ESPN panelist Stephen A. Smith has been roundly panned for his comments on domestic violence, in which he suggested women should do what they can not to "provoke" their partners into abusing them.
On Monday, Smith apologized for his comments, but MSNBC pundit Goldie Taylor wasn't about to let him off the hook.
In a series of tweets, the journalist explained exactly why his comments were so dangerous. She opened up about her own experience being stabbed by an abusive partner, and revealed the victim-blaming she suffered -- even from her own family.
On top of the physical abuse, Taylor was also financially abused by her partner. According to her testimony, he made her turn over her paycheck each week and would not allow her to have a credit card, a common tactic used by abusers to control and isolate their victims.
Here are a selection of Taylor's tweets; visit her twitter feed to read the entire conversation.
For those of us who lived through the utter terror of domestic violence, @stephenasmith words were all too familiar.
That, my friends, is the real danger in @stephenasmith words.
You see, @stephenasmith told his audience that women who 'provoke' attacks are fair game. Many still believe that.
A few nights ago, I told my story. I was young and in a violent relationship +
My then live-in boyfriend beat me regularly. My family, including my brothers, did nothing. +
My late grandmother said: What did you do to make him hit you?
I have been dragged around by my hair b/c I shrank his t-shirts in the wash.
I was chased and beaten on another occasion b/c he caught me packing to leave.
I wasn't allowed to have money or credit cards. He have me just enough for groceries. I turned over my paycheck every week.
My family said I was lucky to have a man and that if I would just 'act right' he wouldn't hurt me.
Then he lost his job. The beatings became more severe. I had him arrested and moved back to my mother's house.
He got out of jail, caught me in the driveway and forced me into his car.
He drove for hours, telling me how much he loved me and how sorry he was.
I tried to leave again. He came home just as I was leaving. The look in his eyes told me to run.
He slugged me in the face w/ a closed fist. I was knocked old cold. I weighed 95 lbs at the time. He was double my size and weight.
When I came to, I grabbed a rotary telephone and swung for the fences. Blood spilled everywhere.
I didn't realize I was half naked. I ran for the door.
I felt a sharp pain in back, in my upper left shoulder. I could feel the wetness, but I kept running.
I beat on every neighbor's door until someone let me in. The woman let me inside and called police.
Paramedics arrived and took me to the hospital. I was hysterical. Doctors had to sedate me.
I was interviewed by two officers that night-- a man and a woman.
The woman officer said: He said you hit him w/ a telephone and wants to file charges.
I had been stabbed. The wound was deep and long.
He was arrested that night. They let him plead to reckless conduct.
He later went to prison for killing another woman. Manslaughter was the charge. He is free today.
I heard from him a few years ago on FB. He apologized for hurting me. Said he still loved me + wanted to make up for lost time.
I told him to get lost. Blocked all contact.
It's been 28 years. I still have a smooth keloid scar on my back.
It is my deepest prayer that no one, no man or woman, has to live in that terror.
I have long since forgiven my family-- and myself. I even had to find a way to forgive him. I needed to learn how to live and love again.
What happened to me wasn't due to some 'provocation', but if I could've killed him in his sleep I would have.
Today, I know that hurt people hurt other people. He came to our relationship a broken man.
As Chris Rock says: You don't meet people. You meet their agent.
The man I met was well educated, good looking and charismatic. The man I lived with was a monster.
Victims don't often run, b/c there is nowhere to go. Abusers build an emotional +!financial prison.
Unfortunately, @stephenasmith and his supporters are not alone. So many police officers, prosecutors and judges share that thinking.
Years back, a friend was tied up + dosed w/ gasoline. Her husband waved a book of matches in her face. He thought she was cheating.
I am stronger now both because of and despite what happened to me.
I had planned to release a video statement, but my lips wouldn't move.
So if I am sometimes rude or seem dismissive, I apologize. I am speaking through my pain.
Protection orders get violated every day.
I use the platform available to me, b/c the vast majority of domestic violence victims don't have a voice.
Need help? In the U.S., call 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) for the National Domestic Violence Hotline.