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08/12/2013 05:35 pm ET Updated Aug 16, 2013

What Is Cheating? Is It Looking At Someone Other Than Your Spouse? Readers Weigh In

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Does checking out another man or woman constitute cheating?

That's the question Boston Globe advice columnist Meredith Goldstein mulled over Monday, after a reader wrote in asking if she should let it slide when her boyfriend checks out another woman in front of her.

"I don't want to assume every guy is a cheating dog, but I also don't want to be with a man who is drooling over other females while I am sitting across from him at dinner," the woman wrote. "It is safe to say that when you look, you touch, and when you touch, you cheat?"

Goldstein's take? As long as it doesn't happen too frequently, looking is usually just looking.

"If this happens every now and then when a pretty woman walks by, don't freak out -- and don't make any assumptions about what the looking means about your boyfriend's feelings for you," Goldstein said. "If his looking is gratuitous, you can ask him to cut it out and to be more conscious of his behavior. But leave it there. Tell him how you feel, but don't jump to conclusions. You're better off asking him what the looking means than deciding for him."

After reading Goldstein's advice, we were curious to know what our readers thought: Would you consider it a subtle form of cheating if your significant other checked out another man or woman?

Click through the slides below to see their answers, then head to the comments and weigh in with your thoughts.

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