04/12/2013 04:36 pm ET

Cheaters Deserve Compassion, Says Author Wendy Plump (VIDEO)

Should we have compassion for cheaters?

Yes, according to HuffPost blogger Wendy Plump, the author of "Vow: A Memoir of Marriage (And Other Affairs)." In an appearance on HuffPost Live this week, Plump -- who admits to having been both the cheater and the scorned spouse -- asked that we don't judge those who stray quite as harshly.

"People who have had affairs are not necessarily devils, and perhaps deserve a little more compassion than we as a society, we as a culture give them," she said. "I understand that infidelity is extremely provocative and it's a difficult subject for many people, but since it happens so much it seems to me that a more measured approach, a more measured response to it might be a better way."

But some readers don't agree. In response to her HuffPost blog on the same subject published last month, Plump received scores of negative comments, and even a death threat.

"Somebody from Texas suggested that I come down to Texas and see what they do to women who cheat and was sort of a thinly veiled death threat," she said on HuffPost Live. "Not what I was expecting but that kind of thought is out there."

Watch the video above for more on Plump's take, then click through the slideshow below for what readers suggest you should say to a spouse after cheating:

What Should You Say To A Spouse That You've Cheated On?

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