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Allison Gilbert
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Allison Gilbert is an Emmy award-winning journalist and critically acclaimed author. Her new book Passed and Present: Keeping Memories of Loved Ones Alive (Seal Press: April 12, 2016), is the first book to focus exclusively on fun, creative, and inspiring ways to honor and celebrate the family and friends we never want to forget. She is also author of Parentless Parents: How the Loss of Our Mothers and Fathers Impacts the Way We Raise Our Children and Always Too Soon: Voices of Support for Those Who Have Lost Both Parents. Gilbert lives in New York with her husband and two children. Learn more about Gilbert here:

Entries by Allison Gilbert

Top 5 Travel Ideas to Honor Connections from the Past

(0) Comments | Posted January 25, 2016 | 4:17 PM


As the entire mid-Atlantic battles Winter Storm Jonas, I find myself fantasizing about heading someplace warm. Ecotourism. Adventure travel. Volunteer tourism. So many options to consider! But this winter, I'm especially thinking about vacations that celebrate loved ones.

Author Hope Edelman and...

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David Bowie and a National Call to Cure Cancer

(0) Comments | Posted January 19, 2016 | 2:15 PM

This week has been full of the stories that reverberate through social media. First David Bowie succumbed to cancer, then just a few days later, Alan Rickman.

These stories are sadly nothing new. And surely these celebrity cancer deaths won't be the last. Bowie and Rickman are just the...

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Yogi Berra and Lessons on Loss

(0) Comments | Posted September 24, 2015 | 2:07 PM

Baseball fans have been long been familiar with the stats that made Yogi Berra a legend (10-time World Series champion, 18-time All-Star) but it's the other less known and deeply personal facts that got Berra and I talking not too many years ago: Berra lost his mother when he was...

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Why I'm Giving It All to the National September 11 Memorial & Museum

(10) Comments | Posted May 21, 2014 | 10:37 AM

The National September 11 Memorial Museum opens to the public today. Timed to this historic moment, co-editors of Covering Catastrophe: Broadcast Journalists Report September 11 have legally transferred all publishing rights to the Memorial & Museum to support its work in perpetuity.

The Museum, before it...

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The Dangers Of Having A Baby After 35: What Your Doctor Won't Tell You

(174) Comments | Posted August 2, 2011 | 11:01 PM

If you are over 35, you're probably aware of the increased risks of having a baby. Older women are more likely to have miscarriages, c-sections, suffer high blood pressure, and develop gestational diabetes. Your child is more likely to be born too early, not weigh enough, have chromosomal birth defects...

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Parentless Parents: Best Tools for Remembering Our Parents

(0) Comments | Posted July 5, 2011 | 1:21 PM

My dad would have been 73 in June. I often wonder what he would he look like if he were still alive. Would he still be working as an architect? Would he be traveling as much as he once did?

My father died just three days after September 11th...

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Parentless Parents: Remembering Your Dad on Father's Day

(4) Comments | Posted June 19, 2011 | 10:00 AM

Father's Day can be particularly challenging if you've lost your dad. I'm a mom of two young children, and my father passed away when my son, our oldest, was just 18-months-old.

While I'll be happily celebrating my husband and father-in-law this Sunday, part of me will also be grieving,...

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Parentless Parents: Strategies for a Better Mother's Day

(4) Comments | Posted May 7, 2011 | 3:45 AM

It's often difficult to remember your mother and rejoice over your life as a mother at the same time. From nursery school on, we are trained to celebrate this holiday, first by making our parents cards out of construction paper and pipe cleaners, and later by buying them gifts. Our...

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Prince William: Remembering His Mother on His Wedding Day

(30) Comments | Posted April 29, 2011 | 9:47 AM

Soon after Prince William told the world that he and Kate Middleton were engaged, we also learned that William had given Kate his mother's sapphire and diamond ring. Of the ring, William said he was just making sure his mother didn't miss out on the special occasion. "It's my mother's...

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Geraldine Ferraro: Personal Lessons from Another Parentless Parent

(18) Comments | Posted March 31, 2011 | 10:09 AM

I had the great pleasure of knowing Geraldine Ferraro during the writing of my book "Always Too Soon." She was exceptionally generous with me, and she never wavered in her enthusiasm for my project. In the most personal way imaginable, her outlook changed my life. This is my...

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Parentless Parents: Why Writing About Grief Makes Me Happy

(7) Comments | Posted March 26, 2011 | 1:05 PM

Several weeks ago my new book, "Parentless Parents," was published. This is the third book I've written that deals with mourning and loss. And while you might assume I'd be the last person you'd want to meet at a cocktail party, I've been told otherwise. I smile; I...

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Parentless Parents: It's My Birthday!

(6) Comments | Posted March 19, 2011 | 6:26 PM

Yesterday was my birthday, and here's what I did:

7:00 a.m. to 8:45 a.m.: Got birthday cuddles from kids. Opened birthday cards. Received small presents. Got kids off to school. Kissed husband. Felt lucky.

8:45 a.m.: Birthday breakfast with friends.

10 a.m.: Attended Geography Bee at son's school. He's in...

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Being A Parentless Parent: The Effect on You, Your Children and Your Marriage

(125) Comments | Posted February 15, 2011 | 11:02 AM

Both of my parents have passed away, and little has shaped the way I raise my children or affected the relationship I have with my husband and in-laws more than the fact that my mom and dad aren't here to be grandparents to my children. I am a parentless parent.

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Parentless Parents: The 'I' Factor

(0) Comments | Posted February 2, 2011 | 2:21 PM

Outside my family and closest circle of friends, I've never told anyone that I stuttered when I was little. Stuttering was a deeply upsetting part of my childhood. It caused me to be made fun of, forced me into speech therapy while other kids went to gym, and completely shaped...

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Parentless Parents: Teaching My Daughter About The Grandfather She Never Knew

(2) Comments | Posted January 22, 2011 | 2:20 AM

I took my eight-year-old daughter to the Museum of Modern Art in New York City yesterday, and I'm still in an awesome mood. The art was great, of course. She enjoyed looking at the Pollock's, Picasso's and Warhol's. But the real takeaway was what she learned about my father, her...

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Parentless Parents: Being Thankful on Thanksgiving

(1) Comments | Posted November 24, 2010 | 3:00 AM

One of the most gratifying themes I uncovered researching and writing my forthcoming book "Parentless Parents: How the Loss of Our Mothers and Fathers Impacts the Way We Raise Our Children" is just how healing Thanksgiving can be for those of us who have lost our parents.

Healing, you...

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What If Your Children Don't Have Grandparents?

(4) Comments | Posted September 9, 2010 | 5:27 PM

This coming Sunday is Grandparents Day, and while you may be skeptical about the influence grandparents have on grandchildren, let me tell you their impact is enormous and measurable. And it's because of that that I know my children are missing out on so much.

For years,...

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Elena Kagan: Getting to Know Her Through the Loss of Her Parents

(0) Comments | Posted May 12, 2010 | 2:51 PM

We've already learned that Elena Kagan, President Obama's nominee for the United States Supreme Court, is a remarkable woman with outstanding professional credentials. She's made history by becoming the first woman to be dean of Harvard Law School and the first woman to be solicitor general of the United States....

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Parentless Parents: Why Is Mother's Day So Hard?

(12) Comments | Posted May 7, 2010 | 8:02 PM

Mother's Day is this weekend and like most of you, I've gone shopping. Jewelry has always been my go-to favorite. Necklaces are easy to find, they come in all shapes and colors and, depending on the fluctuations to my bank account, I usually seem to find something to fit my...

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Fighting The Fear Of Failure: Approaching Deadlines

(6) Comments | Posted January 14, 2010 | 10:17 AM

Sometimes I am jerked awake by the same type of nightmare I used to have in college. I used to dream that I had to take a final exam for a class I'd forgotten to attend all semester. I now have the same sort of fear about writing - or...

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