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Amanda Deverich
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Amanda Deverich is a DivorceBuster, Calmer Easier Happier Parent, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, reader, writer, and runner in Williamsburg, Virginia.

In addition to a graduate degree and training from The College of William & Mary’s Family Counseling Program, Amanda was part of the debriefing team for the returned US Air Force prisoners of war during Operation Desert Storm. Now widowed, she is raising two daughters on her own. You can learn more about Amanda at

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How Homework Could Flunk Your Marriage

(0) Comments | Posted January 7, 2014 | 10:39 AM

Finances, sex and parenting are the Big Three subjects that challenge a marriage. Other touchy topics include in-laws, chores and religion, but the Big Three are the most common and detrimental to marital happiness. I am observing a trend-testing relationships in the parenting curriculum: Homework is threatening to flunk some...

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The Best Christmas Budget Ever

(0) Comments | Posted December 8, 2013 | 12:16 PM

Overspending is a significant source of stress. Each credit card swipe brings twinges of tension with visions of Christmas bills dancing in the head. Joy in giving becomes tainted with anxiety. An ingenious budget is the antidote to holiday spending angst.

Do not think of a budget as buzz-kill....

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Do Not Say Grace This Thanksgiving

(0) Comments | Posted November 26, 2013 | 11:48 AM

Do not say grace this Thanksgiving; serve it up in thought, word and deed. Saying grace is a blessed thing to do -- offering grace via action brings blessings to the table. Serving up grace is no easy task in the midst of a Thanksgiving hullabaloo. Conversations overflow, egos run...

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Life's Path Is a Maze, Not a Straight Line

(0) Comments | Posted September 26, 2013 | 4:33 PM

Life's path often looks more like a maze than a straight line. In review, we see we have taken wrong turns, hit dead ends, lost time, meandered in wrong directions and twisted and turned at unexpected places. We thought we were going one way and had to head another. We...

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Outrage for Oprah: Racism or Classism?

(28) Comments | Posted August 14, 2013 | 10:45 AM

Most people are shocked by recent reports that Oprah was denied taking a closer look at a $38,000 handbag in a store in Switzerland because the clerk thought it too expensive for her to consider. On the surface this is comically outrageous considering Oprah could buy the entire...

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How to Make a Healthy-Habit Change

(3) Comments | Posted August 8, 2013 | 5:09 PM

Some say change is hard. Quitting smoking, dieting, exercising and even flossing regularly are health-habit changes that can be hard to make. Learned helplessness studies show the reason people do not succeed is that they attempt change in ways they think should work, but don't. Logic tells people...

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Ending a Yearlong Running Streak

(4) Comments | Posted November 20, 2012 | 3:40 PM

Tomorrow I will complete a 365-day streak of running.

The official definition of a running streak, as adopted by the Streak Runners International, Inc. and United States Running Streak Association, Inc., is to run at least one continuous mile (1.61 kilometers) within each calendar day under one's...
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Divorce and Breast Cancer: Your Marriage or Your Life

(8) Comments | Posted October 26, 2011 | 2:10 PM

Helen was diagnosed with breast cancer in the midst of a marriage crisis. She suddenly found herself in a battle with two fronts: advancing breast cancer and threatening divorce. At first her husband, Wally, joined her in the fight for survival, but the conflict proved too much and he pulled...

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Polygamous Divorce is Normal

(4) Comments | Posted February 4, 2011 | 9:33 AM

Polygamous divorce is normal, if you consider hurt feelings, conflict, difficulties co-parenting, and children acting out as part of a normal divorce experience.

Of course, polygamy is not common and is often outright rejected. It could even be argued "divorce" is not possible by definition as polygamy is illegal...

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