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19 Solid Pieces Of Marriage Advice From Wedding Bloggers

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By Kellee Khalil for Lover.ly

We reached out to our wedding blogger pals to get their best tips for a happy marriage. Read on for what they had to say.

"Choose joy! My husband is always a happier man when I choose joy and patience! It’s so hard to remain consistent, but I can always tell a difference when I’m making an effort to react with patience, rather than strife!" — Summer Watkins, Grey Likes Weddings

“Make a vow from the start that you’ll always be on the same team. When a conflict arises, we try to remind each other that we have each other’s backs and that ultimately we’re working towards the same goal—then we can work toward finding a solution together instead of being in opposition." — Camille Styles

"The venue, the flowers, and decor are all a wonderfully pretty and romantic backdrop to your day, and I wholeheartedly believe that you should go all-out to prettify your day as much as you desire. But when you're standing next to your new husband, surrounded by family and friends and an awful lot of love, everything else really is just a backdrop.” — >Louise Beukes, bloved

"Don’t sweat the small stuff—always find a way to celebrate the strengths and good traits of your partner.” — Janna and Ian Simpao, Bride and Breakfast

"Never stop flirting with each other. It's easy to flirt and compliment the other in the beginning of dating, but I think it's important to keep those sparks alive by being playful and complimentary as often as possible." — Desiree Hartsock

"A happy marriage is a balancing act of meeting your own needs and each other's needs. Listen, be present in the moment, and think before you speak, but don't lose your sense of self in the process of giving." — Kirsten Palladino, Editor in Chief of digital same-sex wedding magazine Equally Wed

"Try to be a good listener! Listening to one another is the best way to make sure that your marriage works." — Maggie Lord, Rustic Wedding Chic

"Never stop dating. Whether you head out to your favorite fancy restaurant or just spend some uninterrupted, cell phone-free quality time on your front porch, making the effort to connect on a regular basis is an important (and fun!) way to keep your relationship strong." — Marissa Kloess, Southern Weddings

"In life and marriage, do all things with love. That means always be kind, patient, and keep your heart open—including to yourself." — Stacy Tasman, How He Asked

"Cuddle every night. After a long stressful day or an argument, it is the best thing ever to just relax and snuggle with my best friend before going to sleep." — Megan Acosta, Glamour and Grace

"Constant communication, lots of kisses, and laughter." — Mr. and Mrs. Well Groomed

"Have a life outside of the relationship—and enjoy it. While it’s easy to fall into a regular routine with your partner of work, home, sleep, repeat, it’s important to make time for your solo self, whether it’s a date night with your best gal pal or volunteering at a local shelter. Too much focus on your relationship can actually harm it, so step away every now and then—you’ll be surprised at how satisfying it can be. Bonus: it’ll give you something to talk about when you get home other than what to do for dinner." — Brittny Drye, Love Inc. Magazine

"When we wait for and expect the happily ever after ending, we sometimes miss the once upon a time that’s happening today. So, be present in your marriage and appreciate the happiness that is in your relationship today. After all, sometimes it takes a fire-breathing dragon to fan the flames in a relationship. Enjoy your once upon a time, and I promise you that the happily ever after will work itself out.” — Sara Russel, Wedding Sparrow

"Throughout your marriage, you will inevitably encounter many joys but some sorrows, too, so regarding your union as sacred and tackling decisions as a team will help you navigate even the most trying of times. Make a concerted effort each day to be the best-possible wife or husband you can be. Even small things like taking care of a chore they dislike doing, giving them a kiss each time you enter or leave the house, and slow-dancing in the kitchen can make all the difference. Often times, these little defining moments are the best part about being married." — The Bridal Guide Editors

"Hold hands often. Kiss each other morning, noon and night. (And whenever the urge strikes you.) Say "I love you" a lot. Work as a team. Compromise. And communicate." — Alexandra Beauregard, Heart Love Always

"Date night! Always schedule a date night at least once a week, and make time for each other. Remember, you don't always have to go out for date night. Snuggling up on the couch can be lots of fun! And remember, before you fell in love with this person, you LIKED this person. Which makes loving them even more special!" — Janie Medley, The Bride’s Cafe

"A key factor in a good marriage is respect. Respect each other at all times, avoid verbal abuse and insults of any kind. Remember—once it is out you can never get it back again." — Becky Hopman, Smitten Magazine

"Find a common hobby to do together—e.g., work out together or start reading the same book. I once met a couple who had been married for 75 years and they told me they always had one indoor activity they liked to do together and one outdoor. It's important to keep finding common interests." — Shawna Gohel, Maharani Weddings

"Things aren't always going to be hearts and butterflies. Sometimes you just need to drink wine. It usually helps :)" — Leila Lewis, Inspired by This

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