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As an expert in aging and families, specializing in family caregiving and multigenerational issues, Amy is a consultant, speaker and writer. She has worked for more than 30 years with older adults, children with special needs and their families.

As AARP's Home & Family Expert, she provides expertise on a variety of issues, including family caregiving and aging in place, livable communities, grandparenting, parenting and other family relationships, multigenerational living and family history.
Amy’s book Juggling Work and Caregiving was published by AARP in October 2013. For more information, visit aarp.org/caregivingbook. Read her blog at blog.aarp.org

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Entries by Amy Goyer

Why I Thanked a Caregiver

(2) Comments | Posted November 19, 2013 | 5:17 PM




My older sister Linda Goyer Lane is part of the "sandwich generation"-- people who care for their aging parents while simultaneously supporting children of their own. When my parents began needing 24 hour care about a year and a half ago, Linda stepped up to help me care for them in a big way. She and her two sons (one in high school and one in college) have all made sacrifices to care for Mom and Dad as she began traveling to Arizona for one or two weeks at a time to join in their care. I serve as my parents' primary caregiver, but like so many working caregivers, without Linda's help, I couldn't care for my parents and get my work done.

November is National Family Caregivers Month, and on behalf of the Thanks Project, I want to take this opportunity to thank my sister for her kindness, her compassion and the countless hours she has now spent in loving care of our parents.

Linda is just one of the 42 million caregivers, a majority whom are women between the ages of 40 – 60, across the nation who provide care to their loved ones. These women may not see themselves as such, but they are family caregivers, and they play an extraordinary role in supporting those we love.

As part of an extensive Caregiver Assistance campaign, AARP and the Ad Council have just released a new series of PSAs that highlight the many (often exhausting and overwhelming) roles of a caregiver. From cook to accountant to health and personal care provider, caregivers do it all.

This month, let's recognize the tremendous amount of work that is done each and every day by millions of family caregivers.


  • Visit the new Thanks Project website where you can send your thanks to a caregiver and have it post publicly with a photo and other "thanks" from a community of people across the country.

  • Take our new online quiz to see if you or someone you know is a caregiver.

  • Use the hashtag #TheThanksProject to spread the spirit of thanks throughout social media.

  • Finally, on a lighter note, watch our hilarious new video from comedian Jeff Foxworthy who says, "You Might Be A Caregiver If..."


My mother passed away just last month, and once again, Linda has been there. She has been a vital source of strength for me and for our father, who suffers from dementia and requires constant attention. I am so grateful to Linda for every sacrifice she has made to give our parents the quality of life and care that all of my sisters and I believe they deserve. Because even though we have both assumed many roles as family caregivers, first and foremost, we are daughters who love our parents.

Are YOU a caregiver? You may be, and you don't even know it. Take our quiz below to find out.

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Will President Obama Back Multi-Generational Families?

(3) Comments | Posted January 21, 2009 | 3:50 AM

I'd never seen anything like it. Washington, D.C., is typically blasé about even major political events, even inaugurations. But not this time. When I flew home to Washington National Airport Sunday night, I'd never seen the place so alive. And what struck me most were the many multigenerational families, both...

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To Grandmother's White House We Go

(8) Comments | Posted January 9, 2009 | 11:46 PM

And now it's official: The White House will have a First Grandmother.

The Obama transition team ended weeks of speculation this afternoon, confirming that 71-year-old Marian Robinson, Michelle Obama's mother, will leave her Chicago home and move into the White House with the new First Family, at least temporarily....

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Can You Be a Virtual Grandparent?

(2) Comments | Posted December 4, 2008 | 12:17 PM

I got an email today from a friend seeking advice for a fellow church-member who has grandchildren literally all over the globe, including in Europe and Africa. The man very much wants to have a good relationship with each of his grandchildren, but the distance is a daunting challenge. I...

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How to Keep Traditions Alive

(3) Comments | Posted November 26, 2008 | 12:13 PM

This year I will spend Thanksgiving at my parent's house, as usual. We'll have the customary menu -- turkey, stuffing, sweet potatoes, salad (don't forget the black olives), and pumpkin pie with lots of spices. I will make the key dish, my grandmother Clara's green beans. There is some controversy...

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Why America Needs A First Grandmother

(32) Comments | Posted November 24, 2008 | 5:15 PM

The nation anxiously awaits the dawn of a new Camelot in Washington, as mothers and fathers look to Barack and Michelle Obama as a new model of vigorous Presidential parenting. But another group of Americans - the nation's more than 70 million grandparents - are looking beyond the First Couple...

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