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Amelia is a mother, wife, partner and breadwinner. When not at the office she's spending as much time as possible with her three young sons, husband and best friend. In her copious free time she knits, obsesses about science fiction and cult television, and reads way too many books. She considers her most superhero worthy act finding a couple free hours now and then to read trashy novels.

Note: "Amelia" is a pseudonym chosen to protect her young children's identities.

Entries by Amelia

Anti-Gay Bullying at School, but Not Like We Expected

(47) Comments | Posted September 20, 2014 | 9:48 AM

Bullying. It's something that most parents worry about, and the parents of gay kids worry about it even more. At least, I know that I worry... a lot.

When my oldest son was in the first grade, he had an experience with bullying. Some boys were picking on other...

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Not Ready to Love a Gay Child? Then Don't Have Kids

(56) Comments | Posted September 6, 2014 | 9:11 AM

Parents annoy me -- annoy and frustrate me. I know that's an odd statement considering that I am a parent. (And yes, I annoy myself sometimes.) We parents need to do a lot better.

For the past couple of months, I have been answering some questions for The...

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Two Men Kissing in Front of My Kid? Awesome!

(90) Comments | Posted May 26, 2014 | 9:24 AM

There are lots of different kisses between people who love each other. There's the casual kiss on the way out the door in the morning. There's the kiss filled with relief after getting home from a particularly hard day at the office, or the kiss at a party that's really...

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When (Gay) Boy Meets (Gay) Girl for the First Time

(12) Comments | Posted May 12, 2014 | 5:54 PM

It's the classic story of "boy meets girl" -- only it's not like that at all.

Having a kid who comes out as gay in first grade isn't very common, but I'm not the only one. Thanks to these blog posts, I've been able to connect with other...

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Nobody Gets to Tell My Sons What It Means to Be a Man

(22) Comments | Posted May 9, 2014 | 4:27 PM

This is the story of three little boys raised by the same two parents: a stay-at-home dad and a work-away-from-home mom. They were given the same gender-neutral toys as babies. They have a multiracial and multicultural community and extended family. And like most siblings, they are very different kids.


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Let's Talk About the Birds and... Um... the Birds?

(23) Comments | Posted March 24, 2014 | 2:20 PM

Our society is incredibly prudish. Discussions of sex often turn people red with anger or embarrassment. Throw the subject of children into the mix and minds explode. When I began blogging about my then-7-year-old son identifying as gay, a lot of people went right to sex, no matter...

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Equality Should Shine Through Generations

(6) Comments | Posted March 14, 2014 | 3:48 PM

As I write this my grandmother is dying. It's not a new thing. It's been happening for a couple of years now. She is elderly and frail, and her health has been declining rapidly. But lately the family has gone through the process of admitting that she has entered the...

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My Gay Kid Is Lucky.. But He Shouldn't Have to Be

(79) Comments | Posted January 18, 2014 | 6:56 AM

On a cold winter day when my oldest son was in the first grade, he came home from school with a question.

"Mom, did you know that the word gay means more than just gay?"

Just a few weeks before, my son announced that he was gay. He...

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Stop Waiting for My Gay Son to Change

(113) Comments | Posted November 22, 2013 | 8:00 AM

"Did you see my new shirt?" my oldest son asked a relative at his ninth birthday party.

The relative looked at the shirt, which depicts a dapper young man dressed in a black suit, with bright-pink shades and a microphone. "Who's that?" he asked.

My son looked at the adult...

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When Your 7-Year-Old Son Says, 'I Want to Be Gay'

(569) Comments | Posted November 13, 2013 | 11:51 AM

I write a lot about my oldest son, but he is not my only. I am lucky enough to have a total of three sons. My other two are just as amazing as the first, in my totally biased opinion. My middle son is now 7, the same age that...

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Boys and Girls and Their Prince Charmings

(38) Comments | Posted October 21, 2013 | 3:05 PM

A few months ago I took my kids to the movies. They love watching movies at the theater. All three of them can be counted on to sit still and be quiet for an entire hour and a half. It is something of a minor miracle. On this occasion we...

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Who Is In a Gay Family?

(37) Comments | Posted September 30, 2013 | 2:49 PM

It was a Saturday night. I was sans children and out with some of my best (adult) guys at a bar. I had already had a couple of (or four) drinks and was talking about my kids. Yes, I am that annoying person.

"Are you a gay parent?" asked...

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Get Your Assumptions Off My Kid

(131) Comments | Posted August 19, 2013 | 9:00 AM

It's back-to-school time, a time met by grumblings from our boys, who want just a few more weeks of summer, and by elation from my husband (a stay-at-home parent), who will soon actually be able to get stuff done during the day. It's a busy time, with lots of errands...

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A Wedding: Lovely but Bittersweet

(11) Comments | Posted August 12, 2013 | 5:19 PM

A little over a year ago I was going through one of those periods where bad news about LGBT rights seemed overwhelming. To cheer myself up I asked for people to send me happy LGBT stories. It worked, and I was smiling at the responses for days. It also introduced...

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10 Ways to Support Your Gay Kid, Whether You Know You Have One or Not

(184) Comments | Posted July 6, 2013 | 8:26 AM

Last month being Pride Month, several articles regarding what parents should say when their child comes out to them were published. In general, I think they had really great advice that basically boiled down to this: Don't be an asshole. And that's generally good advice for any situation, and something...

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When My Son Met His 'Boyfriend,' Darren Criss (PHOTO)

(243) Comments | Posted June 12, 2013 | 6:43 AM

Back in December I asked my oldest son what he wanted for Christmas. He only had one request:

"I want to meet Blaine and sing and play the guitar with him."

My son has had a huge crush on Blaine, a popular character on Glee played by Darren...

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I Get to Define My Own Family

(294) Comments | Posted June 3, 2013 | 9:00 AM

When my oldest son was in kindergarten, he learned that not all families are like his. My husband and I have lived with our best friend, Katie, for the past 13 years. To our three boys, she is their Kiki: part third parent, part favorite aunt and by far their...

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Parenting Can Be Frightening, but Love Still Needs to Win

(8) Comments | Posted May 13, 2013 | 12:41 PM

When I blog, I talk a lot about love. Love wins. I truly believe that. And the more of us who believe that, the better off we'll be.

But a lot of moments in parenting are about fear. I have these little men whom I love more than I thought...

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Don't Be Your Child's First Bully

(45) Comments | Posted May 8, 2013 | 12:35 PM

"Pink boys," or gender-nonconforming boys, have been a popular topic of conversation these days. People who have gender-conforming children (or no children at all) are always ready to put in their two cents about what they would do. Whatever. Until you are actually a parent in that situation, you don't...

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Coming Out as Amelia

(138) Comments | Posted April 27, 2013 | 10:13 AM

When the first blog post I wrote went viral, I was shocked and overwhelmed. Being a blogger was never on my bucket list, and it was something I was completely unprepared for. I called my father to let him know what was going on. He was well aware...

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