Brides and grooms will pay thousands of dollars for a professional photographer to capture their Big Days. The photographer snaps pictures at all the right moments: the kiss, the bouquet toss, the first dance.
Meanwhile, Uncle Bill is taking photo after drunken photo of the not-so-perfect moments, and you don't know about it until those pictures show up on Facebook.
More than 60 percent of brides surveyed said they were unhappy with their appearance in the pictures, and more than 75 percent said that photos of their weddings hit the web without their knowledge.
But some brides don't mind. In fact, some couples encourage their guests to snap away throughout their nuptials. In June, New York City bride Caroline Waxler created a hashtag for her wedding, and asked guests to use it when posting or uploading photos of the wedding from their phones. The hashtagged photos automatically populated to the couple's wedding website, allowing the newlyweds to see their ceremony and reception through their guests' eyes.
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Brides and grooms will pay thousands of dollars for a professional photographer to capture their Big Days. The photographer snaps pictures at all the right moments: the kiss, the bouquet toss, the fir...
Brides and grooms will pay thousands of dollars for a professional photographer to capture their Big Days. The photographer snaps pictures at all the right moments: the kiss, the bouquet toss, the fir...
This is kind of like the 25 things on facebook, but I figured you didn't want to know 25 more things about me (plus, there's no way I could think of more). Except on this survey there are pre-decided questions and it's about you and your spouse, not just you. Come on, play along - inquiring minds want to know! :)
I will say that I think it's pretty classless to post pictures of the bride (or the bride and groom if they do pictures before the ceremony) before the actual ceremony happens.
People with their cameraphones are trying to emulate reckless journalists, trying to out-scoop everyone, which is pretty pathetic.
No one wants to wait to see something that they're currently seeing, they want to see the picture now. I was shooting an event recently and a preschooler kept bugging me to show them the picture right then, which just seems weird as someone who grew up in the film era. If I'm actually shooting (and not taking snapshots) I really want to review and process my pictures before they're shared so I can convey my best possible work, as well as get the spirit of the event in a collection, rather than a snapshot on a 3" LCD on the back of a camera.
slugsgomoo: I will say that I think it's pretty classless to
She was a brunett then she changed her hair blonde marylynn monroe made blondes
more popular.I met someone in Ft Lauderdale Fl who met monroe when she was filming
In New York by the waterfalls!!He was 14 when he met her.Monroe had a sense of humour
she gave him the bus boy a snuggy when he was a bus boy.She made him spill spaghettie
all over some clients she talked to his boss at the time stated to his boss please dont fire
him I made him spill that all over everyone.The bus boy came out GOOD MONROE gave
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deniseonpatrol: She was a brunett then she changed her hair blonde
there's wedding photo sharing apps out there now that somewhat give more control back to the bride and groom on how their wedding photos are shared. (WedPics, USnap, MarryMerry, etc). Guess the apps keep the photos in a more controlled network as opposed to just letting them run wild on FB, etc.
MarcieJHunter: there's wedding photo sharing apps out there now that somewhat
actually i had a thought about it but its not only bride but groom also angry...it happens very often that persons who are getting married take some time to post their official photos..and in the meantime wedding guest choose to become spoilers. i will never do it.
Nishant_Varma: actually i had a thought about it but its not
Is it really a spoiler, though? Is the internet going to be shocked that they actually said "I do"?
I was always under the impression that posting the pictures is a good thing. Then the bride and groom CAN take their time uploading their own pictures, while everyone else can continue the celebration. I see no reason not to post pictures once the happy day has passed, and no reason to dampen the beginning of a happy life together by being upset over something so silly, with such good intentions.
tbm126: Is it really a spoiler, though? Is the internet going
no...what i mean to say is official photos are special in the sense they are taken by a professional photographer...so all other guest photos would defiantly be a spoiler...and when the married couple decides to post photos...and the back of the mind they would have a thought that their friends have already seen it...how would they feel.think about it.i think guest should wait few days.
Nishant_Varma: no...what i mean to say is official photos are special
As a wedding photographer, I can't tell you how many people are relieved when they collect the pro pics 1 week after the wedding. If all they have seen which are phone snaps uploaded to fb, they stress that their pics will all look like their friends do. Don't get me wrong, we are in 100% support of friends taking pics as you can never have too many and we can't be everywhere at once, however, when posting to social media, best ensure privacy settings are to friends only, not public, and personally, Ill always post a few pics immediately to the bride with privacy to the B/G only and allow them to make the choice to publish. If the B/G wants no pics they should make that known up front, but in the most case, its a situation where guests and friends are genuinely sharing their joy and excitement for the couple.
Kerry_Beever: As a wedding photographer, I can't tell you how many
Please, my husband and I went to Vegas with our family and friends...got married and had a 2 day party with all of the best pictures taken by all of us during some of the most ridiculous and fun times during our party-filled wedding weekend. We didn't want some big extravagant wedding so we took the money and club-hopped that entire weekend with the people we loved. If a bride has a fit about quirky pictures being posted on social media sites because she wants everything to be "perfect" then she's got another thing coming once she's been married for a while. Some of the best things in life are that way because of their imperfections. By-the-way, our little imperfect quicky wedding has resulted in a great 20 plus years marriage. Just sayin'.
syds180turn: Please, my husband and I went to Vegas with our
Get over it, it's a fact of life. People have cell phones and this is what they do. I wonder how many of these upset brides have done the same thing at another woman's wedding. This is a non-story. Get over yourselves and your perfect weddings... half of you won't even be married to the same person in 20 years. So much for your perfect day and your perfect lives.
thewaterboyh2o: Get over it, it's a fact of life. People have
Weddings are community events, brides need to stop trying to art direct every moment of their ceremony and reception. The marriage is much more important than the wedding. If you can't stand the thought of "imperfect" moments at your wedding, how are you going to deal with someone who leaves the cap off the toothpaste and throws their socks on the floor? I love the idea of inviting guests to post their photos, with a hashtag – you get to see your wedding from their eyes. I think it's better to own the awkward moments than try to control your image so strictly.
venus_k: Weddings are community events, brides need to stop trying to
While I completely agree that there is no reason to fuss over such a small thing, I have to disagree on one point: A wedding is not a community event.
A wedding is a private part, held to celebrate a deeply personal event. (Excepting of course the ceremony, as it takes place in a public church/courthouse.)
Svataben: While I completely agree that there is no reason to
Community in the "community of friends and family" sense – not "public". The whole point of most wedding ceremonies is inviting your personal community of people to witness your marriage.
venus_k: Community in the "community of friends and family" sense –
A wedding is a small community event. It is a chance for your loved ones to gather and celebrate your love. It is about the bride and groom, but not limited to them.
The honeymoon is the private affair.
tbm126: A wedding is a small community event. It is a
Well, I married before all this became such a thing. But we purchased a ton of those disposable camera's and put a couple on each table and encourged everyone to use them, liberally. Those intimate photo's were the best of our entire experience. Especially the ones by the kids, who ran around and told everyone to smile as they clicked away. We weren't able to develope them until after our Honeymoon and it was just like being there again. To see, what they saw. AND to see what we missed. I'd say post away.
Fadari: Well, I married before all this became such a thing.
Wow. I can see where a bride in particular, spending $1000's to look perfect on her big day, might be ruffled if a less than perfect image shows up on Facebook. I've posted shots of weddings I've attended but made damn sure that everyone looked great in the images.
Edwina_Owens_Elliott: Wow. I can see where a bride in particular, spending
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Posted: 07/20/2012 5:32 pm Updated: 07/20/2012 5:45 pm