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Eat Cheesecake

Posted: 03/19/2013 2:14 pm

Eat Cheesecake

The simple trick that saved our company (and our blood pressure)

Before Kate and I began Skillcrush, we ran a web design and development company. In that company we built websites for clients big and small.

If you have ever worked with clients you know that they have a special talent for pushing your buttons. It's not that they are objectively annoying, they are, after all, usually just expressing their preferences, but whether it's that they don't like your color choices, want to make a major last minute change or are just feeling a bit neglected, it's easy to end up feeling like it's you against them.

Early on in our company we found ourselves repeatedly getting frustrated with our clients and their seemingly endless needs and desires.

A client would email us about some change, large or small, we wouldn't take it well, passive aggressive or aggressively aggressive emails would fly, everyone would get upset, and soon we would find ourselves ensnared in a big old, completely avoidable, MESS.

After having similar incidents playout with a number of clients, it began to dawn on us that we couldn't push off all of the responsibility to our clients and their "unreasonableness." They might have been setting the bait (sometimes unwittingly), but we sure as hell were taking it.

The problem we realized was that email made it so easy, fast and impersonal to respond to our clients, that we would get caught up in the moment and say things and act in ways that we really weren't proud of.

After some discussion, we decided that we needed a code word, something that would stop us in our tracks and remind us to take time to consider our response.

But what word could we use? We knew from experience that telling one another to "calm down" was NOT the answer. Those words seemed to have another, equally deleterious effect: "calm down" only flamed the fire and often redirected it towards whomever had the poor sense to utter the phrase.

No, we needed something different. Something unrelated, something funny, something that would not only stop us from sending THAT email but also make us a laugh.

Eat Cheesecake

The code word would be... cheesecake!

Neither of us can remember who suggested cheesecake, but the second we heard it we knew it was perfect.

When one of us got caught up in the moment, the other would say: "Hey, I think you need to go eat some cheesecake."

Soon "cheesecake" became a running joke that could be applied to all sorts of sticky situations.

Did you receive an unnecessarily hostile email from a client? That client must not be eating their cheesecake.

Got a pile of last minute client changes? Looks like it's time to go eat a whole cheesecake.

Find yourself being yelled at by your business partner? Time to hit them in the face with a cheesecake.

The trick was simple, but it worked. By invoking cheesecake, we were reminded to take a step back and act from a place of calm, not agitation. And the results? Remarkable: happier clients, and two much more relaxed ladies.

What tricks have you used for handling difficult work situations? Tell us in the comments!

 

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