After a few failed engagements in her 20s, Natasha Nelson finally had the wedding of her dreams. But 10 days later, she filed for divorce after finding evidence of an ongoing affair between her new husband and his ex-girlfriend. Nelson shared her story on HuffPost Live.
"I had been engaged in my 20s, and tried to plan a wedding two or three times, and just never followed through with it, realized it wasn't the person for me," she explained to host Nancy Redd. "After my [previous] engagement was over, I dated for a while, and an old friend from when I was in church camp found me on Facebook. And we reconnected and dated for a year. We got married, planned our wedding very quickly. I was head over heels in love and happy, and had a wonderful, amazing wedding."
"And 10 days later--we hadn't even gone on our honeymoon yet--I found out that he had been cheating on me for the last six months with his ex-girlfriend. "
Nelson discovered her husband's infidelity while trying to view the first photos of the couple's wedding. "I had just gotten a DVD in the mail and he had just left for work, and it was the first wedding pictures. Every bride is so excited to see her first wedding photos, so I popped the disc into my computer and it wouldn't go in. It kept flipping out."
"And I had never gone on my husband's computer once, never on his phone once, and he had left his computer on that night and I popped it in. And as soon as I popped that disc in, Skype came up and I saw six months of very awful conversations and video, etc. that no new bride should have to see."
Afterwards, Nelson was in shock. "I was just devastated, my friends really came to my rescue. I went back to my parents' house, got under the covers of my bed, and just wanted to stay there."
She continued, "I still loved the man, but the trust wasn't there anymore. I was broken, I was embarrassed. I had just had this big wedding in front of all of my friends and family. I come from a family where my parents hadn't been divorced, none of my aunts and uncles, my grandparents -- I was going to be the first divorce in my entire family. And it was just humiliating."
Despite her pain, Nelson admitted that she briefly considered overlooking her husband's infidelity. "It crossed my mind -- 'maybe I could get past this. Maybe I could forgive him.' He and his ex-girlfriend came very clean to me, and they apologized and I still loved him."
Ultimately, however, she said that couldn't bring herself to trust her new husband. "But I really just deep down knew, this wasn't going to last a lifetime and this was something that--I wasn't going to be able to do it. I just knew it. I couldn't do it."
"I was blessed where I saw loving marriages. My mom and dad were in love and married 40 years. So I saw loving marriages, and I just knew that, moving forward, this wasn't going to be a relationship where I was going to ever feel that love and a devotion and trust that I saw with my parents."