A 97-year-old bride and her 86-year-old groom are proving that when it comes to love, age ain't nothin' but a number.
The New York Times reported Sunday that Ada Bryant, 97, and Robert Haire, 86, got married on Saturday, five years after they met at their Delaware retirement home.
Haire and Bryant began going to meals together in 2011, four months after Haire's wife Jean died. In January 2012 Haire slipped a poem declaring his love for Bryant under her door. The following Valentine's Day, Haire gave Bryant a sapphire he hoped to have turned into an engagement ring. Bryant declined his proposal, but the two continued their courtship anyway.
In August 2012, Bryant finally accepted Haire's proposal. She said she didn't want to get married at first because she doesn't have that many years ahead of her.
“But he said, ‘That’s all the more reason,’" Bryant told The Times. "I like him very much. I love him. So we’re going to be married.”
Click through the slideshow below for five ways post-50s can improve their sex lives.
It's Not Over
Everything in our culture makes people, and women in particular, feel that after the age of 40, they're no longer sexually attractive, and this belief gets internalized. But researcher Gina Ogden, in conducting her famed Isis study (a national survey of sexuality and spirituality), found that women in their 60s and 70s were having the best sex of their lives -- people need to understand that the brain is the most important sex organ in the body!
Hardware vs. Software
Men and women get into sexual patterns in their teens, 20s and 30s that never change. So in recognizing this, we need to say, "the hardware is going to stay the same, but we can update the software." And you can update the software by trying different things, but mostly by getting to know yourself.
Practice, Practice, Practice
If your body is an instrument, then you're only going to get better by practicing. And quite frankly, from a health standpoint, there isn't a better use of your time. Men take erection-enhancing drugs to increase nitric oxide in the penile blood vessels, but they can increase nitric oxide themselves by improving their sex lives either on their own or with a partner. Orgasms trigger a huge burst of nitric oxide, which balances the neurotransmitters in your body -- the same neurotransmitters that people take drugs to balance. It's a shame because antidepressants lower one's ability for full sexual expression, so the one thing that could really decrease depression is the one thing that the drugs quiet down. People don't realize that you can turn on chemicals in your own body without importing unnatural drugs to do it for you.
If you're fit, you're much more likely to have a satisfying sex life. Being and feeling healthy and being and feeling sexy are synonymous. I just spoke to a 70-year-old friend of mine -- a total fox -- who's trying his luck on eHarmony. So we talked about what people in his demographic are looking for, and we both agreed -- health! When you're healthy and your hardware is working the best it can, you can focus on downloading new software.
Take Your Time
Women need to understand that they are far more complicated sexually than men are. For men, the focus is in the genitals. But with women, sex is like a martial art, and women need to master that art and have the ability to move sexual energy around, manipulate sounds and focus on certain areas. The beauty of being over 50 is that you have more time to practice this. Women need 45 minutes to get fully turned-on. Do you know how long the average couple spends making love? 15 minutes. Slow down! Take time!
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