What should you do when your spouse embarrasses you in public? And what makes their behavior so humiliating at times?
And in a segment for WSJLive, Bernstein elaborated on why we're so sensitive to our spouses' public actions.
"The first reason is we feel for them; if they embarrass themselves, we love these people and we feel badly for them," she said. "But the larger reason it turns out is that they represent us. We feel embarrassed for ourselves because we start thinking, 'Are people wondering how did I marry this person? How do I put up with this clown?'"
So how should you respond to embarrassing behavior?
"Start by asking: Is it really that bad? Remember, everyone's partner eventually says or does something humiliating. And most of the time, we are way more self-conscious about our spouse's foibles than others are," Bernstein writes.
Check out the segment above to hear more from Bernstein, and for a particularly embarrassing story that she highlights in her piece. Then, click through the slideshow below for embarrassing celebrity TMI moments.
"Some people are more experimental in bed and others are more boring. If you are wild and crazy, bring it on so the other person is well aware that you have little devil horns that come out every once in a while," <a href="http://www.marieclaire.com/celebrity-lifestyle/celebrities/heidi-klum-feature?click=pp">Klum said in an interview with Marie Claire</a>. "It's good to make an effort to dress up sometimes, to do things outside of the norm."
Three weeks before winning big at the Oscars, Lawrence went on "Jimmy Kimmel Live" and talked about her boobs. "I just went to the doctor today, I got a chest X-ray of my lungs and discovered that my breasts are uneven," she said of her experience with pneumonia. "That was all I saw ... I was like standing there with these doctors and they're like looking at my lungs and I just couldn't -- it felt like an elephant in the room -- and I was like, 'Are my breasts uneven?' And they were just kind of, like, stifled and uncomfortable, obviously. So I kept thinking, 'Well, I'm gonna dig myself out of this hole by bringing it up again.' So he was like, 'All right, our radiologist will get back to you about your lungs.' And I was like, 'And my breasts.'"
Tyson <a href="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/01/29/mike-tyson-brad-pitt-robin-givens_n_2575537.html">spoke with HuffPost Live</a> about the time he caught ex-wife Robin Givens in a compromising position with Brad Pitt. "They pulled up in her car, I knew it was her car because I paid for it. She pulled over and I see this little grayish silhouette in the passenger seat. So I'm thinking it's one of her white girlfriends from that whack show the 'Head of the Class.' And as they get closer, I know it's not a white girl from 'Head of the Class,' it's some white guy that she's probably giving head to. Alright? So when they get closer ... they see me, but Brad must have been smoking a joint or he must have been drinking or something because he was real close to me in the car, and he had no idea, he didn't see me. But then when he got out of the car he saw me."
At the season two kickoff of her show "Girls," <a href="http://stylenews.peoplestylewatch.com/2013/01/10/girls-season-2-premiere-style/">Lena Dunham felt right to point out to reporters that she wasn't wearing any underwear</a>. She called the experience "liberating."
Talking with <a href="http://www.news.com.au/entertainment/television/aerosmiths-steve-tyler-spent-6-million-on-cocaine/story-e6frfmyi-1226583545834">Australia's "60 Minutes"</a> about his cocaine use, Tyler said: "You could also say I snorted half of Peru, but, you know, it's what we did." He estimated the powdery habit cost him upwards of $5 million at the time.
Robert Downey Jr.
"I was a compulsive, serial masturbator," <a href="http://www.popcrunch.com/robert-downey-jr-masturbation-confession/">the actor confessed</a>, adding, "I utilized that organ and rode it for everything it was worth."
"I like missionary and I like being on my knees too," <a href="http://www.marieclaire.co.uk/news/celebrity/536025/gwyneth-paltrow-and-zoe-saldana-talk-favourite-sex-positions.html#index=1">Saldana told Marie Claire</a>. "And I love being on top ... I love doggy-style or standing up."
Wilde gave the crowd a mouthful when she shared personal details about her love life at <a href="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/10/09/olivia-wildes-vagina-monologue-jason-sudeikis_n_1951973.html">the These Girls event at Joe’s Pub</a> in October. She confessed that she and now fiance Jason Sudeikis "have sex like Kenyan marathon runners."
Roker admitted to Dateline's Dr. Nancy Snyderman he once pooped his pants in the White House. "<a href="http://www.vh1.com/celebrity/2013-01-07/al-roker-pooped-his-pants-at-the-white-house/">And as I'm walking to the press room, I think I gotta pass a little gas here.</a> So, I’m walking by myself, who’s gonna know, only, a little something extra came out. I pooped in my pants. Not horribly, but enough that I knew."
Cannon <a href="http://www.tmz.com/2012/12/11/nick-cannon-mariah-carey-sex-music-hero/">admitted that he makes love to Mariah Carey</a> while listening to her music, adding that he will masturbate to her tunes "when she's not there." "Sometimes there's special nights when you turn the music on and sometimes it's morning, you roll over and get it poppin'!"
"I have masturbated myself out of serious problems in my life," <a href="http://www.rollingstone.com/music/news/john-mayers-dirty-mind-lonely-heart-new-issue-of-rolling-stone-20100119">the musician told Rolling Stone last year</a>. "The phone doesn't pick up because I'm masturbating. And I have excused myself at the oddest times so as to not make mistakes. If Tiger Woods only knew when to jerk off. It has a true market value, like gold bullion. First of all, I don't jerk off because I'm horny. I'm sort of half-chick. It's like District 9. I can fire alien weapons. I can insert a tampon. No, I do it because I want to take a brain bath. It's like a hot whirlpool for my brain, in a brain space that is 100 percent agreeable with itself."
"I'm kind of unstoppable right now," Simpson told Ryan Seacrest <a href="http://www.usmagazine.com/celebrity-news/news/pregnant-jessica-simpson-my-sex-drive-is-unstoppable-right-now-2012133">about her sex life during pregnancy</a>. "The Big O is, like, the biggest O ever.”
In her new book, "Drinking & Tweeting and Other Brandi Blunders," Brandi Glanville <a href="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/01/30/brandi-glanville-vaginal-rejuvenation-_n_2581707.html">revealed that she underwent vaginal rejuvenation surgery</a> after her now ex-husband, Eddie Cibrian, left her -- she even had him foot the bill. "I decided that since Eddie ruined my vagina for me, he could pay for a new one," Glanville writes in her book.
"I don't really see the point in washing your hair," <a href="http://www.extratv.com/videos/1-bnntapn5/">the actor told ExtraTV.</a> "If you don't care if your hair's clean or not then why would you wash it?"
Following an episode of <a href="http://www.wetpaint.com/jersey-shore/articles/snooki-and-jwoww-talk-peeing-themselves-and-future-babies-video?utm_source=feedburner&utm_medium=feed&utm_campaign=Feed:+wetpaint/latest/excerpt+(Wetpaint+Network+(Excerpt))">"Snooki & JWoww," Snooki revealed</a>, "I peed myself a lot when I was pregnant." JWoww then shared, “When I got my boobs done ... when you come out of anaesthesia you’re a little weird. I was in the doctor’s getting them checked up the next day, and I peed in the doctor’s office.”
"When I’m alone, I do masturbate a lot. I don’t know why," <a href="http://www.hollywoodreporter.com/blogs/risky-business">Franco told The Hollywood Reporter.</a> "It's like you have those days where it’s just like, I have a ton of writing to do, or a ton of reading to do, and you’re just like, OK, I’m going to be on the couch all day or in bed all day just doing that … I tend to have a four- or five-time day."
"I do want to say something from the heart, something actually kind of serious and truthful," <a href="http://www.eonline.com/news/354557/tmi-kristen-wiig-goes-public-with-pooping-problem-at-hollywood-gala">Wiig said at Elle's 2012 Women in Hollywood dinner</a>. "I have not pooped in four days—four days!"
Michelle Williams and Zoe Kazan
"You can wear no underpants and just squat and pee and that's really useful. You can do it in public and no one will see you. You go out into the fields and cop a squat under your skirt. It's true that's what the pioneer women used to do," <a href="http://main.stylelist.com/2011/03/29/michelle-williams-goes-commando-meeks-cutoff/">Kazan told Stylelist, when discussing the 1840s-style dresses she wore</a> while filming "Meek's Cutoff." Williams concurred, saying, "It's true. That's one of the things I missed about those dresses."
"The great thing about having a bunch of kids is they just remind you that you're the person who takes them to go poop!" <a href="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/01/22/angelina-jolie-kids_n_2526119.html?utm_hp_ref=celebrity-kids">Jolie told Total Film magazine</a>.
After getting flack for an alleged altercation with Frank Ocean, <a href="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/01/28/chris-brown-jesus-assault_n_2571159.html">Chris Brown shared an image of Jesus on the cross</a> on Instagram with the caption, "Painting the way I feel today. Focus on what matters!" It may have been better if Brown kept this thought to himself, as the comparison sparked outrage on the Internet and didn't do anything positive for his already divisive reputation.
Lochte <a href="http://www.usmagazine.com/celebrity-news/news/ryan-lochte-admits-to-peeing-in-pool-at-olympics-201258">admitted to urinating in pools in an interview with Us Weekly</a>. "I think there’s just something about getting into chlorine water that you just automatically go. [I didn't] during the races, but I sure did in warm-up," he said.
When discussing the gastrointestinal perks of becoming vegan, <a href="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2010/01/27/alicia-silverstone-oprah_n_439218.html">Silverstone told Oprah</a>, "I don't have any reading materials. I'm in the bathroom for maybe a minute, and it happens, like, two times a day. And bonus round--maybe three times."
"I do quite often pee in the dressing room, in the trash can," <a href="http://www.starpulse.com/news/index.php/2011/11/17/lady_gaga_pees_backstage_in_trash_cans">the pop star told the U.K.'s "Alan Carr: Chatty Man."</a>. "It would have been an interesting photo today because I had a big pink bow on, and I was over the trash can...The bathroom is down the hall. And I was naked. It was just me, my bow and my nakedness. Me and my dustbin have a very important relationship."
"I’m horrible to live with. I don't clean. My clothes end up wherever I take them off. I forget to flush the toilet. Friends will tell me, 'Megan, you totally pinched a loaf in my toilet and didn’t flush'," <a href="http://www.fhm.com/girls/covergirls/megan-fox">Fox told FHM</a>.
“You walk on stage feeling like Mary Poppins but really you’ve just had your skin zipped, peed in a bucket and been dry-heaving over the trash can,” <a href="http://www.thesun.co.uk/sol/homepage/showbiz/4476577/Katy-Perry-Sometimes-I-pee-in-a-bucket.html">Perry told The Sun</a>.
The breakout star of "Girls," the all-too-real show with plenty of nudity, admitted to Anderson Cooper that <a href="http://www.nydailynews.com/entertainment/gossip/allison-williams-talks-watching-sex-scenes-dad-article-1.1258301">she watches awkward scenes with her whole family (including her famous anchor dad, Brian Williams).</a>