I grew up with the traditional childhood of loving Disney movies. I bonded with a beautiful, strong friend of mine recently about this love for the Disney princesses at a Whole Foods during SXSW. We took a break from the SXSW madness and talked about how we went from Little Mermaid to Cinderella to Snow White, and in all of these movies, the fairy princess gets "saved." In Little Mermaid, it goes as far as Ariel giving up her fin, her voice, her everything for prince charming who redefines who she is as a person (who needs to be a mermaid anyway?) and who makes everything right in her world. As we got older, bad boys became more alluring and women became the new "prince charming" trying to save these bad boys and make them into their very own fairy prince, (think Beauty and the Beast). I believe in serendipity and it just so happened as we were ranting and raving about our love and confusion around Disney moves, Macklemore walked right up next to us in Whole Foods. I didn't think anything of it until I saw him perform the next day at a small private event hosted by Pandora.
If princes "saving" women was sexy 20 years ago, the new sexy has been portrayed as rap videos of men holding Cristal with countless women shaking and dancing in bikinis with lyrics usually objectifying women as being considered equal to the standard of a "Kleenex," (very easy to just use and toss out when it is done). There is a lot to be blamed for the confusion around meaningful relationships and media is obviously one influencer. For the first time in history, women and men are working together more frequently than ever before redefining what the standard relationship is between opposite sexes.
This is also redefining what a relationship should be between man and woman in general. Yes, you need a partner, you need a man who is going to support you as a successful woman, you need a man who is going to let you do what you believe in and not be intimidated or threatened by your success. These are all the new buzz words of the sought after man. I think there is another conversation to be had here. What about the men who are role models for other men and women? The men who are in the spotlight and have the opportunity to show the world what it is to be a man? How can we change the perspective of what it is to be a "modern day fairy prince?"
I was lucky enough after my "run in" with Macklemore at Whole foods to attend his show the next night and he took over the room. His energy was infectious, his attitude was so positive and his ability to create a party was just magical, but that's not what impressed me. I was more impressed by his openness and vulnerability, by his belief that creativity and words and art and music can be used to create positive change in the world. I was impressed by his emotional intelligence when speaking about his time in rehab, and I am always blown away by his lyrics and his intention with his song "Same Love." Macklemore and Ryan Lewis do not sing about abusing women, abusing drugs, abusing situations. They speak about creating, inspiring and sometimes our culture in general, (the modern day man should have a sense of humor), which is finely stated in their "Thrift Shop" song.
I have always been one to pay attention to lyrics. I have always gushed over a good song, which changes your perspective of your world and of yourself. But this is more than just gushing. I use Macklemore as an example of this modern day prince charming: someone who is not afraid to express himself, to stand up for what he believes in and who never takes himself too seriously.