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Aidan Donnelley Rowley
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Aidan Donnelley Rowley spends her days writing and raising her three young girls. A former lawyer who was born and raised in Manhattan, Rowley published her first novel Life After Yes (HarperCollins/Avon) in May 2010 and muses daily at her blog Ivy League Insecurities. Recently, she embarked upon an existential experiment of sorts: A Year Without Wine.


Entries by Aidan Donnelley Rowley

If the World Were Perfect

(0) Comments | Posted May 7, 2015 | 11:38 AM

If the world were perfect, if everything went according to plan, I would have a 9-year-old tomorrow. It isn't. It didn't. I won't.

May 8th, 2006 was my first due date. I remember my OB doing the math in her examination room, telling me this. I remember realizing that I...

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Please, Please, Enjoy Life

(5) Comments | Posted September 19, 2014 | 2:53 PM

Please, please, enjoy life.

These are not my words. They are Charlotte Kitley's words. Words from her final blog post entitled "And So There Must Come An End." Charlotte had cancer and died this week, on Tuesday, September 16th. Her final piece on The Huffington Post UK was...

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The Biggest Mistake We Mothers Will Make

(1) Comments | Posted May 9, 2014 | 3:02 PM

It is the Friday morning before Mother's Day. I sit here in my kitchen blinking into a screen. I wear pajamas and glasses and my hair is badly tangled from sleep and dreams. My mind is swaddled in an all-too-familiar fog; I woke up at 4:30 a.m. to try to...

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She Is Me

(4) Comments | Posted March 28, 2014 | 3:18 PM

2007. I am a brand new mother. It is springtime. My daughter, born on New Year's Day, is a few months old. The weather is finally nice in Manhattan, where I live, and my cozy stint of hibernation is over. On this particular day, I take the baby to a...

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I Knew Something Was Very Wrong

(8) Comments | Posted June 4, 2013 | 1:23 PM

This morning was a typical morning. Probably as typical as they come. I slept a bit too late and surrendered my chance to shower. I threw my hair back in a pony, slipped on workout clothes, ran around chasing kids with bits of breakfast (well, that was more Husband) and...

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A Priceless Mother's Day Gift to Myself

(11) Comments | Posted May 10, 2013 | 5:05 PM

Parenting people is the hardest thing I've ever done. Hands down. There is no instruction manual to turn to, no foolproof lists of Always and Never, no one-size-fits all cloak to don and fight the good fight. There is no right way to do this thing I am doing and...

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This Is Childhood: One

(24) Comments | Posted January 17, 2013 | 9:51 AM

This post is the first in the series "This Is Childhood," which captures moments in our children's lives, from age 1 to 10.

Little Girl,

Last week, we visited your big sister's kindergarten class during lunchtime to celebrate her 6th birthday. Our visit conflicted with your nap-time and it was...

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My Miscarriage: The Story I Will Keep Telling

(210) Comments | Posted October 17, 2012 | 1:11 PM

October 17, 2005. A Monday. Seven years ago. We went to Husband's college over the weekend to watch a soccer game. I sat in the stands, rubbing my belly, drinking in the fall air, dreaming of one day bringing our child back there to the bucolic green campus of Daddy's...

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Family Photos on Facebook: What Are We Trying to Prove?

(6) Comments | Posted September 19, 2012 | 4:00 PM


I have decided something. I will spring for a professional family shoot twice a year -- once during the warm months, once during the cold. Admittedly, these sessions are always a bit torturous; the girls know they must perform and aren't...

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Interview With Happier At Home Author Gretchen Rubin

(0) Comments | Posted September 4, 2012 | 3:28 PM

Like many of you, I am a huge fan of Gretchen Rubin of The Happiness Project book and blog fame. Any minute now, Gretchen's much-anticipated follow-up book Happier at Home hits shelves. I was lucky enough to read an early copy of...

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The Truth About Parenthood

(45) Comments | Posted August 14, 2012 | 2:14 PM

Sometimes, I have this imaginary conversation with an imaginary friend who is days from giving birth to her first child. In this fictional scenario, we are huddled at a small table in a coffee shop and she, my fictional friend who is about to pop, shifts uncomfortably in her wooden...

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Are Men Wired to Cheat?

(14) Comments | Posted June 22, 2012 | 10:22 AM

We had friends over for a casual night of beverages and bites. Barefoot kids swarmed around us, wearing winter hats and wielding Wikki Stix lassos, riveted by some thief game they'd invented. The whole scene was straight out of a Wes Anderson movie. (Go see the quirky and fabulous

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5 Reasons I've Given Up Alcohol for One Year

(12) Comments | Posted June 19, 2012 | 10:05 AM

So it's been five months. Five months without a lick of booze. And I feel good about this experiment even though it's really really brutal and annoying at times. Something I've realized, and genuinely come to appreciate, is how personal this decision is. As I approach the halfway mark of...

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