I need help. I feel like I’ve dug myself a hole and I don’t know how to get out. About four months ago I separated from my husband. It was very difficult, but I made some demands: for him to get help for his long-term chronic depression, and for us to go to marriage counseling. I actually thought he wouldn’t agree to it. I had made the demand before and he hadn’t, so this time I had a deadline, and he didn’t meet it, and so I left. It was amazingly difficult to walk out the door from my partner of 19 years.