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The Secret Diaries of Rhythmic Gymnasts

Posted: 02/ 1/2012 10:21 am

Amanda and Elaine Dai are sisters and competitive rhythmic gymnasts who train at Rhythmic Dreams in Newton, Massachusetts. "Rhythmic Diaries" is their account of balancing training and competing in this rigorous sport with being normal high school students.

Amanda Dai

Normally during school breaks, our training hours increase in length and frequency. For example, a normal three-hour training would extend to four hours, and there would be training each day of break. Winter break, however, is the exact opposite.

For one week, the gym is closed, no training is scheduled, and we have to practice at home. We are assigned some basic exercises, but to maintain our strength, flexibility and stamina, we have to do more than what is given. During break, our willpower is tested. We are driven by our want to improve and by our own ability to work hard without our coach. It is especially difficult to exercise on our own while on vacation. But the competitive season starts in a few weeks, and the pressure has settled in. The first half of the year has passed, meaning that training is going to become harder. We must be prepared to be pushed beyond our limits. On top of that, we will not be alleviated of homework. Instead, homework will increase in quantity, and juggling academics and gymnastics will be even more challenging. From here on, things only get more difficult. Is it worth it? Absolutely.

Rhythmic has taught me that hard work pays off, and that as long as I persist, I will improve. This mindset helped me significantly inside and outside the gym, as sometimes I lost sight of my goals. I recently experienced a phase during which I kept asking, "Why? Why do I train? Why do I continue to work?" Now the answer is obvious. I work to improve. There may not always be tangible rewards for working hard, but regardless, I have to persist. Although it sometimes may not seem worth the effort, working hard is inevitably the only way to improve. The improvements may go unrewarded, but they are just as valuable as any accomplishment that receives an award. These small progressions are what lead to a significant achievement, but the results may not show up immediately. Each day is an opportunity to work and therefore improve, but it's our choice whether or not we will take advantage of it. If we do not work, we will not improve at the slightest. If we do, the improvement may be so small that we do not notice the difference, but we are one step closer to reaching our goals. And so each day of break, I do the warm-up like I would at the gym. Even without my coach, I put in my maximum effort. Every exercise I do benefits me. I may not see the results now, but I will someday. I just have to keep working.

Elaine Dai

I won't lie -- among my teammates, I'm neither the strongest nor the most flexible, and neither the most talented nor the most dexterous. Yet I continue to train despite the workload of junior year and the numerous commitments that demand my attention. I'm also not the most in love with the sport -- that's my coach.

I'm a combination of all of the above, plus a bit more. I train because, quite simply, I love rhythmic.

This was, however, not always the case. I used to dread training, that time when I'd be surrounded by insanely talented girls who could sit in straddle and over-splits -- a form of stretching in which you place one ankle on an elevated surface and sit in split from there -- in their sleep and still not feel a thing, while I sat struggling to touch the floor in splits. I would sit and memorize the carpet before me, fervently wishing time would flow faster so I could escape my self-simulated oppression. More than once I remember feeling the tears slide down my face, not only from the physical pain but also from the shame I felt for not being flexible.

If only I had raised my eyes back then, I would have seen not the intimidating gym I imagined but the concentrated faces of my teammates. I would have seen the glow in my coach's eyes, realized her harsh demeanor was one of pure intent to make us stronger, not to only find fault where I had seen none. I would have seen success in its incipient stages, the determination to improve carved on everyone's visages.

And above all, I would have come to the epiphany I had freshman year -- that I truly love the sport -- years sooner.

Human perfectibility is the belief that people are capable of infinite improvement. Rhythmic has made me believe in it. I used to think my goal was to become the perfect gymnast, though now I see how parochial an outlook that was.

The nuance between striving for perfection and seeking to improve is the respective focus. Whichever perspective you choose drastically alters your approach to both your training and, in a more general sense, rhythmic itself. I was confused when, at the tender age of 12, my friends quit. Not only them, but also nearly half of those in my level. Years later, I realize they cared more for the result more than for the process, more for that coveted place on the podium than for the years of training it took to get there.

So when I stand in line after a competition during the awards ceremony, sometimes applauding my fellow gymnasts who step onto the podium, sometimes stepping on the podium myself, I know whoever was recognized that day truly deserved the medal she earned.

So when I glance around the gym after a gala and see the shining eyes of the younger gymnasts, their desire to become better and master the art of rhythmic gymnastics, I smile on the inside.

Because I know those eyes, because they used to be mine. Because I was once that little girl.

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Amanda and Elaine Dai are sisters and competitive rhythmic gymnasts who train at Rhythmic Dreams in Newton, Massachusetts. "Rhythmic Diaries" is their account of balancing training and competing in th...
Amanda and Elaine Dai are sisters and competitive rhythmic gymnasts who train at Rhythmic Dreams in Newton, Massachusetts. "Rhythmic Diaries" is their account of balancing training and competing in th...
 
 
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12:13 PM on 02/03/2012
Any activity that is "judged" is NOT A SPORT!!! It is not competition when the results come from judges!! Same way that you cannot judge art or music!! There is no tangible way to score it. What is good to one judge, could be bad to someone else!!!
01:10 PM on 02/03/2012
So, boxing isn't a sport?
01:46 PM on 02/03/2012
In amateur boxingJudges look at the hits to the face or body of the opponet. More hits more points so its not judged by who is hit hardest or softest. They count only the hits!! So they are not judges but more of "counters"!! This was done on purpose to get away from the farce that happened in Korea!
In the other sports there is no counting. Its the judging of the routines being in figure skating, diving so on.. Its subjective so those events dont qualify as sports!! You can call juggling, tight rope walking sports also!!
02:41 PM on 02/03/2012
Clearly, you know nothing about gymnastics. As an international judge for the past thirty years, I can tell you that gymnastics judges are given very specific lists of skills, their values, and specific rules as to how routines are supposed to be constructed. We also have deductions, or penalties, that are clearly defined by each flaw in the performance. Most of the times these are defined by angles and degrees, as to the angle of the body in a certain position and the degree of rotation in other skills. It is much more scientific than most people know and there is miniscule, if any, opportunity for opinion. The deductions applied are examined via video to make sure things are done properly. So, you are wrong. Now, as to the sport part of it, these young men and women are some of the strongest, most versatile athletes in the world. Pound for pound, they are stronger than most football players. So, "Panjo" you are WAY off.
11:30 AM on 02/03/2012
I used to compete in rhythmic gymnastics. When I competed, there were 3 classes. Class III was for beginner's, and Class I was elite. I clearly remember how hard it was to balance school and rhythmics. I would often go to practice before school, then after school I had an hour before practice to do homework. I'd practice for 2 hours, eat dinner on the way to ballet class, and go back to the gym after ballet. We would end practice at 10 pm. And then I'd wake up and start it all over again. And this was when I was in elementary school. But it was all worth it. I have carried the discipline I learned in rhythmics through the rest of my life, and it has helped me immensely. Keep going, but most, have fun! Ellen Simmons (now Hudson)
10:54 AM on 02/03/2012
Watching Olympics I have often thought the girls all looked miserable. The only time they smiled was when they finished a routine or if they won. All those years of training, dieting, being yelled at by coaches, injuries seems to take it's toll on these very young girls. The commitment to their sport is unbelievable. I would only hope these girls were happier then they appear.
02:43 PM on 02/03/2012
MarvinGardens, the majority of them are very happy, well adjusted people ( at least the US gymnasts). Coaches who over train, abuse, or have athletes who injured often are not usually successful and are put out of coaching quickly. Don't mistake seriousness and focus for being unhappy.
10:45 AM on 02/03/2012
It's amazing to look back and remember how you were once that little girl on the edge of the carpet, just watching and wishing. Rhythmic (or any sport for that matter) is not only about the medals- there are so many intangible rewards that the sport can give you, if you are willing to put in the time and effort :)
10:01 PM on 02/02/2012
Thank you very much for sharing your thoughts! As a former rhythmic gymnast myself, I can absolutely relate to everything you're saying. Like you, I was often very intimidated by the other gymnasts who were so much more talented than I was. I struggled with a severe lack of self esteem and had no confidence at all for a while. However, after I learned how to really push myself and work hard, I could see that my hard work was paying off and I was getting better. This inspired me to keep working even harder and I found that I was able to do skills that I had thought I would never be able to do. Rhythmic gymnastics is a very difficult sport and many of us may never be rewarded for our hard work, but learning how to be determined to improve is a great reward in itself. Ultimately, we can do nothing about how good the other gymnasts are. All we can do is work to improve our own skills as much as possible. And even if we never make it to the top, we should congratulate ourselves on the improvements we have made.