Getting married is quite possibly the biggest commitment two people can ever make to each other -- but how do you make sure that promise lasts a lifetime?
Thanks to a recent Reddit thread that asked married couples to share their best piece of advice for newlyweds, we have a better understanding of how to make a marriage work for the long haul.
Here 17 small nuggets of wisdom worth taking to heart:
- "Love is an action verb. Love your spouse actively, every day."
- "Argue all you want, but it shouldn't be you vs. your SO. It should be you (TOGETHER) vs. the problem."
- "There is more than one right way to do something (e.g. load the dishwasher, fold the laundry, etc)."
- "Never stop dating your spouse."
- "When you are angry and having a fight, refrain from calling your spouse names of any kind."
- "Make sure that you make time for sex."
- "Choose your battles. Sometimes you just need to breathe and carry on. Communication. Communication. Communication."
- "Always have each other's back in public. Never belittle your spouse. Have all the disagreements people normally do but let the world know you two are best friends."
- "Show appreciation! Always say thank you, even for little things. Being married to someone doesn't make you entitled to anything that they do for you."
- "Arguing occurs when being right is more important than listening to your spouse."
- "Always assume the other person has the best intentions. Let the small stuff go. Never stop being considerate or doing small gestures 'just because.'"
- "No matter how bad the fight, how frustrated you are, look for something to be thankful for in your spouse. It will help calm you and give you a second to clear your head."
- "Kiss each other EVERYDAY."
- "Never stop listening."
- "No one argues well at midnight. So sometimes it is ok to go to bed angry. Consider it a timeout to regroup."
- "You must remember: You're not in a battle. You're not boxing. You are not opponents. You are working towards a common cause: A happy, healthy, productive life together."
- "You put her first, she puts you first. If you're always more concerned about her needs than your own, and she's more concerned about your needs than her own, you won't have many problems."