When I blog, I talk a lot about love. Love wins. I truly believe that. And the more of us who believe that, the better off we'll be.

But a lot of moments in parenting are about fear. I have these little men whom I love more than I thought...

"Pink boys," or gender-nonconforming boys, have been a popular topic of conversation these days. People who have gender-conforming children (or no children at all) are always ready to put in their two cents about what they would do. Whatever. Until you are actually a parent in that situation, you don't...

When the first blog post I wrote went viral, I was shocked and overwhelmed. Being a blogger was never on my bucket list, and it was something I was completely unprepared for. I called my father to let him know what was going on. He was well aware...

Last month U.S. Sen. Rob Portman (R-Ohio) reversed his stance on gay marriage, largely because his son is gay, and although I felt like I should have been happy about it, it left a bad taste in my mouth. Of course, I'm happy that there is another senator...

This has been an exciting week for equality. On Tuesday I was right there with everyone else, listening to the tapes and wishing all kinds of imaginary ills on Justice Antonin Scalia. What struck me more than anything else was the lawyer defending Prop 8, Charles Cooper, insisting...

It was like telling a fairy tale -- not the pretty, fluffy, Disney kind, but one written by the brothers Grimm, the kind where everyone knows that all the characters will be dead in the end.

A long time ago, in a land far away, lived a man named Harvey...

We're like a lot of people. We're progressive, liberal people who live in a not-so-progressive, not-so-liberal state. Our state might be red, but we live in a blue city and an even bluer neighborhood. We live here on purpose: We wanted to be close to our families, but without the...

When your 8-year-old openly identifies as gay, people ask questions. I get it. Most people don't associate being gay with children. There's one type of question I get a lot. It always comes from straight people. Sometimes they are being sarcastic and snide, and sometimes they're just concerned,...

Coming-out stories are a significant part of being gay. I am lucky to have so many people share their coming-out stories with me. I love hearing them, and I'm always ready to hear another. Some of them are tales filled with understanding and love, and some are overwhelmed by sadness,...

There is this post I always want to write. I want to tell the story of an average Saturday.

My husband finally manages to wake me up about 15 minutes before we're supposed to meet our friends for breakfast at our neighborhood's local café. We manage to get our three...

On Dec. 10 a conservative politician in the UK commented, "I think most parents would prefer their children not to be gay." As the mom of an openly gay son, that comment pisses me off, but it doesn't surprise me. It's certainly not new and is...

Every time I hear about a Hollywood remake of one of my old favorite movies, I roll my eyes. Seriously, does the world really need a remake of The Karate Kid? The original movie is great. Sure, Daniel-san's pants are one of the reasons I shudder when people talk about...

Some things are clichés for a reason: because they happen all the damn time. Plus-size women having gay best friends is one of these things. It happens all over the place, but when I started poking around online, looking for the topic, I didn't find a lot. Most things I...

I was a little tense before the election. OK, maybe "a little tense" aren't the right words. Maybe "really could have used an IV of Xanax" is more accurate. As the mother of a young gay son (and as a human being in general), I have loudly applauded...

Before I even start, for full disclosure, I'm a Democrat. I come from a long line of proud and often loud Democrats. I voted for Barack Obama in 2008, and I'm planning to vote for him again. But I live in a red state, one that Obama didn't win last...

My oldest son has always been into fashion. When he was only five years old he already had a love of fedoras and "close-pants" (known to the rest of us as skinny jeans). When he started paying attention to what people were wearing on television shows, he would occasionally request...

I think every parent has those discussions they don't want to have with their children. There are definitely a few I'm not looking forward to. Like the conversation we'll have to have the day one of our "friends" gets a big mouth and tells our kids the story how my...

In the past few years more and more shows have included gay characters, which is a very good thing. We have Glee, Modern Family, Smash, Pretty Little Liars, American Horror Story, and many others. But of all those shows, the only one my kid is allowed to watch (and that's...

It's that time of year again: back-to-school time! This is a busy time of year for us, as it is for most parents. Mostly it's about shopping. The kids need new school clothes, backpacks, water bottles, and sundry school supplies. But as parents of a gay-identified second-grader, we...

I'm not a sentimental person. I don't collect things or keep mementos. I didn't buy any high school yearbooks or go to my college graduation ceremony. (I graduated. Why did I have to sit through all those speeches and spend money on a super itchy gown?) I think I have...