Huff Post Live recently tackled the topic of midlife sex, based on a blog post by Marcy Miller, who wrote about being fixed up with a man named Fred described as the "catch of the century." After the third date, Fred told her that when in a relationship, "he expected to have sex 300 times a year," and this was why he had recently broken up with his fiancee.
The panel included Huff/Post50 blogger Ken Solin; Eleanore Wells, who blogs at The Spinsterlicious Life; friends Rick Voyer and Mary Jo Fay, who are in a meet-up group together in Denver; and intuitive Terri Jay.
Ken Solin said honesty is the best policy in an awkward sex conversation. "It's about emotional honesty," said Solin. "All she had to say is, 'I'm uncomfortable with this conversation. And I think I'd like to have it but not at this time. If it's important for you to talk about sex on our third date, maybe this is not going to work out.'
"I'm having the best sex I've ever had in my 67 years," Solin added.
Terri Jay said sexual compatibility is key. "I would like that guy's number truthfully," she said, "because I have run into dating guys who are in their late 60s and it's like, 'oh that's not ever going to happen' and it's like, 'no thank you that's not what I'm interested in, I want the whole package.'"
Eleanore Wells appreciated Fred's honesty early in the relationship, noting that she doesn't waste time dating the wrong person anymore. "I'm definitely better at dating and knowing when to move on as I've gotten older," said Wells. "The beauty of having dated for a long time is you sort of learn yourself and ... what works in relationships and what doesn't. So I don't spend a whole lot of time on stupid things anymore because I don't have that fantasy that I can fix it anymore."
Check out the video above for the full discussion.