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8 Things That Reminded Me Life Goes On After Divorce

07/22/2014 11:43 am ET | Updated Jul 22, 2014
Lindsey Ellison

If there's ever a time you need a little distraction in your life, it's during the divorce process. That's why we launched our Divorce Care Package series. With each post, we'll show you what things -- books, movies, recipes -- helped others relieve stress in the midst of divorce, in the hopes that a few of their picks will serve you well, too. Want to share what got you through your divorce? Email us at divorce@huffingtonpost.com or tweet @HuffPost Divorce

Lindsey Ellison has the ultimate "when life hands you lemons, make lemonade" post-divorce success story. As a divorce coach, Ellison uses her own hard-won lessons to guide women through divorce and to help them create a life they're proud of once the process is over.

But what helped Ellison get through her own divorce? Below, she shares eight things that reminded her life goes on when her marriage ended.

  • The Hobby
    Lindsey Ellison
    "After my separation, I didn’t know many single people and didn’t have a lot of friends. My weekends without the kids were very lonely so I decided to take an indoor rock climbing class with the hopes of meeting new people. It was such a success! In one day I learned how to climb and it almost instantly became my passion! (And I hate heights, so it helped me overcome that fear.) I also became a bit of a hippie one summer. I said 'F*ck, it', I’m going to music festivals and going camping!' It was a blast. Here I am jamming at one the aforementioned festivals."
  • The Movie
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    "This is an easy one. 'The Notebook'! Why? Because sometimes you just really need a good cry. (And getting to watch Ryan Gosling for two hours also helps, let's be real). I remember watching this movie and calling my parents with tears and snot rolling down my face and I asked them, 'Will I be alone forever?' Of course they said no, and I ended up falling in love with my now-husband, but I didn’t believe them at the time."
  • The Photo
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    "Photos of Ryan Gosling. (Can you see I have a crush?)"
  • The Food
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    "Sushi and more sushi. There was nothing better than ordering sushi takeout and having a date night with myself. Sometimes I’d even buy an expensive bottle of champagne and say ‘cheers’ to my unknown future and everything it would encompass."
  • The Quote
    Lindsey Ellison
    “Marianne Williamson has said that 'behind every moment of fear is a miracle.' I loved this quote because it gave me such hope. Divorce is the most fearful experience you can have and I learned that many miracles happened out of every fearful moment. And this is what I coach people all the time."
  • The Song
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    "The song? That would have to be 'Don't Leave Me This Way' by Thelma Houston. Not that I got 'left' during my marriage but I dated a lot of assholes in my time who've left me when I wasn’t ready!"
  • The Books
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    "There were two books. The first was The Human Magnet Syndrome by Ross Rosenburg. This books explains the root of dysfunctional relationships and why we love people that hurt us. It is a must-read and I recommend it to all of my clients! I also just recently interviewed him for a podcast because he is the one author who I think will conquer the world in explaining the role of codependent and narcissist in every relationship.
    The other book was A Return to Love by Marianne Williamson. This book made me feel whole again after feeling so lost and sad. It taught me how to think positively and made me realize my thoughts become things. It changed my whole life, actually."
  • The Splurge
    Lindsey Ellison
    "My big splurge was a trip to Breckenridge, CO right after my separation. My ex never liked to ski and I wasn’t very good at it, but it was the best trip I took with my girlfriend, also recently separated.
    The following year I splurged on a biking trip to Yellowstone with my children –- it was the most expensive fun I’ve ever had! Why'd I do it? Because I finally could! Here's a pic of me on that trip."

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