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12/10/2013 12:59 pm ET

Self-Negotiation Is Tough, But It Also Gives Us Freedom (VIDEO)

Negotiating is always tough, but it is perhaps hardest when you're negotiating with yourself.

That familiar feeling of an internal wrestling match between two choices is called "self-negotiation," and according to leadership and negotiation expert Erica Ariel Fox, it's incredibly common in everyone's life.

"If your friends all want to go out and you kind of want to stay home, there's a part of you saying, 'No, go out, be part of the team, be a good friend,' and another part asking you to just give yourself a break and stay home and watch a movie," she said.

Fox, who wrote "Winning from Within: A Breakthrough Method for Leading, Living, and Lasting Change," told HuffPost Live's Nancy Redd that during a self-negotiation, each choice is valid, reasonable and valuable for certain reasons.

"There's not a right choice, necessarily," Fox said. "It's just the right to have a choice, to give yourself a choice. It's like freedom of self."

See all Fox's tips about negotiating with yourself at HuffPost Live HERE.

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