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Intimacy Intervention: ‘We're Newlyweds, But We're Not Having Sex'

06/17/2013 02:17 pm ET | Updated Jun 17, 2013
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Dear Abiola,

I feel like my husband is not sexually attracted to me and I know it’s not because he's cheating. I am a newlywed but it feel like we have been married for years, even though it’s only been seven months.

We have both been stressed about financial issues. It really bothers him that he can't give me the world and that we didn't get a honeymoon, but I have told him I'm okay as long as we work through this together.

As the financial issues bother him more and more, the sex fades. He can go weeks and sometimes months without touching me. I'm constantly asking for sex. I feel as if I'm putting too much pressure on him, so I have stopped asking, but I'm not happy.

I love my husband and I know he is stressed about not being able to provide for the family but how do I get him interested? I'm tired of feeling unwanted.

Signed,
Lonely Wife

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