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Andrea Wachter
Andrea is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with over 20 years of experience working with children, teens, adults, families and groups. Andrea is passionate about helping people who are struggling with eating disorders, body image, substance abuse, depression, anxiety, grief and relationships. Andrea is an inspirational counselor, author and speaker who uses professional expertise, humor and personal recovery to help others. For more information on her book or other services, please visit:

Entries by Andrea Wachter

How I Let Go of Dieting and Lost Weight

(2) Comments | Posted January 7, 2015 | 12:29 PM

I started my first diet as a teenager in the 70s. This was before word got out that diets don't work. It was also before we got the warning on sunbathing, so every sunny weekend, my friends and I took our starving little bodies to the beach, slathered on baby...

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A Body Apology

(2) Comments | Posted December 18, 2014 | 1:07 PM

Having spent the first half of my life trying to lose weight, I decided some time ago that I refuse to spend the second half of my life trying to lose wrinkles. All day long, our bodies work diligently for us, yet most people walk around lost in thought, ignoring,...

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Healing What You're Feeling When You're Reeling

(0) Comments | Posted December 1, 2014 | 1:52 PM

Dealing with painful emotions is one of the most challenging aspects of being human. And, as human beings, we are going to have painful emotions throughout our lives. While we can't prevent them, we can learn more effective ways of coping with them.

The most common emotions that cause...

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Advantages of Being Highly Sensitive

(0) Comments | Posted November 11, 2014 | 3:03 PM

Chances are, if you are a highly sensitive person, you are no stranger to being told that you are "too sensitive." For many people, this comment feels like an insult, but in fact, there are some considerable advantages that come along with being a highly sensitive person.

When I...

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Two Simple Words to Improve Your Relationship

(4) Comments | Posted October 16, 2014 | 6:23 PM

You have probably been hearing these words from your mother for years. You probably even say them to your own kids if you are a parent. They are about as common-sensible as basic hygiene and car tune-ups. Two simple words to improve your relationship: Be nice!

I remember many years...

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When Kids Feel 'Fat'

(1) Comments | Posted September 1, 2014 | 8:32 PM

As a family counselor, I enjoy working with many different issues, but it seemed only natural that I would specialize in the area that I most suffered. And since my first drugs of choice were cookies and ice cream, I see a lot of people who struggle with food and...

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Barnacled, Boundaried or Balanced: What's Your Attachment Style?

(0) Comments | Posted August 25, 2014 | 1:24 PM

"I dated her for a while, but she got way too clingy."

"I was interested in him at first, but then he became needy and controlling."

"I love my husband, but sometimes he's so distant that I don't know what's going on with him."

"I want things to work...

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How Are You Spending Your 'Dash'?

(0) Comments | Posted July 18, 2014 | 5:25 PM

I remember many years ago, I was treating a 14-year-old girl who was struggling with an eating disorder and depression. In one particular session, we were talking about her hopes, fears, and regrets. (You know, those light, small-talky topics we psychotherapists tend to bring up!) This young girl told me...

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Self-Parenting: What's Your Style?

(4) Comments | Posted June 26, 2014 | 12:52 PM

Parenting and nurturing a child involves many things: How we speak to our children, how we treat them and what we teach them, to name only a few. How we engage in these behaviors can also apply to how we parent ourselves. Whether or not you are the parent of...

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Confessions of a Recovering Perfectionist

(0) Comments | Posted May 28, 2014 | 1:50 PM

I used to be a perfectionist. Actually, it would be more accurate to say I was a black-belt perfectionist! Not that I ever came close to being perfect, but I had an internal program that told me I should be. My quest for perfection didn't make me perfect, but it...

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Beware: To Compare May Lead to Despair

(0) Comments | Posted May 8, 2014 | 10:52 PM

In my psychotherapy practice, I commonly hear clients comparing themselves to others and usually not coming out too favorably. I often hear statements like,

"I saw pictures of my old high school friend on Facebook and their life seems to have turned out so much better than mine!"

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A Cultural Look at Body Bashing

(0) Comments | Posted April 20, 2014 | 12:49 PM

Unfortunately, I think it's pretty accurate to say that most people in our culture are dissatisfied with their body. Many people even despise their body (or certain parts). And this epidemic has no age limit. In my psychotherapy practice I have worked with clients as young as 6 years old,...

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How to Stop an Argument in Its Tracks

(0) Comments | Posted January 8, 2014 | 7:07 PM

I think it's fair to say that the most common reason people argue is due to poor communication skills. While we were all taught many different subjects in school, healthy communicating generally wasn't one of them. There are many styles of communication, but for the sake of simplicity, I will...

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Which Wolf Are You Feeding?

(1) Comments | Posted November 22, 2013 | 3:29 PM

Chronic dissatisfaction is an epidemic in our outer-focused culture. We live in a world of "never enough." Never rich enough, thin enough, attractive enough, youthful enough, happy enough, accomplished enough or good enough. But how can we ever experience contentment if we are never satisfied with what we currently have...

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'Tis the Season to Eat Sugar

(3) Comments | Posted November 3, 2013 | 9:38 AM

With Halloween right behind us and the holiday season just ahead, many people are dreading the onslaught of so-called "treats" that will emerge on countertops and workspaces around them.

While there are some people who have an allergic reaction to sugar and need to abstain from it because they...

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Mind Movies

(0) Comments | Posted August 20, 2013 | 2:51 PM

Most people walk around lost in thought. It can be very enticing to spend the majority of our time thinking about the past or the future and as a result miss out on the present moment (otherwise known as reality!). Many years ago when I began to read books on...

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Upgrading Your Internal Soundtrack

(5) Comments | Posted June 5, 2013 | 9:20 AM

We all talk to ourselves all day long. Our minds are basically like recorders that play back everything that's been downloaded into them. The quality of our lives is drastically affected by our internal dialogue. Even more than our life situations, it's our self-talk that can make or break our...

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Can Our Connections Last If We Multitask and Move Too Fast?

(3) Comments | Posted May 20, 2013 | 3:54 PM

At the risk of sounding like my great-grandmother, longing for the good ol' days, I can't help but think back on simpler times when people would come home from work, throw their mail down on the counter, check their answering machine for messages and call it a day. These days...

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When Healthy Eating Becomes Unhealthy

(1) Comments | Posted May 8, 2013 | 6:09 PM

It starts out healthy enough -- or, seemingly so. Maybe you started by cutting out processed foods. Then desserts. Then sugar. Then meat. Maybe you switched to all organic and while you were at it, went gluten-free and wheat-free. In a culture that has gone health-food crazy, it's easy to...

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Genuine Surrender

(3) Comments | Posted April 25, 2013 | 4:49 PM

Having been around the spiritual book block a time or two (umm, make that more like 2,000!), I am no stranger to the concept of surrender. If you're anything like me, you've heard it and read it a thousand times too: "What you resist will persist," "Let it go and...

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