This week on Coffee Shop Confessions, a mom helps herself to the wine, beer and liquor she confiscated from her teenager after catching him throwing an unsanctioned cocktail party at home.
Was she wrong? Personally, I think that being a parent has its ups and downs, and you need to do whatever it takes to keep yourself sane. If that includes cocktails (one or two, not ten), then go for it. Goodness knows I've been in situations in my life where having a drink makes it all a little more bearable.
She definitely needed to determine whether her son had provided all the booze himself -- and if he did, his allowance is clearly too high. If his friends had stolen it from their parents, restitution is in order. But if he did buy it all himself, I see no reason to blame this CafeMom reader for confiscation and consumption. Let the kid know that you are disposing of it all, one bottle at a time, though I wouldn't recommend doing it in front of him.
Hope you all have enjoyed the first season of Coffee Shop! We'll be back later in the year, and until then, let me know in the comments what other marriage/family/kid topics you'd like me to cover in my blogs during the break.
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Since Women = Victim, there should be no rules applied to hear, as reparation for her victimhood.
The comparison isn't really valid. I agree that not getting drunk is a good practice, but my kids aren't allowed to drink or drive, because they are underage. When they are legally old enough to do these things, I hope they'll be responsible and I'll have some control about driving until they are 18, but after that, it is up to them...excuses or not.
When you think about a waitress coming home to the family and sloshing down a couple of her son's Buds every night, you might be tempted to question her fitness as a parent.
Many Americans have the weirdest relationship with alcohol. They are either bombed when they drink or abstinent. If kids learn to have respect for alcohol and to learn about healthy limits from the beginning, then they learn how to behave properly.
Noticed groups of kids going through the hedge, then other groups one at a time heading in the same area. HMMM....went through myself and found a beer and hard liquor neatly stashed over there, neighbors were away on vacation and so that's where they stashed it. Made her watch me drain it all right into the ground. She was furious with me and didn't speak to me for almost a week.
2 weeks later, another graduation party, the parents were not quite as much of a 'buzz kill' as I was. 2 kids left the party and got into a head on collision (one was my daughter's very good friend), both died. She came home and collapsed in my arms and thanked me over and over for not letting anyone drink at her party.
Not that I'm 'all that' but sometimes it's better to not be your child's 'friend' and to be your child's parent - which they need more than ever when they reach an age where they can get their hands on alcohol.