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Andrea Wachter
Andrea Wachter is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. In addition to her specialty in eating disorders, she also has expertise in the areas of substance abuse, depression, anxiety, grief and relationship struggles. Andrea is in private practice in Northern California where she works with adults, teens, families and groups. Andrea is co-founder of InnerSolutions Counseling Services and co-author of The Don't Diet, Live-It Workbook. Andrea is an inspirational counselor and author who brings professional experience, humor and personal recovery to others. For more information on her book or her other services, please visit:

Entries by Andrea Wachter

How Are You Spending Your 'Dash'?

(0) Comments | Posted July 18, 2014 | 4:25 PM

I remember many years ago, I was treating a 14-year-old girl who was struggling with an eating disorder and depression. In one particular session, we were talking about her hopes, fears, and regrets. (You know, those light, small-talky topics we psychotherapists tend to bring up!) This young girl told me...

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Self-Parenting: What's Your Style?

(4) Comments | Posted June 26, 2014 | 11:52 AM

Parenting and nurturing a child involves many things: How we speak to our children, how we treat them and what we teach them, to name only a few. How we engage in these behaviors can also apply to how we parent ourselves. Whether or not you are the parent of...

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Confessions of a Recovering Perfectionist

(0) Comments | Posted May 28, 2014 | 12:50 PM

I used to be a perfectionist. Actually, it would be more accurate to say I was a black-belt perfectionist! Not that I ever came close to being perfect, but I had an internal program that told me I should be. My quest for perfection didn't make me perfect, but it...

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Beware: To Compare May Lead to Despair

(0) Comments | Posted May 8, 2014 | 9:52 PM

In my psychotherapy practice, I commonly hear clients comparing themselves to others and usually not coming out too favorably. I often hear statements like,

"I saw pictures of my old high school friend on Facebook and their life seems to have turned out so much better than mine!"

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A Cultural Look at Body Bashing

(0) Comments | Posted April 20, 2014 | 11:49 AM

Unfortunately, I think it's pretty accurate to say that most people in our culture are dissatisfied with their body. Many people even despise their body (or certain parts). And this epidemic has no age limit. In my psychotherapy practice I have worked with clients as young as 6 years old,...

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How to Stop an Argument in Its Tracks

(0) Comments | Posted January 8, 2014 | 6:07 PM

I think it's fair to say that the most common reason people argue is due to poor communication skills. While we were all taught many different subjects in school, healthy communicating generally wasn't one of them. There are many styles of communication, but for the sake of simplicity, I will...

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Which Wolf Are You Feeding?

(1) Comments | Posted November 22, 2013 | 2:29 PM

Chronic dissatisfaction is an epidemic in our outer-focused culture. We live in a world of "never enough." Never rich enough, thin enough, attractive enough, youthful enough, happy enough, accomplished enough or good enough. But how can we ever experience contentment if we are never satisfied with what we currently have...

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'Tis the Season to Eat Sugar

(3) Comments | Posted November 3, 2013 | 8:38 AM

With Halloween right behind us and the holiday season just ahead, many people are dreading the onslaught of so-called "treats" that will emerge on countertops and workspaces around them.

While there are some people who have an allergic reaction to sugar and need to abstain from it because they...

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Mind Movies

(0) Comments | Posted August 20, 2013 | 1:51 PM

Most people walk around lost in thought. It can be very enticing to spend the majority of our time thinking about the past or the future and as a result miss out on the present moment (otherwise known as reality!). Many years ago when I began to read books on...

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Upgrading Your Internal Soundtrack

(5) Comments | Posted June 5, 2013 | 8:20 AM

We all talk to ourselves all day long. Our minds are basically like recorders that play back everything that's been downloaded into them. The quality of our lives is drastically affected by our internal dialogue. Even more than our life situations, it's our self-talk that can make or break our...

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Can Our Connections Last If We Multitask and Move Too Fast?

(3) Comments | Posted May 20, 2013 | 2:54 PM

At the risk of sounding like my great-grandmother, longing for the good ol' days, I can't help but think back on simpler times when people would come home from work, throw their mail down on the counter, check their answering machine for messages and call it a day. These days...

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When Healthy Eating Becomes Unhealthy

(1) Comments | Posted May 8, 2013 | 5:09 PM

It starts out healthy enough -- or, seemingly so. Maybe you started by cutting out processed foods. Then desserts. Then sugar. Then meat. Maybe you switched to all organic and while you were at it, went gluten-free and wheat-free. In a culture that has gone health-food crazy, it's easy to...

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Genuine Surrender

(3) Comments | Posted April 25, 2013 | 3:49 PM

Having been around the spiritual book block a time or two (umm, make that more like 2,000!), I am no stranger to the concept of surrender. If you're anything like me, you've heard it and read it a thousand times too: "What you resist will persist," "Let it go and...

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Emotions 101: How to Reveal and Heal What You Feel

(2) Comments | Posted March 10, 2013 | 11:20 AM

One of the most important aspects of being human is the fact that we have feelings -- all day long. And yet, rarely are we taught healthy ways to cope with them. Who among us learned about coping with emotions in school? And how on earth did such an important...

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Stop 'Shoulding' On Yourself

(2) Comments | Posted March 8, 2013 | 6:07 PM

"I shouldn't have said that." "I shouldn't have done that." "I shouldn't have eaten that." These are common phrases I hear from clients in my counseling practice. So many people are so hard on themselves so much of the time, believing that self-criticism will help them attain their goals. After...

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Breaking the Diet/Binge Cycle

(2) Comments | Posted March 1, 2013 | 2:24 PM

Having spent decades bouncing back and forth between my strict diet du jour and the "I blew it, screw it, eat everything in sight and start again on Monday" program, I am honored to share with others the tips and tools that helped me crack the diet/binge code once and...

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Are Your Child's Eating Issues Eating at You?

(1) Comments | Posted January 23, 2013 | 10:48 AM

There are many complex reasons why your child might be eating more food than his or her body needs. Stuffing down difficult emotions is a top contender. Believing unkind thoughts can also cause overeating in an attempt to quiet a busy mind. Some kids eat more than they need out...

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When Gaming Is No Longer a Game

(7) Comments | Posted January 16, 2013 | 4:08 PM

In a culture that has created a generation of screen surfers, I find myself treating more and more people who are addicted to video games. It starts out innocently enough; your kid gets a new game. They seem to enjoy their newfound pastime. You love when they seem to be...

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What To Do When Your Partner is Thinking Of Leaving

(38) Comments | Posted January 3, 2013 | 11:15 AM

It seems to me in our great grandparents and grandparents' era, people seemed to stay together no matter what. In today's fast moving, perfectionistic world, people seem quick to leave no matter what. In my therapy practice, I often help ambivalent clients differentiate between deal-breakers and deal-makers. Should they stay...

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Dear Son -- A Message for Your At-Risk Teen

(1) Comments | Posted January 2, 2013 | 1:49 PM

Co-written by Steve Legallet, LMFT

After the recent, horrific event in Connecticut we read a blog titled, "I am Adam Lanza's Mother." Within minutes there were thousands of responses to this mother's plea for help. Her son, much like Adam Lanza and millions of others, is disturbed, angry and violent....

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