Dan Savage, Host of Savage Lovecast, shared one simple, effective piece of advice for couples that are hesitant about experimenting with anal sex.
If, for example, a female in a heterosexual relationship is hesitant to try anal sex, Dan recommends letting her penetrate her male partner first, with a sex toy such as a strap-on dildo.
“Sometimes, the best way to convince someone that anal sex is pleasurable is by putting your own butt on the line!” he laughed.
“Some people have it in their head that anal sex is only for gay people, but anal pleasure is for everybody,” Dan told us.
For more of Dan's relationship advice, view the slideshow below:
Relationships often involve betrayal, and forgiveness is the oil that keeps a relationship moving smoothly. In order for a long-term relationship to work, you need to establish forgiveness and trust.
Despite how the old saying goes, when you wake up the morning after a fight, you’ll often realize that the issue you were fighting over is no longer relevant.
If you want to have sex on the third date, go for it! Move in the direction of sex with your partner if you want to, but articulate your desire in a way that feels right to you. Affirmative consent -- knowing when and how to get a yes -- is better than getting a no.
Often when you’re young, you have to find a place and time to have sex. In an adult long-term relationship, it often gets boring because it’s expected. Create new obstacles, and have a playful sexual adventure together.
When it comes to your online dating profile, be honest, and keep it brief. Also, be smart about how you meet up with dates. Meet people in public for the first time, and make sure you know their real name and phone number. Plan a date that is not open-ended, such as lunch or coffee in the afternoon, so that you have somewhere to go after it ends.
If a partner asks you for a sex act that you're not willing to perform, don't compromise. For instance, if oral sex is really important to your satisfaction, then you have a right to prioritize that. Sexual compatibility is very important when it comes to relationships -- you both need to be in touch with your sexuality, and to make sure that your needs are being met in the bedroom.
Whether you're exhausted or traveling, being able to acknowledge a dry spell in your relationship gives you a way to get back to it. Trust that you will, indeed, connect sexually again soon. It helps dispel resentment if you can say, "This is just temporary; we’re not done."
Lovemaking is what any two people make of it. Whatever works for your relationship works for you, and you should enjoy it. For instance, if one of you needs a break from getting thrown around the bed, and wants something more tender, then speak out and respect that.
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