significant other as they are without one. We should all strive to be satisfied and happy, independently.

This particular female already suffered the disappointment of loosing her date for the special event, why then does the school (an institution that should be supportive of it's students) add salt to her wounds? With a BS in Psychology and a career in Behavioral Health, I know first hand that situations like these can be traumatic to young adults, causing them to feel rejected, alone and in extreme cases, suicidal. Unfortunately, not everyone copes in the same manner and schools should be more sensitive to these matters. Prom is considered a milestone by many High School students, signifying the closure of an era. Why must this celebration require a date?
12:29 AM on 04/27/2012
A zillion years ago, I was at Disneyland and wasn't allowed to dance alone or with my bff. We started to dance and security came over and said we couldn't dance without guys. I'm not making this up. I said, "You mean I have to pick up a guy to dance???" We were firmly escorted off the dance floor. I went back alone. No can do... again I was escorted off. I regret not suing Disneyland - not for the money but to end this kind of discrimination. I fully support - and want to encourage - Amanda for standing up for her rights.
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Jessie Alex
Take me to your leader!
03:28 PM on 04/27/2012
Thats just plain stupid. Prom isnt some dating service. And that's ridiculous about Disneyland. I wonder if they still have that policy....
11:44 PM on 04/26/2012
This is a denomination that adheres to the orders of a very old man, abuses children and covers it up, tells women how to live, and then tries to control who attends a prom. Henry VIII had the right idea...tell these control freaks to hit the road....WWJD! BTW...I am Episcopalian but begiining to think the whole organized religion thing is a big scam. These institutions are now politicized and used to promote the "conservative" fallacies of the 1950's. So many of these folks give religion a BAD name!! I would leave my name but crucifixion is such a messy way to go...or did they forget?
11:40 PM on 04/26/2012
what kind of horrible precedent are they trying to set - in this day and age for Pete's sake - that a girl cannot attend her prom without a date??? That's a RIDICULOUS thing for anyone to say about a school dance - I think it violates her rights as a student to not be able to attend something she was allowed to buy a ticket for. They should be ashamed of themselves for even ATTEMPTING to justify this. What a crock. I think the students should band together and protest it and I think the parents should take further steps against this.
11:36 PM on 04/26/2012
As a graduate of a Catholic High School in Philadelphia, PA, I am appalled to read that a junior at Archbishop Carroll in Philly barred a female student from attending HER prom because she chose to go as a single person. What an atrocity!!! What knucklehead at the Archdiocese made up such a ruidiculous policy? When will the Catholic Church come into the 21st Century? And, the silliest part of all this is that while the numbers of practicing Catholics continues to dwindle, the Church continues to wonder why!!! Please, please, drop all the pompous attitude held by the higher ups in the Church and join civilization as it progresses, not regresses by such stupid "rules" as this one.
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demforpeace55
11:20 PM on 04/26/2012
How ridiculous can the Catholic schools be. They need to get with the times. I went to my Junior and Senior Proms with dates and the guys showed their true colors..they were jerks. When my kids were in high school, that rule was changed and many kids went with a group of friends and probably had a much better time than I did , without the pressure of going with someone they really didn't want to be with, just because it was a "couples only" event. Some young people are late bloomers, and feel more comfortable just hanging out in a crowd. This is a great way to exclude kids who do not have a boyfriend/girlfriend, or have not been asked or are too shy to ask someone to go to the prom with them. I think it's insensitive to exclude anyone from enjoying this rite of passage, if it'[s something they would wish to attend, if only they had a date.