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Amira Young

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Why I Was Happy When My Ex Got Engaged

(3) Comments | Posted July 24, 2013 | 12:59 PM

It was 9 a.m. on a Saturday when my friend PK woke me via Facebook message. "Did you hear A got engaged to X?" he asked.

It didn't really come as a surprise. After contacting three of my friends and trying to pursue relationships with them shortly after I...

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Was It an Emotional Affair, and Did It End My Marriage?

(119) Comments | Posted June 3, 2013 | 10:26 AM

AD and I were good friends, meeting about a year after I was married. He was funny, brilliant and nerdy in the best of ways. A lot of girls would tell me how attractive they thought he was, to which I would laugh and say, "You realize that he's got...

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Should Marriage Take Longer Than Divorce?

(5) Comments | Posted May 10, 2013 | 1:24 PM

I got an excited call from my friend AB the other day. "Amira, my divorce finally came through!" she squealed.

It had been a year and a half since she and her husband separated, and probably over a year since she was able to get everything together to submit papers....

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Should I Tell My Future Child About My First Marriage?

(334) Comments | Posted April 26, 2013 | 3:08 AM

I left my ex for someone else. I wasn't cheating on him. Rather, it was for a person who didn't exist yet: my unborn child.

One Sunday night in December, I asked for my ex to wait for me to write a check for a bill. He threw a fit....

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Susan Patton and the Divorce Class War

(3) Comments | Posted April 9, 2013 | 12:58 PM

Like many good feminists, I sat and read Susan Patton's letter to Princeton women about their "shelf life" in finding a husband and how, "From a sheer numbers perspective, the odds will never be as good to be surrounded by all of these extraordinary men." She came from...

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Learning Curves: 14 Divorce Lessons Every Divorcee Should Know

(53) Comments | Posted March 29, 2013 | 2:26 AM

When I left my husband, nothing could prepare me for what I faced next: nasty rumors, money issues, a vengeful ex, romantic feelings for someone I did not expect and an overwhelming sense of grief. Divorce was new and frightening, and something I didn't know how to deal with emotionally....

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The 'La Divorcee Vita' Guide To Friends With Benefits

(86) Comments | Posted January 12, 2013 | 1:30 AM

Meet KB (not his real name). He's a 35-year-old chef, funny, smart and an amazing kisser, not to mention loves Star Wars as much as I do. We went out and had an incredible first date. He was interested, I was interested, so we were going to keep dating.


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This Is My Body

(121) Comments | Posted December 19, 2012 | 12:45 AM

While online dating, many men have asked me to send a sexy photo. I have tried to take one over and over again, but I can't. Why? Mainly because I don't like how my body looks.

It's different when I'm around friends. They know me and don't judge me based...

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Love At The Poverty Line

(3) Comments | Posted December 13, 2012 | 1:15 PM

According to The Hamilton Project, authored by Michael Greenstone and Adam Looney, marriage is more likely to be sustained among wealthier Americans versus those in low-income households. To which I add my scientific input, which is, simply put, "Duh!"

There are usually two sources of arguments in relationships:...

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Did Single Friends Kill My Marriage?

(296) Comments | Posted November 14, 2012 | 1:15 AM

Several months before my marriage ended, I had a conversation with a friend who I will call SA (no names will be used to protect identities). I had introduced her to her husband and she was in full couples swing while my marriage was suffering. She was concerned about the...

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Breaking The Faith

(9) Comments | Posted November 6, 2012 | 5:55 PM

In the movie "My Big Fat Greek Wedding," the main character says, "Nice Greek girls are supposed to do three things in life: marry Greek boys, make Greek babies and feed everyone until the day we die." Just substitute Jewish in there and you have my upbringing.

There are many...

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Why Premarital Counseling Didn't Work For Me

(314) Comments | Posted October 20, 2012 | 3:00 AM

It was a beautiful Sunday morning over five-and-a-half years ago. My ex and I sat in a class with 10 other couples -- most of them in their late 20s and early to mid-30s. We were just babies compared to them. I stared at the girls' huge diamond engagement rings...

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The Bipartisan Marriage

(742) Comments | Posted October 12, 2012 | 3:15 AM

Because I live in beautiful Southern California, there is often one thing about my ex that shocks people. No, it's not that he prefers Seattle weather, or that he's a preppy who listens to death metal. It's not even the fact that I married him (although my best friend thinks...

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White Wedding

(396) Comments | Posted September 29, 2012 | 2:10 AM

Almost five years ago, I was standing outside the room I was to be married in, wearing my white wedding dress. A veil covered my eyes and the processional was about to begin. I was talking to my soon-to-be-husband's brother's in-laws about having never been to the South, where they...

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