04/23/2014 03:17 pm ET | Updated Apr 24, 2014

One Easy, Idiot-Proof Trick To Know What To Say To Adoptive Parents

Adoptive families field lots of questions about their children all the time. However, many of the things people ask or say to them aren't always appropriate, and sometimes offensive. In order to help those who haven't experienced adoption understand what not to say to families with adopted children, father Jesse Butterworth -- along with videographer Spencer Findlay -- came up with a simple rule: If you wouldn’t say it about a boob job, don't say it about an adoptive family. Like "where'd you get them?" or "are they real?" for example.

Seems simple enough.

(hat tip: Rage Against The Minivan)


From "30 Adoption Portraits in 30 Days," a series designed to give a voice to people with widely varying experiences, including birthparents, adoptees, adoptive parents, foster parents, waiting adoptive parents and others touched by adoption:

Adoption Portraits