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Amanda Magee
Amanda Magee lives in the Adirondacks of New York State, where she is raising her three daughters with her husband Sean. She owns an advertising agency. She's been known to tweet irreverently about life, work and everything in between at @amandamagee. She blogs about life with 3 girls, and how the bitter and the sweet tumble together, at

Entries by Amanda Magee

Deep Breaths and Tantrums

(4) Comments | Posted March 12, 2015 | 2:31 PM

I was getting dressed. It should have been a good day; I'd slept well the night before, I'd been working out, but there it was; a persistent, dull heat and the threat of a tantrum. I was trying to avoid my triggers -- don't grab the top that I haven't...

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Me Time Shouldn't Be This Hard, Should It?

(0) Comments | Posted February 12, 2015 | 11:17 AM

Yesterday was the kind of day that triggers my need for time, or more sinister, ignites my sense that I don't ever get any time. It was a snow day. The marriage of work and home becomes brittle on snow days, as the things I needed to do for work,...

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Marriage, Hurt Egos and Good Intentions

(1) Comments | Posted January 15, 2015 | 12:34 PM

Last year, Sean and I collaborated on several posts about marriage. It's been a while, and it felt like it was time to write again. Here is how I introduced this two-part, I write/he writes approach before: I usually keep marriage along the periphery of the stories I tell. The...

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Reclaiming Control Meant Letting Go

(0) Comments | Posted January 5, 2015 | 10:58 AM

Yesterday, Sean and I began a top-to-bottom decluttering that lasted four hours and involved me bursting into body-wracking tears once, maybe twice. The girls were uncharacteristically compliant, alternating between quietly organizing corners of their rooms and working with heads touching to craft new LEGO structures. The kittens gleefully scampered through...

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Before Bedtime Requests End, I Hope I Hear Them

(4) Comments | Posted December 24, 2014 | 10:45 AM

Somehow I thought that in the years of chronicling the ups and downs of parenting, maybe a lesson or two would stick. Perhaps a bit of writing it down would offer up a moment of grace to keep me from utterly screwing things up because I'm in a bad mood.

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How Harry Potter And T.S. Eliot Showed Me My Kids Growing Up Isn't Quite So Sad

(1) Comments | Posted December 1, 2014 | 11:33 AM

When we flew into Orlando the weather was mild, warm enough that it seemed like a treat compared to Upstate New York, but not so hot that we were uncomfortable. The days that followed were stormy, dramatic claps of thunder, lighting and torrential rains creating an unexpected layer of grittiness...

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What You Don't See in Facebook Albums or Instagram

(0) Comments | Posted November 10, 2014 | 1:29 PM

The debate over how much people let you see on their social media profiles and Facebook photo albums has been hashed and rehashed. I don't know that I necessarily have much to add to the mix, but I wanted to share a photo. After a hearty, Saturday morning, cooked-from-scratch breakfast,...

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That Moment When Your Last Baby Says She Doesn't Want to Grow Up

(14) Comments | Posted November 7, 2014 | 9:43 AM

We used to say that when we went to a restaurant, there was a window. It became Sean's standard new-dad-but-getting-the-hang-of-it line. "We know that when we walk into the restaurant we have 20 minutes, 30 or 35 tops, before the wheels fall off. My goal is to always be through...

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A Simple Question, A LEGO Kit and What I Learned

(0) Comments | Posted September 2, 2014 | 2:06 PM

I woke up this morning to Finley spooning me. Her face was close enough that my hair fluttered as she sighed. I kept my eyes closed because I wasn't ready. She ran her finger up and over my shoulder again and again. I listened, the house was quiet but for...

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You Get What You Pay For and Other Life Lessons of Rarely Putting Yourself First

(0) Comments | Posted August 11, 2014 | 3:09 PM

"Dang it! Every time," I said, not as angry as it might read, more resigned than anything.

"Are those new?" Sean asked nodding toward my newly-spattered-with-pasta-sauce pants.

"Yes," I sighed looking down at the cloud blue colored sweat pants. They have a light line down the side and go to...

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The Body Image Lesson My Daughter Doesn't Know She Taught Me

(4) Comments | Posted July 24, 2014 | 10:57 AM

We were sprawled out in the backyard. Sean was spraying the big girls down with a hose and Finley was devouring a sandwich in a lawn chair. The cat and dog were at our sides, both seemingly delighted that we were spending the day in a way that they could...

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The Milestone I Wasn't Ready For

(1) Comments | Posted July 14, 2014 | 2:06 PM

There are some milestones that I have breathlessly watched for -- first steps, hearing "mom," reading, riding a bike. I rejoice as the girls achieve them and sometimes find myself a bit crestfallen at how much they make me ache. Over the past few months, I've realized that we've reached...

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The 5 Things He Didn't Have to Teach Me

(8) Comments | Posted June 4, 2014 | 6:03 PM

My stepdad came into my life when I was about 11. It was, as you might imagine, not always smooth sailing. I think for the first few years his favorite story to tell was of me standing on the stairs railing at him one night for punishing my little sister....

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Not Yours to Touch, Sir

(5) Comments | Posted June 2, 2014 | 3:15 PM

Yesterday I got tripped up in organizing something upstairs and when I checked the time, we'd missed the bus. Sean wasn't home and Briar had caught her bus an hour earlier.

"Girls, let's go. I am driving you to school," I called downstairs.

"Ok, which garage door do we open?"...

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Horror Trending

(3) Comments | Posted May 27, 2014 | 2:22 PM

I have a routine in the mornings. After a cuddle with our early-rising cat, I pad downstairs, make coffee and check my email, Twitter and Facebook. The volume of junk email I receive makes the email check a nice warm-up, easily done with heavy lids and a not entirely alert...

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Just Perfect

(0) Comments | Posted May 8, 2014 | 1:28 PM

I had a preoccupation as a little girl that people around me would die. Actually, it wasn't about people around me, it was about my mom; I actively worried that I would lose her. There are moments when the pangs of fear that I would feel come back to me,...

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Things I Love Hating About You

(1) Comments | Posted April 29, 2014 | 4:08 PM

This is a #MarriedWithOpinions post in two parts.

When something really annoys me, I'll say that it makes my ribs itch. I'm lucky, because all things considered, Sean understands what annoys me. He'll get a wicked grin and say, "You...

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Making Passes and Taking Hits

(15) Comments | Posted March 27, 2014 | 10:54 AM

This post is a first for me and I thought it needed a brief introduction. I usually keep marriage along the periphery of the stories I tell. The silos of parenting and life are not as concise as they can seem in storytelling, they aren't silos at all; they're brushstrokes...

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Like the Present

(0) Comments | Posted February 13, 2014 | 3:40 PM

They started warning of a storm on Sunday; by Tuesday excitement was crackling, kids and parents alike were talking about backwards PJs and upside-down spoons to help the storm along. It look remarkably flat and unremarkable to me. I kept the girls' excitement in check with mild clucking...

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Self, Easy

(47) Comments | Posted February 9, 2014 | 7:05 AM

I don't think that getting older is hard; I think that what's hard is that as each year passes the inevitability of pain gets closer. Incremental change happens in life no matter what I do to prevent it -- wrinkles, thrown-out backs, an inability to listen to 18-year-olds sing about...

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