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09/10/2012 06:03 pm ET Updated Nov 10, 2012

Success Advice That Actually Works (You're Going to Want to Hear This)

I recently devoured Tama Kieves's new book Inspired & Unstoppable: Wildly Succeeding in Your Life's Work! In it, Tama instantly becomes your career coach, biggest cheerleader and most understanding champion. She tells you why everything you think you need to succeed may actually be standing in the way of your success and shares why doing the work you love will bring you the best results. And she's not the woo-woo type that says things that sound nice but aren't actually applicable to your life or your business. She's a Harvard educated attorney-turned-super successful and sought-after career coach whose own story proves that she's on to something big.

Here are some of my favorite lessons from Tama's book for succeeding in your life's work:

1. Marry your dream. You and your dream are in it for the long haul. Rather than rush your dream -- which will just impoverish your experience -- relax and give your dream the time it needs. Though it's natural to feel antsy, Tama questions the idea that great things happen at great speed. "Train wrecks happen at great speed," Tama writes. "It's okay to explore, practice and deepen your craft."

2. Circumstances fluctuate, but your experience of ease and faith doesn't need to fluctuate with them. You know the ups and downs: one day you've scored a big client, sold a piece of your art, or found your name in print or lights, and the next day you're wondering how you'll ever pay the rent or find an agent or sell another one of your products. The ups and downs are part of the journey. But what doesn't have to be a part of the journey is all the angst and worry. Ride the waves.

3. Do the activities that come easy for you. I often come across tasks that I feel obligated to complete, but they drain and exhaust me. Sound familiar? Instead of trudging through them, take action that you have the energy to take, and either outsource or cross off the ones that deplete you. "Release yourself from unnecessary pain," Tama writes. "Move with your heart, not with your head." You will do and be your best at work you love to do. The rest is just distraction.

4. Accept imperfection. Don't wait to take action on that dream until everything's perfect. You have to start somewhere, and that somewhere is right here, right now. What's your need to be perfect costing you? My guess it's the chance to actually live the life you want to live, get your business off the ground and make your dream come true. As Tama says, the longer you avoid the possibility of failure, the longer you avoid success.

5. Go your own way. The way to success is your way. You get to discover, innovate, create and forge your own path. "Creating the work you love is not a path of doing everything right," Tama writes, "creating the work you love is a path of doing everything right --for you."

6. You're irresistibly attractive when you're naturally attracted. "Great energy draws abundant opportunities to you," Tama writes, "it's just natural and inevitable." So when you're filled with love and joy for the work you're doing and the activities you're engaged in, you're automatically attracting the opportunities and people that are right for you.

7. Excitement always leads you somewhere, unless you dismiss its value. You know those moments when you feel totally emerged, exhilarated and excited -- a total "yes" moment -- even when nothing totally concrete has happened? Don't discount that feeling. "It's not about literal outcome," Tama writes, "It's more about how an encounter makes you feel, the truth it ignites within you, the possibility that becomes real through you, and how you use and express that energy." Though these moments may fall apart later -- deals don't go through, clients don't sign up, a big account doesn't buy your product -- you have to relish the possibility. "Possibilities keep us alive," Tama writes. "Even if they don't turn out the way we hope, their energy gets us somewhere."

You can find Tama's book on Amazon. To get more from Alexis, check out her website.

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