Most couples wait only a date or two to kiss but quite a few more before dropping the three-word “L-Bomb.” Now a survey of 100,000 people has revealed how many dates, on average, it takes people to utter those three little words, the Daily Mail reports. 100,000 -- sounds like a pretty large sample, right? There's just one catch. The survey was conducted by SeekingArrangement.com -- a well-known “Sugar Daddy” dating site.
The survey yielded the following findings about dating habits and milestones:
• Most couples go on about two dates per week.
• The majority of people surveyed reported having their first kiss on the first or second date.
• The average number of dates that couples went on before having sex was four.
• The average number of dates that couples went on before saying “I love you” was 14 -- about seven weeks into a relationship.
• Moving in happens after 30 dates, on average.
The problem is that SeekingArrangement not only conducted the survey, it polled only its members. Thus the results pertain only to the kinds of relationships SeekingArrangement is designed to foster, those with a financial component.
The site essentially matches individuals whom they describe as “Sugar Daddies” and “Sugar Mommies” -- rich (mostly) men who are looking for a younger “companion” -- with “Sugar Babies,” physically attractive young men and women who are looking for a relationship that includes financial perks and gifts. According to the SeekingArrangement blog, the average Sugar Daddy is 39 years old, straight and makes over $260,000 per year with a net worth of around $5.6 million.
In July 2011, The Huffington Post reported that college students, predominantly young women, were using the website as a way to pay off loans and tuition bills. Although legally it’s a gray area, SeekingArrangement’s founder, Brandon Wade, insists that Sugar Daddy-Sugar Baby relationships are not prostitution. “There is chemistry involved in these relationships,” Wade told the Wall Street Journal in August 2011. “It’s not a one-time exchange of money for sex … After a relationship forms, sex becomes part of the relationship.”
If you do happen to enter into one of these "arrangements," just remember: Don’t say “I love you” on the first date. “The one hard and fast rule I urge all members to stick to is never to use it on the first date! That is sure to spook a new partner,” Wade told the Daily Mail. You know, if the totally-not-but-really-sort-of prostitution aspect doesn't.