The Pace sisters are a religious bunch. They were raised in a strict Pentecostal family, sing gospel professionally and have traveled the country for 15 years sharing their love of God through song. Yet each of these Pace sisters carries with her a burden that has weighed her down both emotionally and physically. For DeJuaii, it is her homosexuality. As a gay woman in a religious family, she says she feels misunderstood by her sisters and has allowed her struggles to manifest physically through her weight.
In this clip from "Iyanla: Fix My Life," Iyanla Vanzant travels to Atlanta, Georgia to help the Pace sisters address their burdens. She focuses on DeJuaii and the woman's battle with her sexuality -- and how it conflicts with her religious teachings, creating an anger that DeJuaii has been trying to make sense of herself.
"I'm angry because I feel that my attraction to other women is wrong," DeJuaii says in the clip, as her sister June becomes visibly uncomfortable. "That who I am is unacceptable because it embarrasses the family."
At this point, June has stood up and walked away from the rest of her sisters. Iyanla asks her to rejoin the group, but June refuses. When Iyanla asks her why, June stands firm with her hands on her hips and responds, "I mean, we know better."
"What you need to understand is what that look, that energy, that vibration does to your sister," Iyanla tells June.
"And this is because I don't want my sister to miss out," June says, frustrated.
"That is not a godly energy you're giving off now!" Iyanla insists. "I don't understand being so saturated in a dogma and a theology that you would not embrace your sister in her deepest need and pain... I just want you to be mindful of how your energy hurts her."
"I don't want to hurt her," June whispers tearfully.
"That means you've got to let God judge her. Not you," Iyanla says.