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Alexis Sclamberg
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Alexis Sclamberg is the co-founder of Elevate Gen Y, a company that offers online programming and live events for women in their 20s and 30s around personal and professional development, health and wellness, and philanthropy. Alexis is also a personal development writer and speaker.

A former lawyer, Alexis has been called “the self-help voice of her generation,” and is at work on her first book, Borrowed Wisdom: The Best Advice They Never Tell Us. Alexis contributes personal essays to publications including and Cosmopolitan magazine, Women’s Media Center, Women’s eNews, Runner’s World, Hello Giggles, and others.

Alexis is an Instructor at Barnard’s Athena Center for Leadership Studies and is an honored invitee to the Renaissance Weekend. She is a magna cum laude graduate of the University of Pennsylvania Law School and lives in San Francisco.

Entries by Alexis Sclamberg

You're Making It All Up: Why Your Reality Isn't Reality At All

(0) Comments | Posted August 11, 2015 | 8:14 PM


I've been thinking a lot lately about the stories we make up in our heads all day, every day.

We ascribe meaning to events, behaviors, and the blank spaces in between so regularly that our reality is truly a creation of our imagination.

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How Melissa Etheridge Got Everything She Wanted (and How You Can Too)

(1) Comments | Posted July 6, 2015 | 12:41 PM


I had the incredible good fortune of speaking to Melissa Etheridge on the phone recently about my favorite topic: manifesting.

As the co-founder of a company focused on personal growth, I spend my days learning from incredible experts and sharing their wisdom to...

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Never Text First? Dating Advice That Actually Works

(8) Comments | Posted April 30, 2015 | 2:48 PM

I've been thinking a lot lately about the way we communicate, particularly as it pertains to dating -- a relatively new world for me after a decade of serial monogamy, including a marriage.

I've been mired in conversation with friends about the texts and dating app messages and phone...

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The 5 Life Changing Truths You Need to Know for 2015

(1) Comments | Posted December 30, 2014 | 4:46 PM

As we head into 2015, you can read list after list of resolutions you should make, advice you should take, and lessons you should carry with you into 2015. In fact, as we head into the new year, I have been making my own lists -- and given that my...

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Live in the Vineyard Selects Artists With a Key Ingredient: A Big Heart

(0) Comments | Posted December 23, 2014 | 1:35 PM

Last month, I had the honor of attending Live in the Vineyard, a magical (and exclusive) music, food and wine festival in Napa, California. Twice a year, Live in the Vineyard welcomes music industry executives and lucky radio contest winners for four days of delicious food, fabulous wine and beautiful...

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How to Change Your Mind to Change Your Life: Why You Need a New Personality to Make a New Personal Reality

(3) Comments | Posted November 17, 2014 | 7:17 PM


I'm admittedly a personal growth junkie. I've read all the books, and I regularly listen to teleseminars and webinars that teach me how to live meaningfully and mindfully, how to truly tap into the power of my authentic being, how to meditate, how...

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4 Things You Need to Know to Get a Life You Love

(2) Comments | Posted October 1, 2014 | 9:36 AM


A few years ago, I was a licensed lawyer who didn't want to practice law, in an unhappy relationship and feeling constantly fatigued despite my best efforts at exercise, eating well and getting plenty of sleep. I wasn't living a life I loved,...

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Should You Listen to Your Best Friend?

(0) Comments | Posted July 16, 2014 | 11:47 AM

I was hanging out with my best friend in the world the other day. We've known each other since preschool (and she just asked me to be her Maid of Honor!). This is the kind of friendship in which you could talk for hours and hours and still have plenty...

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Jo Dee Messina's Me Will Make Your Soul Sing: New Album Wows Fans

(0) Comments | Posted June 26, 2014 | 7:08 PM

If you've ever been told you couldn't do something, if you've ever been told no when you really wanted a yes, if you've ever had to muster up all your guts and gumption to do it anyways, then Jo Dee Messina's new tunes will strike a chord with you.


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Why Getting What You Want Requires the Opposite of What You Think

(0) Comments | Posted June 26, 2014 | 3:17 PM

Last night I boarded a plane for Phoenix and before we even took off, I found myself deep in conversation with an incredibly kind and fascinating man. I'm big on talking to strangers -- I've met the most interesting people by striking up conversation on planes and trains and park...

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Colbie Caillat Surprises Southwest Passengers With a Serenede

(0) Comments | Posted June 13, 2014 | 4:22 PM

Imagine wiling away your time on your Southwest flight back home, snacking on peanuts, watching the clouds whiz by, listening to the ding of the seatbelt sign and the whirring of the plane engines, and suddenly, there's an announcement overhead that two-time Grammy-award winning musician Colbie Caillat is -- surprise!...

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More Than Just Good Food and Wine? Putting Music on the Map in Napa

(0) Comments | Posted May 16, 2014 | 2:46 PM

I recently had the chance to sit down with David Graham, the new Managing Director of Bottle Rock -- the multi-day musical festival set to take Napa by storm this May 30-June 1.

Resuscitated from its rocky financial inception last year by Dave and his team of partners, Bottle Rock...

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Your Family Is Actually Not the Problem: What I Missed Last Thanksgiving

(0) Comments | Posted November 27, 2013 | 1:05 PM

Last year I decided to depart from the standard Thanksgiving-inspired what-are-you-grateful-for theme and wrote an article about facing your "Thanksgiving firing squad." The idea was that many of you go home to families that judge and criticize you -- you're not married? You're still doing that job? You really haven't...

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Why Are You Hiding From What You Really Want?

(0) Comments | Posted August 1, 2013 | 2:44 PM

I had one of those connect-the-dots, flash of brilliance moments. I was snuggled up in bed with Martha Beck's Finding Your Own North Star when it hit me.

My fear wants to drown out my intuition.

There I am, eyes closed, spinning up my wildest dreams, when my...

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How Simple Technology Can Make a World of Difference

(1) Comments | Posted July 31, 2013 | 3:38 PM

It's easy to imagine trying to solve the world's problems through technology, but much harder to figure out where to even start -- and to conceptualize, practically speaking, what that would look like.

I recently had the chance to learn about an organization that won an award for doing...

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Hip-Hop Seder? Contemporary Jewish Museum Swaps Seder Table for Turntables

(2) Comments | Posted March 28, 2013 | 11:27 AM

On Tuesday night, I sat around the Seder table with a group of young Russian Jews, most of whom knew little about Passover or had never celebrated the holiday before. These are the children of parents and grandparents who were denied access to their Jewish heritage and came to America...

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Valentine's Day is a Man's Job (But I'm Still a Feminist)

(19) Comments | Posted February 13, 2013 | 6:41 PM

The moment the calendar page flipped to February my friend was already thinking about it.

"Ugh," my friend sighed, looking at the blank 14th square in her calendar. "I just can't be disappointed again on Valentine's Day."

This was a story I had heard on repeat. Her boyfriend, so...

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Why the Worst Choices are the Best Choices -- A New Kind of New Year's Resolution

(17) Comments | Posted December 31, 2012 | 10:16 AM

As the New Year approaches and everyone's starting to reflect and resolve--evaluating what they've accomplished last year, and looking towards what they want to do in the next--I've been thinking a lot about one of the key pieces of advice I share in my (upcoming) book: make "unreasonable" choices. Because...

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Facing the Holiday Firing Squad?

(0) Comments | Posted November 26, 2012 | 5:36 PM

Now that you've gotten your dose of gratitude talk (if you're like me, you got 100 emails from people you're subscribed to thanking you so much for being part of their tribe, or telling you what they're thankful for or asking you what you're thankful for -- the same goes...

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This Is Not Bragging

(8) Comments | Posted November 1, 2012 | 4:35 PM

Do you know that feeling you get when you just can't wait to tell the world about your latest achievement? So you can prove yourself to everyone -- especially the naysayers?

This isn't bragging I'm talking about, it's quite the opposite. It's the kind of showing off reserved only for...

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