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Amelia is a mother, wife, partner and breadwinner. When not at the office she's spending as much time as possible with her three young sons, husband and best friend. In her copious free time she knits, obsesses about science fiction and cult television, and reads way too many books. She considers her most superhero worthy act finding a couple free hours now and then to read trashy novels.

Note: "Amelia" is a pseudonym chosen to protect her young children's identities.

Entries by Amelia

When I Told My Gay Son 49 People Died For Being Just Like Him

(0) Comments | Posted June 14, 2016 | 10:50 PM

The world was exploding, and I was at an auction.  On June 11, I decided to unplug early because my friend Sam and I were going to an auction in the morning.  Neither of us needed anything--it’s just one of those things we do together.  I...

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Middle School Vs. My Gay Kid

(0) Comments | Posted April 2, 2016 | 7:29 AM

Middle school is terrifying. For me. As the mother of a gay kid going into the sixth grade next year I am scared down to my very toenails about my son going to middle school.

Middle school is when we throw all our insane hormones-in-flux preteens into the same building...

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I Can't Keep My Gay Kid Safe

(0) Comments | Posted December 7, 2015 | 8:27 AM

A lot goes through your mind when your kid is hit by a car. Most of it is best described by those symbols at the top of keyboard, because normal swear words just aren't good enough. But what also went through mine was "I can't keep him safe."

As the...

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동성애자 자녀를 둔 부모에게 보내는 공개 편지: 당신의 문제가 아니다

(0) Comments | Posted September 2, 2015 | 2:37 AM

당신에게 LGBT 자녀가 있다? 기절초풍하기 딱 좋은 타이밍일까. 묻고 싶은 질문이 잔뜩 있을 테고, 아직 당신 머리의 말풍선 속에 느낌표 밖에 없는 단계일 수도 있겠다. 괜찮다. 우리는 부모다. 우리 아이에 대한 중요한 사실을 발견하면 가끔 크게 흔들릴 때가 있다. 아니면 정말 자연스러운 일로 느껴질 수도 있다. 나는 게이 자녀를 둔다는...

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Open Letter to Parents of Gay Kids: This Is Not About You

(0) Comments | Posted August 30, 2015 | 8:24 AM

So, you have an LGBT kid. This might feel like the perfect time to freak out. You probably have tons of questions, or maybe you're still at the stage where it is all exclamation points in the thought bubble above your head. It's ok. We're parents. We find out something...

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'Not All Mommies Love Their Babies The Way I Love You'

(0) Comments | Posted July 11, 2015 | 8:35 AM

It happened a few weeks ago when we were all in the car. The kids sat in the back talking about Wario and how his farts could KO an opponent. (Yes, my children play way too much Nintendo Smash Bros. And no, I have no idea if Wario can actually...

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A Man in California Wants to Kill My Son

(0) Comments | Posted March 28, 2015 | 8:16 AM

It's been a long week, and my oldest son and I are curled up on the couch together. There wasn't anything bad about the week, but by the end everyone was exhausted, hence the snuggle fest. While he will always be my baby boy, he doesn't fit so easily into...

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Bully My Son at Your Own Risk

(0) Comments | Posted February 4, 2015 | 7:56 AM

I knew when I walked into the house that something was wrong.

"Babe," my husband said, "your oldest needs some mom time."

I looked further into the house and saw my 10-year-old son sitting on the couch, arms crossed, huffing and looking at his lap.

"What's up?" I...

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나의 열 살짜리 아들은 남자를 좋아한다

(0) Comments | Posted December 19, 2014 | 4:12 PM

*이 글은 허핑턴포스트US에 가정주부 '아멜리아'가 쓴 블로그 No, My 10-Year-Old Son Isn't Looking for a Girlfriend. He Likes Boys를 번역한 것입니다.

학기 초에 아이들 초등학교에서 방과 후 과외활동에 관한 안내문을 받았다. 남편은 목록을 함께 보자며 두 아들을 앉혔다. 원하는 동아리를 아무거나 고르라고 이야기했다. 사랑스러운 너드(nerd)인...

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Não, meu filho de 10 anos não está procurando uma namorada. Ele gosta de meninos

(324) Comments | Posted December 18, 2014 | 8:49 AM

No início deste semestre, a escola de nossos filhos mandou para casa uma lista de clubes extracurriculares disponíveis aos estudantes. Meu marido sentou-se com a lista e nossos dois filhos que frequentam a escola elementar. Eles poderiam escolher qualquer clube. Nosso filho do meio, que está na 2ª série este...

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No, My 10-Year-Old Son Isn't Looking for a Girlfriend. He Likes Boys.

(0) Comments | Posted December 14, 2014 | 7:58 AM

At the beginning of this semester, our kids' school sent home a list of extracurricular clubs available to the students. My husband sat down with the list and our two elementary-school-aged sons. They could pick a club, any club. Our middle son, a second grader this year and the most...

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Anti-Gay Bullying at School, but Not Like We Expected

(0) Comments | Posted September 20, 2014 | 9:48 AM

Bullying. It's something that most parents worry about, and the parents of gay kids worry about it even more. At least, I know that I worry... a lot.

When my oldest son was in the first grade, he had an experience with bullying. Some boys were picking on other...

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Not Ready to Love a Gay Child? Then Don't Have Kids

(0) Comments | Posted September 6, 2014 | 9:11 AM

Parents annoy me -- annoy and frustrate me. I know that's an odd statement considering that I am a parent. (And yes, I annoy myself sometimes.) We parents need to do a lot better.

For the past couple of months, I have been answering some questions for The...

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Two Men Kissing in Front of My Kid? Awesome!

(90) Comments | Posted May 26, 2014 | 9:24 AM

There are lots of different kisses between people who love each other. There's the casual kiss on the way out the door in the morning. There's the kiss filled with relief after getting home from a particularly hard day at the office, or the kiss at a party that's really...

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When (Gay) Boy Meets (Gay) Girl for the First Time

(12) Comments | Posted May 12, 2014 | 5:54 PM

It's the classic story of "boy meets girl" -- only it's not like that at all.

Having a kid who comes out as gay in first grade isn't very common, but I'm not the only one. Thanks to these blog posts, I've been able to connect with other...

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Nobody Gets to Tell My Sons What It Means to Be a Man

(22) Comments | Posted May 9, 2014 | 4:27 PM

This is the story of three little boys raised by the same two parents: a stay-at-home dad and a work-away-from-home mom. They were given the same gender-neutral toys as babies. They have a multiracial and multicultural community and extended family. And like most siblings, they are very different kids.


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Let's Talk About the Birds and... Um... the Birds?

(23) Comments | Posted March 24, 2014 | 2:20 PM

Our society is incredibly prudish. Discussions of sex often turn people red with anger or embarrassment. Throw the subject of children into the mix and minds explode. When I began blogging about my then-7-year-old son identifying as gay, a lot of people went right to sex, no matter...

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Equality Should Shine Through Generations

(6) Comments | Posted March 14, 2014 | 3:48 PM

As I write this my grandmother is dying. It's not a new thing. It's been happening for a couple of years now. She is elderly and frail, and her health has been declining rapidly. But lately the family has gone through the process of admitting that she has entered the...

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My Gay Kid Is Lucky.. But He Shouldn't Have to Be

(79) Comments | Posted January 18, 2014 | 6:56 AM

On a cold winter day when my oldest son was in the first grade, he came home from school with a question.

"Mom, did you know that the word gay means more than just gay?"

Just a few weeks before, my son announced that he was gay. He...

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Stop Waiting for My Gay Son to Change

(113) Comments | Posted November 22, 2013 | 8:00 AM

"Did you see my new shirt?" my oldest son asked a relative at his ninth birthday party.

The relative looked at the shirt, which depicts a dapper young man dressed in a black suit, with bright-pink shades and a microphone. "Who's that?" he asked.

My son looked at the adult...

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