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Andrea Wachter
Andrea is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and co-author of The Don’t Diet, Live-It Workbook and Mirror, Mirror on the Wall: Breaking the “I Feel Fat” Spell as well as the author of Getting Over Overeating for Teens. Andrea is an inspirational counselor, author and speaker who uses professional expertise, humor and personal recovery to help others. For more information on her books, blogs and other services, please visit

Entries by Andrea Wachter

Breaking the Bad Body Image Legacy

(0) Comments | Posted April 20, 2016 | 10:20 PM

I was raised by a mom who was extremely dissatisfied with her body. Sadly, and statistically, there is a good chance that you were too. It's nobody's fault. Most of our mothers were handed the same bad body image baton that we were, leaving far too many of us competing...

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9 Ways to Improve Body Image

(1) Comments | Posted March 28, 2016 | 10:04 AM

By Andrea Wachter and Marsea Marcus

Body dissatisfaction is an epidemic in our image-obsessed culture. If you are a member of the unofficial "club" of women who dislike or despise their bodies, you may have discovered that the daily dues are high and the long-term benefits are low. But membership...

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Helping Kids Break the 'I Feel Fat' Spell

(0) Comments | Posted March 21, 2016 | 5:07 PM

Most people in our thin-obsessed, fitness-crazed culture are battling with their bodies. For some it's an occasional pastime, for others it's a full-time job. It used to be mainly adults and teens who were struck by what I call the "I Feel Fat" Spell. But these days, even young kids...

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Healing Body Image: Pulling Mental Weeds and Planting New Seeds

(0) Comments | Posted March 16, 2016 | 11:42 AM

In a recent session with a client, we discussed the painful, insidious, incessant, and automatic nature of her bad body image thoughts. Since this particular woman loves to garden, I chose a metaphor I knew she would relate to. I told her that she is not responsible for the demeaning...

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Do You Hate Your Body?

(1) Comments | Posted March 7, 2016 | 9:00 AM

Imagine you had a friend, and 24 hours a day, this friend was working for you, doing all kinds of really important things. Imagine your friend was holding you up, helping you walk, breathe, laugh, sleep, read, see, dream, hear sounds, touch things, feel love, pump blood into your veins,...

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Author Interview: "Mirror, Mirror on the Wall: Breaking the 'I Feel Fat' Spell"

(1) Comments | Posted March 1, 2016 | 12:51 PM

By Janice Bremis and Andrea Wachter, LMFT

I recently did an interview with Janice Bremis, founder of the Eating Disorders Resource Services, to discuss my new children's book, Mirror, Mirror on the Wall: Breaking the "I Feel Fat" Spell. I thought I would post our discussion in...

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Book Excerpt from Mirror, Mirror on the Wall: Breaking the "I Feel Fat" Spell

(0) Comments | Posted February 27, 2016 | 11:40 AM

Excerpt from Mirror, Mirror on the Wall: Breaking the "I Feel Fat" Spell

Children are not born with a bad body image. They learn it. They learn it from the culture and the media, or from relatives, friends, and schoolmates who learned it from the culture and the media. And...

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Is Worry Useful?

(2) Comments | Posted October 20, 2015 | 6:13 PM

I am no stranger to worry. In fact, I was pretty much raised on it: love, chicken soup and worry. Suffice it to say that worrying is pretty much in my DNA. And after a few decades of counseling others from all walks of life, I realize that I am...

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5 Ways to Rekindle the Spark in Your Relationship

(0) Comments | Posted August 3, 2015 | 11:21 AM

By Andrea Wachter, MFT and Steve J. Legallet, MFT

Do you remember the feelings you experienced when you first started dating your spouse or partner? Perhaps you felt excitement, attraction, and anticipation? Chances are you were exceptionally attentive, polite, and considerate with this exciting new person in...

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40 Symptoms of a Healthy Woman

(23) Comments | Posted June 29, 2015 | 6:07 PM

In a recent session with a client who is struggling with depression, we were discussing some healthy things she could begin to do for herself. She was well aware of the symptoms of depression but she wondered, aside from the obvious, about the "symptoms" or signs of a healthy woman....

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What Would Your Last Meal Be?

(0) Comments | Posted May 26, 2015 | 5:58 PM

On a recent road trip with my husband, we listened to a radio program about the last meal of a death row prisoner. While I can't remember the exact food items that the prisoner requested, his menu was something along the lines of: three Big Macs, two large fries, a...

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Sometimes Adults Need Tantrums, Too!

(0) Comments | Posted May 4, 2015 | 9:30 AM

When I was studying to become a psychotherapist, a professor told me that people generally seek therapy for one of two reasons: They are either having a tantrum or they need to have one! I have actually counseled people for many additional reasons but the tantrum tip has stuck with...

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How Many Likes Are Enough?

(2) Comments | Posted April 10, 2015 | 7:01 PM

As a therapist who enjoys writing, several years ago I decided to hop on the blogging bandwagon. Having received a moderate number of likes and positive feedback, it seemed for a while that nobody was worse for the wear and maybe a few people even benefited. Then came the day...

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7 Things I Wish I'd Known When I Was Battling Depression

(86) Comments | Posted March 19, 2015 | 12:03 PM

I spent many years in and out of depression, and while I felt very much alone at the time, I know now that I was not. Millions of people battle the dark depths of depression every day. Like many others, I kept most of my painful thoughts and feelings to...

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Warning: Self-Kindness Can Be Habit-Forming!

(0) Comments | Posted March 5, 2015 | 12:42 PM

One of the most common themes I have noticed with my clients over the years is self-criticism. Regardless of the presenting issue -- be it depression, anxiety, addiction, relationship conflicts, you name it -- so many people are unkind to themselves, in thought and in actions.

I work with...

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The Ambivalence of an Addict

(0) Comments | Posted February 9, 2015 | 9:59 AM

The Ambivalence Of An Addict
By Andrea Wachter, LMFT

If you are one of the millions of people who struggle with an addiction, there is a good chance you have (or have had) some ambivalence about giving it up. After all, nobody would be addicted to something if it...

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How I Let Go of Dieting and Lost Weight

(2) Comments | Posted January 7, 2015 | 11:29 AM

I started my first diet as a teenager in the 70s. This was before word got out that diets don't work. It was also before we got the warning on sunbathing, so every sunny weekend, my friends and I took our starving little bodies to the beach, slathered on baby...

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A Body Apology

(2) Comments | Posted December 18, 2014 | 12:07 PM

Having spent the first half of my life trying to lose weight, I decided some time ago that I refuse to spend the second half of my life trying to lose wrinkles. All day long, our bodies work diligently for us, yet most people walk around lost in thought, ignoring,...

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Healing What You're Feeling When You're Reeling

(0) Comments | Posted December 1, 2014 | 12:52 PM

Dealing with painful emotions is one of the most challenging aspects of being human. And, as human beings, we are going to have painful emotions throughout our lives. While we can't prevent them, we can learn more effective ways of coping with them.

The most common emotions that cause...

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Advantages of Being Highly Sensitive

(0) Comments | Posted November 11, 2014 | 2:03 PM

Chances are, if you are a highly sensitive person, you are no stranger to being told that you are "too sensitive." For many people, this comment feels like an insult, but in fact, there are some considerable advantages that come along with being a highly sensitive person.

When I...

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