Peaceful Revolution: Maternal Profiling -- People Are Talking About It

When ABC did their story on maternal profiling, I was really glad about it. Not, of course, about maternal profiling, but the fact that a mainstream media outlet was picking up on this issue. Many of us talk about suspected maternal profiling (discrimination in the workplace due to parental status) with our trusted friends and family, but outside a couple of New York Times articles mentioning it (like this great one about a real mom in PA), there didn't seem to be much light shed on this publicly.

So, it was refreshing to know that the facts and real people's stories got airtime. Many of us have experienced discrimination in hiring because we're mothers, or family caregivers, or just have some regular responsibilities that mean we simply cannot be chained to our workplaces at any hour of the day or night. And many of you shared your stories right here. But I don't often see this covered in the media outside of a superficial, "mommy wars" kind of way.

On the ABC website, they posted an accompanying story highlighting stories of moms in Pennsylvania who had to face personal questions about their marital and parental status. So many of the comments following the stories are from moms who have been there. One pointed out that kids today are tomorrow's leaders, and even people without kids are going to be relying on them for services in the years to come. I really appreciated that-- it took the cliche that "children are our future" and made it concrete. Who will be our doctors, teachers, laborers, office workers in five, ten, twenty years? Yep, the current crop of 13 year olds and younger are going to hit adulthood sooner than we think. The time to parent them is NOW.

And let's be clear: no parent is asking for the moon here from their employers. No one is expecting special treatment. Heck, almost every other country in the world manages to provide family-friendly benefits like paid family leave, and the world economy isn't on the brink of collapse (well, not due to that!). So it's not impossible. We just need a shift in corporate culture and in the laws of the land (that's all!). A shift that recognizes that society does not rest solely on the fourth quarter earnings of a corporation. And let's recognize that employees don't come from nowhere-- we were all born to someone, raised by someone. Maybe come home to someone who shares our life. Those someones are our family.

Bottom line: We cannot expect society to keep rolling along as usual if we don't acknowledge the reality of the time and effort of child-rearing. Raising kids is work. It's labor that takes time like any other job -- even if you have a paid outside job, even if you have paid childcare. Whether you're working and have kids in childcare or are a full-time parent, you know that the work of parenting is as much labor as any job. And it's worth just as much, at least. It's time our society came to grips with that fact. So the more mainstream media tells it like it is, the better chances we have of developing a work culture in this country compatible with -- instead of working against -- family life.

A Peaceful Revolution is a weekly blog about work/life satisfaction done in collaboration with MomsRising.org. Read a post by a leading thinker in the field every week.

Comments

[JoePalooka]

I don't know where you live or what kind of employment you or your associates engage in, but in my 45 years in owning or being employed in businesses, I have not seen the descrimination you bemoan.

Women with families (or with just children) in my wide experience have been treated with consideration. If a woman said her kid was sick or she had outside family interests going on that could not be ignored, well, that was that. Of *course* they took (take) the time off. Sure, once in awhile an employer or manager has to face the unpleasant fact that someone is taking advantage of other people's good will in this type of situation. That's a judgement call; it's life and you deal with it-- sometimes harshly.
This is not to say that some "managers" aren't low class assholes who don't deserve a position of responsibility. If a working mother puts up with jerks like that, without recoursing to her husband, brothers or decent male friends (or available legal resources) to quickly settle such issues, well then whose fault is that?

[ADP4]

It is the fault of the low class a**holes.

Many times working parents will "put up with jerks like that" because they need to hold on to the job.