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Warm Heartedness: The Key To Inner Peace

Posted: 04/17/2012 9:01 am

This afternoon the Dalai Lama addressed the public at the Stand Sheriff stadium at the University of Hawaii. Introduced by Pierre Omidyer, who organized this event with his wife Pam, His Holiness talked about the spirit of Aloha that points the way towards making peace. It symbolizes the qualities of kindness, warm-heartedness, unity, joyfulness, humility patience and perseverance, service to others and seeing the good in all, all the qualities that the Dalai Lama practices.

In his talk today, as always, he started by saying how he is one of us and to think of him like an old friend. There is no difference between him and us, he said. He talked about how the way to happiness is the result of one's own right actions, including physical, verbal and mental actions.

This includes a hearty body and a hearty mind that leads to Inner Peace. A disturbed mind that has too much stress and anxiety develops frustration and anger and cannot have peace.
Ninety-percent of those negative emotions, psychologists have found, are actually mental negative projections that only serve to distance us from the reality of what is.

So what is the key to Inner Peace? It is simple, so simple.
The key to Inner Peace is warm-heartedness because then we bridge the gap of separation between us humans. As we become closer, anxiety is reduced, fear is reduced, insecurity I reduced--and compassion increases. Trust develops, which leads to self-confidence and the ability to be transparent, because then there is no fear.

I had the chance to talk about this to my new friend, Victor Chan, whom I met at the conference.

Victor is the co-author, with the Dalai Lama of Wisdom of Forgiveness: Intimate Conversations and Journeys. Seven years ago, he founded the Dalai Lama Center with His Holiness in Vancouver. Its mission is to foster educating the heart in schools.

I asked Victor how the Dalai Lama achieved this state of consciousness, because Victor has known him for forty years.

Victor said, "He meditates every day from 3:30 in the morning for a few hours, and he has been doing his spiritual practice now for six decades, come rain or shine. This includes meditating and visualizing his own death and his mortality. He shapes his motivation of his practice to be of service to humanity."

Like everything else in life, it takes discipline devotion and putting the time in to get where we want to go. It takes unwavering willpower to attain this kind of spiritual progress, and there is no quick fix or fast track to transcendence.

Malcolm Gladwell talks about the 10,000 hours rule, the time investment that one has to put in when striving for mastery of any kind of vocation. But I guess for the Dalai Lama or anyone who has a spiritual quest it's 100,000 hours or more.

Like everything else, the road to a thousand miles starts with one step or one chant at a time and an intention to connect to the higher spirit and the higher truth.

Someone asked him a question what to do when he is practicing compassion, but the people around him are resentful. The Dalai Lama replied, "If I wanted an excuse to give up on compassion, I had plenty of excuses. Exiled from my country for 50 years, I had to develop more experiences and practice compassion because compassion is enhanced when you are facing challenging situations."

The way he learned was by "the four dimensions of looking at a situation from different perspectives." For examples, the Tibetans are divided in the region geographically, but because of Chinese rule they are united in their determination to preserve their culture and religion.

His Holiness said that if you look from a wider perspective you'll see the positive in every situation. It is important not to view things in a narrow perspective, but to see situations from all points of the compass.

The event ended with one of most delightful sights I have ever seen: fifty little girls and about 10 boys came on the stage to dance the Hula to a song called "I am Happier When You are Near Me."

They were so charming and gracious in their dance, which demonstrated such unity. In their round circular movements of grace, tenderness and flexibility, the children encapsulated the message of the Dalai Lama, with dance of a hearty body, hearty mind and hearty heart.

We all left ignited, with our hearts definitely warmed up.

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This afternoon the Dalai Lama addressed the public at the Stand Sheriff stadium at the University of Hawaii. Introduced by Pierre Omidyer, who organized this event with his wife Pam, His Holiness talk...
This afternoon the Dalai Lama addressed the public at the Stand Sheriff stadium at the University of Hawaii. Introduced by Pierre Omidyer, who organized this event with his wife Pam, His Holiness talk...
 
 
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polkarde
Let freedom ring!
12:24 PM on 04/21/2012
Herein lies the precepts of 'The art of happiness'...so inspiring and thought-provoking.
03:51 PM on 04/18/2012
My heart is warmed by your post, Agapi. Over the years I've surrounded myself with people I trust, but from time to time I meet people with resentment or anger and my compassion sometimes disappears. We can't shield ourselves or our loved ones from the real world. Thanks for reminding to keep practicing!
05:36 PM on 04/18/2012
Thank you so much, Leslie. I really appreciate you taking the time to read and comment. It is so important to keep practicing compassion, no matter how challenging the situation. Thank you for this reminder. With love, xoAgapi
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Ed and Deb Shapiro
02:44 PM on 04/18/2012
Thanks Agapi - beautiful heart article -
We have met with His Holiness at his residence in McLeod Ganj in India!
On our honeymoon-
He greeted us similar to what you said:
When we bowed full prostration at his feet -
he lifted us up & said :
"we are all equal here!"
That was over 25 years ago & is deep within our hearts!
HH is the kindest person we ever met!

Much metta,
Ed
05:34 PM on 04/18/2012
Oh, that is such a wonderful story! Thank you so much for sharing it with us. How beautiful that you met him on your honeymoon. Thank you so much. With love, xoAgapi
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Ed and Deb Shapiro
06:07 PM on 04/18/2012
Agapi - you make people feel so good!
You make me feel happiness!
Ed
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arachne646
No more hurting people--Peace
11:22 AM on 04/18/2012
Thank-you for this account of his Holiness' visit; I always enjoy reading about him or reading what he writes. His spiritual wisdom shines for all of us.
03:02 PM on 04/18/2012
Thanks so much for reading and commenting. His wisdom is a beacon. I'm so happy this resonated with you. With love, xoAgapi
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ProCynic
Those that govern intend to be our masters.
10:39 AM on 04/18/2012
The Dalai Lama visited Seattle a few years ago. The stadium was packed as tight as if the Beatles or Pink Floyd announced a reunion tour. Many more watched the live coverage. I have noticed a distinct change in people in the area since then. Nothing magic, but when teachings like this rise to the general public, people take notice and make it a part of their life.

I like to use this as an example of the open nature of most people to accept messages like this. We are all capable of much good and humanity.
03:07 PM on 04/18/2012
Yes, indeed. We are all capable of much good and humanity. I am happy that this message resonated with you. With love, xoAgapi
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Nathaliefranks
10:30 AM on 04/18/2012
What a beautiful post, thanks for sharing it with us.
03:06 PM on 04/18/2012
Thank you for reading and commenting. It means a lot to me. With love, xoAgapi
09:18 AM on 04/18/2012
Thank you!
03:05 PM on 04/18/2012
Thank you for reading. With love, xoAgapi
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Shandra Brown Valyear
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06:53 AM on 04/18/2012
What an inspiring, compassionate article to start my day! Thank you! Especially when there has been so much hatred in the news.
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BBRCMOR11
No added sugar...
03:51 AM on 04/18/2012
Thank you so much for this article. It is an answer to a prayer.
03:00 PM on 04/18/2012
Thank you so much for reading and commenting. I am so happy to hear that the Dalai Lama's message resonated with you. With love, xoAgapi
03:04 PM on 04/18/2012
Yes, we can all benefit from focusing on more positivity in our daily lives. Thank you very much for reading and commenting. With love, xoAgapi
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Anne Naylor
Celebrant, Weddings and Other Blessings
03:37 AM on 04/18/2012
Hello Agapi,

This article warms my heart and fills me with joy - thank you! A peaceful start to my day.

Love and blessings to you,
Anne
02:59 PM on 04/18/2012
Dear Anne,
Your comment warms my heart and fills me with joy. Thank you so much for reading and commenting.
With love and blessings to you,
xoAgapi
03:27 AM on 04/18/2012
I don't recall him dying for anybody sins. Jesus Christ is the true Savior of the world. And anyone who does not point others to the way of Jesus the Christ is self-serving. We are truly going to be sorry if we keep looking for pseudo-saviors. We all can try to take different paths to get to heaven, but it's only one name that can get you in and that's tha name of Jesus Christ. Acts 4:11 Neither is there salvation in any other: for there is none other name under heaven given among men, whereby we must be saved.
07:46 AM on 04/18/2012
I too am Christian(Roman Cathoic) and know Jesus Christ. However, what is wrong with this article? This is a wonderful example of what Jesus taught us. Try to be open about what is being taugh here.
01:19 AM on 04/21/2012
If you are truly born-again Christian, you would not have a problem with my comment, that is if you are a born again believer.
09:18 AM on 04/18/2012
I have a feeling we'll all be fine :)
01:14 AM on 04/21/2012
Please dont be fooled. Dont die without asking the LORD Jesus Christ into your heart and repent. The wrath of GOD is real, and we are going to be judged.
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Cindbird
Using my head for something other than a hat rack.
02:15 AM on 04/18/2012
Thank you for covering this visit by His Holiness for those of us who can't be there. I was lucky enough to get to hear him in Atlanta, Ga. several years ago. He is a wonderful speaker. And his practice allows the rest of us a glimpse of what we could achieve if we would just stop and try.
02:57 PM on 04/18/2012
That sounds like it was a wonderful experience. Yes, I agree: he is a very wonderful speaker. Both his message and his practice are inspiring. Thank you, and keep living with your heart open. With love, xoAgapi
01:09 AM on 04/18/2012
What follows is not going to be a popular opinion here, so I sincerely apologize in advance to any who may take exception to my impression of 'His Holiness'.

I'm a little uncomfortable with calling any human being "His Holiness". I also see considerable tension, if not outright contradiction, between the virtues he professes and the way he lives (his palacial residence, his regal entourage, his extremely awkward distasteful penchant for hobnobbing with Hollywood glitterati like Richard Gere, etc.). He says some interesting things but I find most of what he says to be fairly shallow bromides.

I also see contradictions in his expressed admiration for science and critical thinking and the fact that Tibetan Buddhism is one of the most superstition laden variants of Eastern traditions.

Nevertheless, I'd trade his "old time religion" for the sort that currently prevails in the USA in a heartbeat.
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09:27 PM on 04/17/2012
nice article
thank you
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A lie is something a voter can believe in!
10:04 PM on 04/17/2012
Just wanted to say hello; Hello...!
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10:35 PM on 04/17/2012
good evening LT, long time no see, whats new besides all the news we've shifted through the past year (reminds me of Auld Lang Syne)
10:47 PM on 04/17/2012
Hello! Thank you for reading. I appreciate it. The message of His Holiness is so simple, yet profound. With love, xoAgapi
10:46 PM on 04/17/2012
Thank you for taking the time to read and comment. With love, xoAgapi
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Penocea
What you are, the world is ...
06:30 PM on 04/17/2012
One of my favorite philosophers wrote in 1849 "To bring us what all want and are seeking, namely-happiness, we need to have perfect control of our mind and thought at all times and places. We need to keep always our mind present with us." Meditation takes great discipline and effort. But, alas, not many people are willing to put forth the time or trouble required to transform thier lives and would rather blame their current situations on Republicans or Rich people.

Two opposite thoughts cannot dwell in the mind at once. Love/ Hate. Gratitude/ Envy. Joy/Sorrow. Try it, it's an impossibility. The discipline it takes to control the mind to do as you will it, to be happy, grateful and compassionate, requires a sense of self-awareness severely lacking in our culture today. Not to mention political philosophies convincing individuals they are not capable of making personal decisions but must be organized by the government for their own good.

Meditate and become enlightened.
10:49 PM on 04/17/2012
Thank you for your thoughtful comment. My mother used to always say, "You can't be unhappy and grateful at the same time." She was right. I appreciate you taking the time to read and comment. With love, xoAgapi
07:31 PM on 04/20/2012
not true....i dislike rashad evans and i like him. if hes fighting machida, i will boo him. if hes fighting bones jones i will empathize with em a lil more.