Dr. Phil's 'Sweet 16' Rules For Winning In The Real World (VIDEO)

08/30/2013 08:56 am ET | Updated Sep 04, 2013
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Dr. Phil McGraw says there are 16 rules for winning in the real world -- and they hold the secret to creating the life you want. In this video from "Oprah's Lifeclass," Dr. Phil runs through the "Sweet 16" from his book, Life Code, and explains why it's so important to get to know one's true self.

Dr. Phil's Sweet 16:

1. Defined image
2. Perception of uniqueness
3. Play "big"
4. Accept praise
5. Become essential
6. Know your real currency
7. Always have a plan
8. Keep things "close to the vest"
9. Investigatory mode
10. Behave your way to success
11. Keep options open
12. Master the system
13. Nucleus of supporters
14. Deal only with truth
15. Use others' ego
16. Pick your battles

In the video, Dr. Phil points to the first of his 16 rules, "Defined image."

"You've got to find out who you are," he says. "When you hear 'Dr. Phil,' you may love me or you may hate me. You may think I'm a barbarian, or the second-coming of common sense. But you won't confuse me with anybody else, right? You've got to have that, or you don't know who you're presenting to the world."

Number five, "Become essential," is another important point. At work or in your personal life, "you don't want to be a face in the crowd," Dr. Phil says.

He also calls attention to number seven, "Always have a plan." The difference between a dream and a goal, Dr. Phil explains, is having a timeline. "If you don't have a plan for getting from where you are to where you want to go, then you don't have a timeline," he says. "And if you don't have a timeline, you have a dream. Dreams are just that – they don't happen, you just dream about them. You've got to have a plan."

"Oprah's Lifeclass" is all-new beginning September 8 at 9 p.m. E.T. on OWN.

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