Contemporary theologian and author Father Richard Rohr has made it his mission to help people connect with their true selves. He believes that everyone has two sides: the true self and the false self. What the false self fears most, he says, is change. But why? In this clip from his upcoming "Super Soul Sunday" interview, Oprah asks Father Rohr what makes us so resistant to change.
"Because it asks us to let go, and we're not good at letting go," he says. "We're good at holding on." It's hard to hold onto joy, Father Rohr says, but very easy to hold onto resentment, pain, and other negative feelings.
"You can just live in it," Oprah adds. "Wallow, make yourself a little home and have a tea party."
"For years," Father Rohr agrees. "This is their whole identity: Victimhood."
Though it will be difficult, Father Rohr explains why letting go of the pain of your past is the best thing you can do. "Now, when you don't need to play the victim or create victims, you're free," he says. "And that is the freedom I hope for."
"Super Soul Sunday" with Father Richard Rohr airs February 8 at 11 a.m. ET on OWN. You can also join the worldwide simulcast at Oprah.com/supersoulsunday or Facebook.com/supersoulsunday.