By Christina Steinorth for

You would be surprised how many women going through divorces tell me they knew they were making a mistake when they walked down the aisle — in more recent headlines, Kim Kardashian even shared this similar sentiment. Below are five warning signs you may want to consider before saying "I do."

1. You don't get along with his family. Many couples go through with weddings hoping all the family stuff will "just work out." Don't fall into this trap because it seldom does. In fact, issues with in-laws tend to get worse over time — especially when babies come along. If his family is causing a problem in your relationship before you're married, you may want to give serious thought to calling off your wedding.

2. You've dated for less than a year. Most people are on their best behavior for the first twelve months of a relationship. After that, people tend to let their guard down a little bit and you get to see what a person is really like. This is important because ideally when you get married, you will be spending the rest of your lives together — you will need to know if your partner is someone you can live with on a day-to-day, long-term basis after the honeymoon phase of your relationship is over.

3. You haven't come to an agreement about kids, careers and other fundamental issues. So many couples get caught up in wedding planning, that they forget to talk about the fundamental issues of sharing a life together.
Will you have kids? How many? What religion will you raise your children? Where will you live? Will one of you be a stay at home parent? How will holidays be handled? How will housework be divided?

Couples should spend at least as much time paying attention to the details of their lives together as they do to the details of their weddings. If you can't come to an agreement to these types of fundamental issues before your marriage, you should consider calling off your wedding until you reach a mutually acceptable agreement on the details of your lives together.

4. You lack conflict resolution skills. A lot of couples write off arguments before a wedding as "wedding day jitters," but the truth of the matter is that if you have horrendous arguments and fights with your partner and nothing ever seems to get resolved, you may want to consider calling off your wedding until the two of you work on your conflict resolution skills. Long-term relationships require good conflict resolution skills and the good news is that they can be learned if both couples are committed to doing so.

5. Your gut feeling is telling you to call it off. We have gut feelings for a reason and where most of us get into trouble is when we don't listen to them. If your gut feeling is telling you to call of your wedding, it's probably a good idea to listen to that feeling and at the very least postpone your wedding until the feeling goes away. If you are meant to be together, that current gut feeling that is telling you "don't do it," will eventually pass.

Christina Steinorth, MA, MFT is a private practice Psychotherapist and the Author of "Cue Cards for Life: Thoughtful Tips for Better Relationships." You can pre-order her book here.

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Click through the slideshow below to test your knowledge of celebs who called off their weddings.

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  • QUESTION: Which singer said that her wedding plans were "moving a little too fast" before she called off the wedding completely?

    A) Jennifer Lopez B) Christina Aguilera C) Kelly Rowland D) Aretha Franklin

  • Aretha Franklin

    Just 20 days after singer Aretha Franklin <a href=",,20557913,00.html" target="_hplink">announced</a> that she planned to marry friend William "Willie" Wilkerson, <a href=",,20563887,00.html" target="_hplink">she called the entire thing off</a>. Franklin, who got engaged in January 2012, released a statement a couple of weeks later: "Will and I have decided we were moving a little too fast, and there were a number of things that had not been thought through thoroughly. There will be no wedding at this time."

  • QUESTION: Which actress broke off her engagement with actor Kiefer Sutherland and ran away with his friend, Jason Patric?

    A) Gwyneth Paltrow B) Drew Barrymore C) Julia Roberts D) Jennifer Lopez

  • Julia Roberts

    Believe it or not, actress Julia Roberts <a href=",,20115436,00.html" target="_hplink">was once engaged</a> to actor Kiefer Sutherland -- but only briefly. Roberts, who was 23-years-old at the time, backed out of the engagement <a href="!image-number=3" target="_hplink">just three days</a> before the lavish June 1991 wedding. The actress was <a href=",,20115436,00.html" target="_hplink">later seen</a> in Dublin, Ireland, with actor Jason Patric -- with no engagement ring in sight.

  • QUESTION: Which star called it quits with Brad Pitt after dating him for two-and-a-half years?

    A) Scarlett Johansson B) Gwyneth Paltrow C) Jennifer Aniston D) Jennifer Garner

  • Gwyneth Paltrow

    Before Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie became Brangelina, there was Gwyneth Paltrow. Pitt and Paltrow <a href=",,20122540,00.html" target="_hplink">dated for two-and-a-half years</a> and were engaged for six months before the actress decided that she wasn't ready for marriage in 1997, <a href="!image-number=1" target="_hplink"> according to <em>Glamour.</em>

  • QUESTION: Which celeb revealed to the public that she would no longer be getting married, just five months after her engagement?

    A) Linda Hogan B) Kaley Cuoco C) Reese Witherspoon D) Jessica Simpson

  • Kaley Cuoco

    In March 2012, <em>The Big Bang Theory</em> star Kaley Cuoco <a href=",,20575469,00.html" target="_hplink">casually announced</a> that she had would not be marrying Josh 'Lazie' Resnik, just months after she broke the news of her engagement in October 2011. The actress <a href="" target="_hplink">told <em>Entertainment Tonight</em></a>: "I'm not engaged anymore," but did not elaborate.