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Andrew Smiler
Andrew Smiler, PhD is a therapist in Winston-Salem, North Carolina (USA) who specializes in working with teen boys and young men. He is the author of “Challenging Casanova: Beyond the stereotype of promiscuous young male sexuality” and a past president of the Society for the Psychological Study of Men and Masculinity. He has taught at Wake Forest University and SUNY Oswego. Dr. Smiler's research focuses on definitions of masculinity. He also studies normative aspects of sexual development, such as age and perception of first kiss, first “serious” relationship, and first intercourse among 15-25 year olds. Follow him @AndrewSmiler

Entries by Andrew Smiler

The Benefits of Cliques

(0) Comments | Posted August 26, 2014 | 11:05 AM

The new school year comes with very real questions and concerns about friends and fitting in for parents of teens, as well as many teens. It's part and parcel for any kid that just moved to the area, but it's also part of the remixing that occurs when multiple elementary...

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Three Ways Modern Technology Increases the Likelihood of PTSD Among Veterans

(1) Comments | Posted November 8, 2013 | 4:20 PM

Over the last decade or so, the American public's appreciation for soldiers has generally increased. I've witnessed dozens, possibly hundreds, of people thanking uniformed soldiers for their service, in stores, cafes, and airports. This commercial beautifully reflects that sentiment. We'll celebrate through local parades and discounted prices by...

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Updating Valentine's Day Traditions for an Egalitarian Era

(5) Comments | Posted February 5, 2013 | 1:00 PM

I've always been told Valentine's Day is a holiday that celebrates love -- a couple's love for each other, not just a man's love for a woman. Or her love of him, for that matter. It's supposed to be about them. Yet everything I've learned about how to act on...

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New Year's Resolution: Change "The Talk" Into the Conversation

(0) Comments | Posted December 26, 2012 | 9:40 AM

Do something different this New Year's: Start talking to your kids about sexuality. I don't mean tell them how often you have sex or what your favorite positions are; those things are none of their business. But you should start talking about why people date, why they kiss, why they...

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7 Misconceptions About Male Sexuality

(523) Comments | Posted December 19, 2012 | 10:08 AM

"Guys just want sex and aren't interested in relationships." "Men are just Casanovas, players or studs." It's the story we typically hear about male sexuality, whether it's guys like Barney on "How I Met Your Mother," Charlie on "Two and A Half Men" or even General David Petraeus. It's the...

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The Information Void: Boys, Parents and Porn

(2) Comments | Posted November 26, 2012 | 10:23 AM

Boys want to know about sex and sexuality. Although we often act as if boys already know it all, they are not born with extensive knowledge of sex or sexuality. Research tells us that nearly all teenage boys (and most teenage girls) have seen online pornography. The

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Men and Mass Shootings

(6) Comments | Posted July 23, 2012 | 10:26 AM

On Friday morning, we woke up to the horrible news that a gunman had opened fire during a midnight movie in a Colorado theatre. By mid-morning, a suspect had been named: James Holmes. A man.

He joins a dubious list: Jared Lee Loughner (Rep. Gabrielle Giffords), Major Midal Malik Hasan...

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The Father's Day Gift Guide Dad Wants You to Read

(0) Comments | Posted June 7, 2012 | 3:27 PM

It's almost Father's Day. Across America, millions of people are struggling with the annual question of what to buy. Many of us find it harder to buy for Dad than for Mom. It seems like there's always something that Mom needs, and it also seems like there's a broader range...

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Why So Bleak?

(130) Comments | Posted April 4, 2012 | 3:12 PM

Frank Bruni's recent op-ed in the New York Times,"The Bleaker Sex," asks if disconnected, worthless sex is the new state of the world for young women. Bruni laments that "what's happening [in the bedroom] remains something of a muddle, if not a mess."

Although potentially provocative, the article...

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