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Friendship Custody: Is There a Right Way to Split Mutual Friends After Divorce?

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Divorcing couples face the challenge of splitting up assets like money and the home. But mutual friends are not likely written in the prenup. Mike Sacks hosted a HuffPost Live segment that explores how couples have utilized their mutual friends as an emotional support base during divorce without driving them away.

Sounding off about your ex to friends was central to the conversation. In the blog post that inspired this segment, Christina Pesoli warns that drawing toxic war lines can come at the cost of friendships.

“While you don't have much say over which friends you get to keep after your divorce, you do have the power to drive friends away. Just try launching a campaign to convince them how terrible your ex is and see how fast your cell phone stops ringing.”

But blogger Tracey Schorn argues that some friends will choose sides on their own. “I think infidelity changes the friend game a bit. I don’t think you should be a pity vampire,” she says. “But I think it’s okay to say the truth without editorializing it.”

Joining Mike Sacks along with Pesoli and Schorn to explore this sticky area of divorce are Ed Housewright, founder of SingleDadHouse.com, Michael Solomon, author of "Now It's Funny: How I Survived Cancer, Divorce and Other Looming Disasters,” Nan Cohen, radio talk show host and the author of "Dealing With Divorce: Reality Revealed.”

Watch the full segment at HuffPost Live.