A New Year... A New Proposal

25 percent of brides-to-be are engaged over the holidays. In case you weren't part of that group but are looking to get engaged soon, we have a couple of tips for making your engagement thoroughly chic and completely modern.

1. Mother May I

We love the sentiment of asking dad for permission, but we also think it's high time that this tradition extends to include both parents and in many cases step-parents.

2. It's A Ring, Not Just Bling

We admit it, what's not to love about a big diamond. But, what's more important and what makes the best ring is true meaning behind the rock (or lack thereof). We've seen rings passed down multiple generations, stones that were selected because they matched a pair of eyes, and simple bands etched with a promise to love that were worth far more than a carat size would indicate.

3. Just the Two of Us

We're over the mega proposal. Skywriting your declaration of love or lighting up the Jumbotron with her name does not mean that you love her any more. We suggest keeping it simple, just the two of you and a well thought out ask.

There are a million ways to propose. It's a new year and your proposal should be about much more than a ring and wedding. To make an engagement modern, let simplicity and sincerity be your guide.

Comments

[lungfish]

reefboy.... LMAO....

Ok, I'll bite...
Traditional households might go for the asking mothers and step-parents for permission. However, in this era of fractured families, it doesn't seem very wise to ask permission of those who aren't successful at being married to begin with.
For most families that I am aware of weddings and marriage are something that is endured rather than celebrated. Weddigs are expensive and time consuming. Often it is about unplanned parenthood. Very often. And the results are catastrophic - divorce, damaged children, etc.
These days, nobody sitting in a wedding reception believes that the "happy couple" will last forever. Most lay odds at three to five years max and for about 60% of marriages that is about right.

So... getting the family involved doesn't seem very critical to me.

And that makes it all even simpler.

And keeping in mind that the diamond market is an artificial one and that no diamond is truly worth the money you spend on it makes it easier to settle for something less expensive and more personally sincere. That way, when she is flinging your belongings onto the lawn and declaring her love for your "best friend", you won't have to suffer knowing that she pawned your ring for condoms.

So... yes, less bling is probably smarter in the long run.

And yes, by all means, propose in private. That way, when it all melts down there won't be as many witnesses to your initial foolishness and you may be able to cut back on the post-breakup humiliation induced drinking and hooker binge a little as you try to regain some sense of self esteem.

Yea, best to keep all things "Marriage" low key and simple if for no other reason than it saves on humiliation and "I told you so" later.

[reefboy]

Jesus save us from these pinheads...