Unfortunately, a lot of medications can alter your sex drive. Love and relationship expert Dr. Pepper Schwartz told me which medications can lower your sexual desire when we met on Mondays With Marlo. If you aren't on libidio-decreasing meds, Dr. Schwartz recommended visiting an endocrinologist to make sure everything is functioning correctly. If all goes well there, the next step would be visiting a psychologist.
And for more fantastic advice from Dr. Pepper Schwartz, see her tips on sex, dating and relationships:
Foreplay Doesn't Just Start In The Bedroom
Foreplay begins hours before a couple gets in bed. Flirt with your partner and do little things to build up their sexual excitement. By the time you hit the bed, you won't be able to keep your hands off each other!
Get To Know Someone Before Committing
If you meet someone who seems heaven-sent and they want a quick commitment and marriage, slow things down and be very careful. Most people are what they say are -- but some are dangerous sociopaths. Take a lot of time to get to know someone before making a serious commitment.
Initiate Physical Contact With Your Partner
All relationships do better with more touching, hugging and hand-holding. These simple displays of affection will strengthen the bond between you and your partner, and serve as a physical reminder of your emotional connection.
Use Lubrication For Better Sex
Sex can be painful if the vagina isn’t lubricated enough. Vaginal dryness can be addressed by a topical estrogen (approved by most physicians), a lubricant (Pink, Pur and Eros are good ones) or a vaginal moisturizer that plumps up the tissues (Replens). Causes range from depleted estrogen in peri-menopause or menopause to the impact of birth control medicines or anti-histamines and anti-allergenic drugs.
Communicate During Sex
When you are making love, communicate. Tell your partner what you like; when it's perfect and when it's not quite right. Ask them to tell you their preferences too. It may feel weird at first, but the payoff will be huge.
Give Online Dating A Chance
Don’t give up on online dating if you encounter a few (or many) people who turn out to be completely wrong for you. Sooner or later, the law of large numbers may work in your favor, and you could meet someone you can love.
Be Adventurous In The Bedroom
Sex is boring if you use the same efficient way to satisfy each other every time. Change up your routine by making love in a new place or at a different time of day. Try incorporating sex toys into your lovemaking. Be playful -- read a sexy book together or try a blindfold.
Prepare Yourself To Date
Before dating, have a friend comment truthfully on how ready you are to put yourself out there. Are you too needy or too defensive? Don't start dating until you have an open heart.
Be Honest From The Start
If you have something important to disclose to your dates, tell them right away. Honesty is the best policy in dating. Otherwise, the relationship is founded on quicksand.
Always Have Safe Sex
Sex is a great thing, but you should always be cautious and use protection. Condoms are the only way to prevent transmission of sexually transmitted infections. Don’t dismiss condoms as something that deflects from the pleasure of the act. The new ones are sexy, thin (sometimes you can't even feel them) and definitely worth using.
Try Using A Vibrator
Amp up your sex life by experimenting with a vibrator. Sex and orgasms can be increased in pleasure by using a vibrator during love making.
Set Your Boundaries
Don't let your partner walk all over you. If someone insults you, tell them that you refuse to be treated that way. Compromise with your partner during civil disagreements, but don't always let them have their way. If an argument becomes too heated, just walk away or leave and take some time to cool off.
Spend Quality Time Together
Quality and quantity time are linked. Spend focused time together -- don't be two ships passing in the night and in the mornings. Spend a weekend together every now and then, and if that isn't possible, at least take date nights.
Share Your Fantasies
If you have a sexual fantasy, don't keep it to yourself. Your partner might have the same fantasy, or may take great pleasure in helping you fulfill yours.
Kiss every day -- morning and night. It may seem like a small act, but it will bring you and your partner closer together.
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