“It was relationship advice,” she tells Oprah. “[A girlfriend said], 'Any time you feel like hitting them or killing them or you’re mad, just do the exact opposite and just love at them, just kiss on them,'” Handler says. “...And then that air is taken out of that situation, and then the next day, you can talk about the situation in a normal, calm fashion."
"Have you been able to do it?" asks Oprah.
"Yes," says Handler. "It’s not easy to do, but I’ve tried it and it does work."
In the clip, Handler also talks to Oprah about being in her “first adult relationship" -- and her efforts to balance her love life and her career. "That's my biggest struggle, is maintaining a personal romantic relationship," she says. "It takes a lot of effort."