Actress Jane Kaczmarek, who recently appeared in an episode of web series "Ruth and Erica," has moved on from her 2009 divorce from actor Bradley Whitford. She joined the hosts of "The Talk" Thursday and gamely answered a question about dating after the split.
"I was 36 when I got married. I was so focused on, you wanted a husband and you wanted a house and you wanted children," Kaczmarek said, punctuating each life milestone with a clap. "I've had all those things now."
Now that she's 56, Kaczmarek says she wants different things from a potential companion.
"The list really changes!" she told the ladies of "The Talk."
What is on that list now? Watch the video above to hear Jane Kaczmarek dish on what she loves about her new boyfriend.
Are You A Couple?
Nothing wrong with being cautious and slow. Before you tell your adult children that you are dating again (or make a big deal about someone specific), make sure that the two of you are a couple. Ask yourself whether you feel serious about this person. You don't want to get your adult children involved, attached, or concerned when it's not necessary.
This Person Makes Me Happy
If you want to win over your adult children, just tell them that this new partner makes you happy. How can your children have a problem with that? Remember that your kids want to make sure it's someone who cares about you and is trustworthy, because children of all ages don't want their parents to get hurt. Also, many adult children are concerned that a new partner will "financially" and "emotionally" take advantage of their parent. Keep these two concerns in mind when you talk to your adult children. <em>Flickr photo via: <a href="http://www.flickr.com/photos/kunnikun/6066495374/" target="_hplink">Kunni Kun</a>.</em>
Give Your New Partner The "Scoop" On Everyone
The more information your new partner has before they meet your adult children, the better. Don't fear telling your partner too much. The more information they have about your adult children the easier it will be for them to ask questions, seem interested, and join the conversation. <em>Flickr photo via: <a href="http://www.flickr.com/photos/primejunta/177183202/" target="_hplink">Petteri Sulonen</a>.</em>
Act Like A Couple When You Do Meet
It is important that your adult children observe the two of you sharing responsibilities and enjoying each other's company. A great idea: getting together for a meal - have the partner and adult children meet over dinner or lunch! At the dinner, if you cook the turkey, have your partner make the mashed potatoes. If he doesn't cook, have him set the table. Work together as a team. <em>Flickr photo by: <a href="http://www.flickr.com/photos/hurtubia/6111823941/" target="_hplink">rhurtubia</a>.</em>
Talk To Adult Children With An Open Mind
No matter their age, explain why you're dating again, that no one will ever replace their other parent, and now that they are older - you too need companionship. Don't dismiss their concerns - instead, if you validate their concerns, they won't get defensive. If you say instead: "I understand that you are worried about me and you're not sure this is right for me. I hear you. I promise you, I will come and let you know if anything doesn't feel right to me about this person. I won't hesitate to let you know. But, right now - he makes me happy. I enjoy his company and I am being cautious, slow and safe."