School is supposed to prepare students for life after graduation -- but are the skills applied in the classroom hurting women more than helping when it comes to career advancement?
The "good girl behavior" women learn in school -- studying and thoroughly preparing for their lessons -- could be holding them back in the workforce, says Tara Mohr, founder of women's leadership program Playing Big. In a recent HuffPost Live segment, Mohr outlined the ways women need to adjust to a job's "spontaneity factor."
"Women can get into kind of a comfort zone with preparing -- and knowing that if they prepare enough, they're going to perform well and they'll have that sense of control," Mohr told host Nancy Redd. "What happens after we reach a certain level in our careers is we're being asked to improvise a lot more. We're being asked to think on our feet, we're getting a lot of questions or pushback that we can't prepare for. And school generally does not teach us how to do that thinking on your feet."
Mohr says she's noticed that women with high potential -- ones who often succeeded beyond expectations in school -- often had trouble reaching the next level in their careers. Her solution? Women must learn to leap out of their comfort zones.
"We want to learn to be uncomfortable," she said. "So much of women playing bigger is really about learning about how to be out of our comfort zone, have fear flowing through our veins [and] have a little adrenaline going because we're out of the status quo and familiar."
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1. Set Your Priority For Learning While Aiming To Win
When you make it your priority to learn something new, all of your attempts to succeed at anything become experiments. Your aspiration is to learn more so you can move closer to your aim, rather than insisting that you hit the bull’s eye right off the bat. Do this and something interesting happens -- you begin hitting what you’re aiming for more quickly.
2. Change Your Model Of Failure To A Model Of Experimentation
When you substitute the word "failure" for "experiment," with your aim to learn something new, your fear of failure weakens, and your love of experimenting increases. When you replace the words, “I failed” with the words, “I experimented,” you take on the role of experimenter, and you take the sting out of failure. Now, everything you do becomes an experimental stepping stone, moving you closer to success.
3. Increase Your Experiment Rate And Escalate Your Success Pace
It’s a given that the more we experiment with things in our lives, the more we succeed in life. Doesn’t it logically follow that we should increase our experiment rate if we want to increase our success rate? The secret is to aim to learn a new lesson with every experiment. That’s what scientists in a laboratory do. When failed attempts to succeed are seen as experiments, it puts the attempts on the same side as success: Experiment/success. But, when you see your attempts as failures, you place the attempt on the opposite side of success: success-failure. Now it feels lousy.
4. See Curiosity As Your Fuel
If you make it one of your life-roles to be an experimenter, then curiosity becomes a valuable quality. Curiosity drives experimenters to experiment. And curiosity is a mental muscle that can be strengthened with each experiment. That’s because with each experiment you become more curious about how to get it right. Anytime you fail to experiment, your curiosity level drops. When you stop experimenting, you stop being curious and you stop growing -- you stop winning.
5. Celebrate Your Experiments Regardless Of The Outcome
You are an experimenter and the world is your laboratory. Celebrate the fact that you are so fortunate to have the world as your lab. Be deliberate with your experiments, and celebrate, celebrate, celebrate. Soon you’ll be celebrating victory after victory after victory.