Dating by Text -- How to Handle an Overshare Text

06/09/2010 11:44 pm ET | Updated May 25, 2011

I frequently ask my friends to share their weird text messages -- or stories about text messages from their friends -- with me. This one came from a friend of the guy who sent it, and not from the recipient, although that hardly matters. It's still weird and kind of creepy. It said:

"I had a dream last night that we were making out. But you were wearing a diaper."

Now, I have no idea how the girl who was sent this message reacted, but if I got something like this I would probably be flattered with a healthy dose of revulsion. Diapers? What kind of weird fetish is that?

Of course you want guys to be thinking about you when you're not together, but having weird dreams about you in creepy outfits or positions can be off-putting. No need to overshare there, buddy. Good rule of thumb: if you think it sounds creepy when you say it out loud, don't send it as a text message to a girl. That being said, a dream is not a real fantasy, but something your subconscious cooks up. If it's true that he really did see a girl in a diaper in his dream, it could represent something else, like "childish or babyish attitudes/actions," according to one dream dictionary I consulted. "You may be too dependent on others," the dictionary cautioned. So, he may not make the best boyfriend.

But just because this guy doesn't have any filter on his text messaging fingers and might be a little immature, that doesn't mean he's a bad guy. If you like a guy and he sends you something weird like this, I would recommend sending back something like, "Um, what?" Giving him the gentle hint that you don't like to get notes like this but don't mind him generally is probably a good plan of action. Or, you can just write him off as a weirdo. They can't all be winners.

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