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Amanda Magee
Amanda Magee lives in the Adirondacks of New York State, where she is raising her three daughters with her husband Sean. She owns an advertising agency. She's been known to tweet irreverently about life, work and everything in between at @amandamagee. She blogs about life with 3 girls, and how the bitter and the sweet tumble together, at

Entries by Amanda Magee

The Bad News I Never Expected to Turn Out Good

(8) Comments | Posted February 12, 2016 | 11:51 AM

In 2006, when I was pregnant with my second child, I negotiated to work remotely for part of the week at my marketing job. This telecommuting thing was still a relatively new concept then. After a few challenging first few months -- juggling self-discipline, co-worker tension and pregnancy -- I...

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Love, Doubt, and Guilt Dance on the Head of a Pin

(1) Comments | Posted February 4, 2016 | 7:01 AM

"Do you even know what I wore to bed last night?'

The question made contact like a right hook. Finley and I were waiting for the bus in a driving rain.

I'd worked late the night before and, as I always do, I'd slipped into their room to kiss them...

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A Song We Travel By Heart

(0) Comments | Posted October 20, 2015 | 8:26 PM

Music is always playing in the car when Sean drives. If we go for a long trip he creates playlists, if we're running errands it's the radio, and if we're going somewhere for work he plays NPR. Music is something he considers at home, on the road, and even at...

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Stop Chasing the Idea of Having It All

(1) Comments | Posted September 22, 2015 | 5:41 PM

Six months ago, give or take, I discovered a new word. It was love at first sight. I loved the way I couldn't say it without making a funny face or how reading its definition felt like permission granted. habseligkeiten, which I never want to capitalize because it feels as...

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Distance Up Close

(0) Comments | Posted September 21, 2015 | 4:22 PM


The ground beneath me is moving in ways that surprise me. It's like I have one contact in and one out; some things are in perfect focus while others force me to squint and rub my eye. The hardest thing is knowing when...

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What Are We Doing Today?

(2) Comments | Posted July 26, 2015 | 2:45 PM

"So? What are we doing to day?" they ask eyes turned toward mine.


It's a question I hear, often before the girls are even dressed. Their gangly legs poke out from beneath t-shirts. Sometime over the last year they shifted...

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Be One More

(1) Comments | Posted June 23, 2015 | 10:37 PM

The other day I was sitting in our backyard soaking up the sound of the leaves in the wind, the rustle like water to my ears. Blades of grass danced with beads of water from the soaking I'd given them. I looked at the yellow blossoms popping along the cucumber...

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Deep Breaths and Tantrums

(4) Comments | Posted March 12, 2015 | 2:31 PM

I was getting dressed. It should have been a good day; I'd slept well the night before, I'd been working out, but there it was; a persistent, dull heat and the threat of a tantrum. I was trying to avoid my triggers -- don't grab the top that I haven't...

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Me Time Shouldn't Be This Hard, Should It?

(0) Comments | Posted February 12, 2015 | 11:17 AM

Yesterday was the kind of day that triggers my need for time, or more sinister, ignites my sense that I don't ever get any time. It was a snow day. The marriage of work and home becomes brittle on snow days, as the things I needed to do for work,...

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Marriage, Hurt Egos and Good Intentions

(1) Comments | Posted January 15, 2015 | 12:34 PM

Last year, Sean and I collaborated on several posts about marriage. It's been a while, and it felt like it was time to write again. Here is how I introduced this two-part, I write/he writes approach before: I usually keep marriage along the periphery of the stories I tell. The...

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Reclaiming Control Meant Letting Go

(0) Comments | Posted January 5, 2015 | 10:58 AM

Yesterday, Sean and I began a top-to-bottom decluttering that lasted four hours and involved me bursting into body-wracking tears once, maybe twice. The girls were uncharacteristically compliant, alternating between quietly organizing corners of their rooms and working with heads touching to craft new LEGO structures. The kittens gleefully scampered through...

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Before Bedtime Requests End, I Hope I Hear Them

(4) Comments | Posted December 24, 2014 | 10:45 AM

Somehow I thought that in the years of chronicling the ups and downs of parenting, maybe a lesson or two would stick. Perhaps a bit of writing it down would offer up a moment of grace to keep me from utterly screwing things up because I'm in a bad mood.

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How Harry Potter And T.S. Eliot Showed Me My Kids Growing Up Isn't Quite So Sad

(1) Comments | Posted December 1, 2014 | 11:33 AM

When we flew into Orlando the weather was mild, warm enough that it seemed like a treat compared to Upstate New York, but not so hot that we were uncomfortable. The days that followed were stormy, dramatic claps of thunder, lighting and torrential rains creating an unexpected layer of grittiness...

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What You Don't See in Facebook Albums or Instagram

(0) Comments | Posted November 10, 2014 | 1:29 PM

The debate over how much people let you see on their social media profiles and Facebook photo albums has been hashed and rehashed. I don't know that I necessarily have much to add to the mix, but I wanted to share a photo. After a hearty, Saturday morning, cooked-from-scratch breakfast,...

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That Moment When Your Last Baby Says She Doesn't Want to Grow Up

(14) Comments | Posted November 7, 2014 | 9:43 AM

We used to say that when we went to a restaurant, there was a window. It became Sean's standard new-dad-but-getting-the-hang-of-it line. "We know that when we walk into the restaurant we have 20 minutes, 30 or 35 tops, before the wheels fall off. My goal is to always be through...

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A Simple Question, A LEGO Kit and What I Learned

(0) Comments | Posted September 2, 2014 | 2:06 PM

I woke up this morning to Finley spooning me. Her face was close enough that my hair fluttered as she sighed. I kept my eyes closed because I wasn't ready. She ran her finger up and over my shoulder again and again. I listened, the house was quiet but for...

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You Get What You Pay For and Other Life Lessons of Rarely Putting Yourself First

(0) Comments | Posted August 11, 2014 | 3:09 PM

"Dang it! Every time," I said, not as angry as it might read, more resigned than anything.

"Are those new?" Sean asked nodding toward my newly-spattered-with-pasta-sauce pants.

"Yes," I sighed looking down at the cloud blue colored sweat pants. They have a light line down the side and go to...

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The Body Image Lesson My Daughter Doesn't Know She Taught Me

(4) Comments | Posted July 24, 2014 | 10:57 AM

We were sprawled out in the backyard. Sean was spraying the big girls down with a hose and Finley was devouring a sandwich in a lawn chair. The cat and dog were at our sides, both seemingly delighted that we were spending the day in a way that they could...

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The Milestone I Wasn't Ready For

(1) Comments | Posted July 14, 2014 | 2:06 PM

There are some milestones that I have breathlessly watched for -- first steps, hearing "mom," reading, riding a bike. I rejoice as the girls achieve them and sometimes find myself a bit crestfallen at how much they make me ache. Over the past few months, I've realized that we've reached...

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The 5 Things He Didn't Have to Teach Me

(6) Comments | Posted June 4, 2014 | 6:03 PM

My stepdad came into my life when I was about 11. It was, as you might imagine, not always smooth sailing. I think for the first few years his favorite story to tell was of me standing on the stairs railing at him one night for punishing my little sister....

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