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Amy Julia Becker
Amy Julia Becker is the author of Small Talk: Learning From My Children About What Matters Most and A Good and Perfect Gift: Faith, Expectations and a Little Girl Named Penny (Bethany, 2011)

She blogs about faith, family, disability, and culture at Thin Places for Christianity Today. She lives in western Connecticut with her husband and three children.

Entries by Amy Julia Becker

On MLK Day, Our Kids Should Be In School

(5) Comments | Posted January 19, 2015 | 10:00 AM

I know, I know. We honor the Rev. Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. today. And let me begin by being very clear on my deep respect and admiration for Dr. King. I want my kids to know about him. I want them to watch him on video and learn about...

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How Having Kids Helped Me Grow Up

(1) Comments | Posted October 31, 2014 | 5:39 PM

When our youngest daughter Marilee was two, she woke up from a nap one day and I said, "I love you." She said, "Love me so much?" "So much," I said. "This so much," she asked, arms outstretched as wide as they could reach. I smiled and nodded, but what...

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How Can This Be You?

(0) Comments | Posted April 29, 2014 | 2:51 PM

How can this be you? I wonder. How can this be you -- the one who once was weeping? The one who held your five-pound baby in the crook of your arm and kissed her through your tears? The one who used to carry fear inside as if it were...

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A New Story for Down Syndrome

(4) Comments | Posted October 24, 2013 | 3:48 PM

There's a video making the Internet rounds. It introduces us to Heath White, a father who didn't always love his daughter Paisley. Heath reads a letter in which he confesses that before Paisley was born, he urged his wife to have an abortion. Paisley was prenatally diagnosed with...

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You're Pregnant: How Do You Decide About Prenatal Testing?

(3) Comments | Posted July 17, 2013 | 11:25 AM

"It's noninvasive," my doctor said. "It just offers you some information about your baby."

I was 28-years-old, pregnant for the first time, and we were discussing prenatal testing. A simple noninvasive blood test sounded good to me, so I stuck out my arm. I didn't think about the test...

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Missing Out on Beautiful

(34) Comments | Posted March 13, 2013 | 11:57 AM

In the seven years since my daughter was born, we've taken thousands of photographs. At various points along the way, we've even involved professionals. But it is rare that the professionals capture what I see when I look at her -- the bright expression of delight and interest, the alternately...

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Still Falling in Love With My Husband

(11) Comments | Posted February 13, 2013 | 11:11 AM

I remember the first time I celebrated Valentine's Day with the man who is now my husband. I was a senior at a boarding school in Connecticut. Peter and I had been together since October, and at that point, each month that rolled by warranted celebration. Valentine's Day came on...

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Joy All Year Long

(1) Comments | Posted December 20, 2012 | 4:52 PM

I was walking home from the playground on a warm spring afternoon. My oldest daughter Penny, who was six at the time, ambled along nearby. I could hear her singing to herself, but I wasn't sure of the tune until she revved up the volume for the line "God and...

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We Didn't Run Away

(459) Comments | Posted September 10, 2012 | 12:17 PM

My husband and I found out that our daughter Penny had Down syndrome two hours after she was born, and we shared the same instinct. We wanted to run away. Within minutes, I had the route planned out from the hospital room to my grandparents' summer cottage, three hours north,...

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Finding The Words To Talk About Disability

(172) Comments | Posted May 30, 2012 | 10:52 AM

William came home from school a few weeks back and he said, "Mom." He said it as a sentence, the way he does when he has something important to tell me. And then again, "Mom. My friend Ashley is not good at listening. And she screams."

William is three. He...

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Why I Am Both Spiritual And Religious

(28) Comments | Posted April 8, 2012 | 12:00 PM

My days start early. I usually roll over to see our three-year-old son William standing next to our bed, and I feel lucky when the clock behind him reads 6:00. If we send him back to his room, he is prone to awaken his older sister, so I try to...

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Spirituality With Religion Is To Be Still and to Know

(66) Comments | Posted March 19, 2012 | 6:00 PM

There's a verse from Psalm 46 that summarizes the relationship between the practice of religion and the practice of spirituality: "Be still, and know that I am God." It's a prayer, an admonition, an encouragement. The two poles of this verse -- be still, know God -- together they offer...

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Why Do Some See My Daughter's Life As Wrongful?

(215) Comments | Posted March 16, 2012 | 9:16 AM

Over the course of the past five years, I've read news reports of a series of "wrongful birth" lawsuits in which parents won millions of dollars for the ongoing care of their children. In each case, the parents claimed they would have had an abortion if they had known ahead...

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Explaining Down Syndrome, To My Daughter, And Myself

(107) Comments | Posted October 25, 2011 | 5:27 PM

This post is part of Parentlode. Read Lisa Belkin's introduction here.

A few months back, I mentioned to our daughter Penny that she would be meeting another little boy who had Down syndrome, just like her. She didn't say anything in response, but later on that day,...

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