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The Year End Round-Up in Marriage

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It has been a banner year for marital tankings. We're talking supreme tankage here. Famous flameouts from the world of politics, sports, and celebrities provided countless hours of entertainment, overtime work for journalists, and taught millions of us the names of minor porn stars heretofore unknown (Ladies and gents... Jamie Jungers?).

So, let's do a round-up of the extreme highs and the lowest of the lows of marital woes 2009.


1. Tiger Woods and Elin Nordegren
This was marriage blow-up #1 with a bullet!

She Says: I don't have problem with Tiger. Men like sex. Men like to have sex with women they're not married to. Where was the news here? Besides, isn't the possibility of acquiring as much quality vagina as possible why men want to be successful and rich? Alas, Americans look down on this, publicly. However, as much as we drag our prized pets through the mud, we love seeing them redeem themselves. I predict that six months into the new year, Tiger -- post-sex rehab with Dr. Drew -- will regain his endorsements and Gatorade will change their slogan to, "I'll have what he's having."

He Says: Tiger must be stopped; it's just not fair! As a lowly beta male I can't even imagine the temptation Tiger Woods has to deal with on a daily, perhaps hourly, even minute-to-minute basis. The world is his vagina. The eminent evolutionary psychologist, Robert Wright theorizes that monogamy evolved to prevent males like Tiger Woods who can have literally thousands of wives which would leave men like me, Jeff Kahn, with none. Wright believes and rightly so that nothing is more dangerous to society than a pack of frustrated Jeff Kahns roaming around without a chance in hell of procreating.


2. Mark and Jenny Sanford
This was fun from Mark's first lie to his last.

She Says: It's sad! Though the governor will pine and beg Jenny to let him have more time to fall in love with her again, he will be spurned and spend the next year nostalgically campaigning to have the signage in the Appalachian trial translated into Spanish.

He Says: It's stupid! Mark's biggest mistake was flying back to South Carolina from Argentina. He should have resigned as Governor, gotten a divorce, married his Argentinean hottie, and then rode that wave of political passion all the way to being president of Argentina. They love this kind of thing down there. No one sings, "Don't Cry For Me South Carolina" do they?


3. Frank and Jamie McCourt
Foul Play.

He Says: If money were an aphrodisiac, this couple would never leave their bed, but instead they're trying to screw each other legally. Jamie wants her job back as CEO of the Dodgers, plus $488,925 a month for living expenses ($330,000 goes toward her residences and vacation homes). It's gonna get ugly, folks. I feel bad for their children. And by children I mean the Dodgers.

She Says: My favorite aspect of this contentious debate is that his lawyers are accusing her of having an affair with her driver, which McCourt's attorney has deemed, "an inappropriate relationship with a subordinate employee." What would he say if she had an affair with a player? I'm rooting for Jaime and her driver. I'm tired of men in powerful positions sleeping with employees. Thank you Jamie, for breaking the glass bedspring.


4. Jon and Kate
The real reality of the couple trying to create reality is that they suck at it.

She Says: The worst part of their divorce, sadly, is that many of us who managed to miss the show know the name Gosselin, which is a terrible sign of how reality TV culture has migrated into mainstream news. I predict Jon will meet Madonna at Kabbalah and after losing custody of his own kids become the manny for her children, Kate will lose custody of her children to the Octomom who will need to get more children in her brood to compete with the new 19-kid show on TLC.

He Says: I never watched their show, I don't read about them in gossip magazines, but just seeing their photos on the cover at the supermarket checkout makes me never want to watch or read anything about them ever again.


5. Madonna and Guy Richie
This marriage didn't have Like a Prayer.

He Says: Richie gave her a baby and a really bad movie to star in -- what more could a material girl want? No seriously, I think what Madonna was really after in this union was a chance to try out her British accent and when the world collectively cringed, it was only a matter of time before Madge dropped the hubby and the accent, and hopped the pond back to the States.

She Says: Madge looks great. Just great. What is she doing and who is doing it? Divorce? Whatever? Who's her dermatologist?


6. Avril and Deryck
Ah, the stupidity of youth.

He says: Avril Lavigne and Deryck Whibley, winners of the 2009 Very-Odd-Celebrity-Names-and-Who-Cares-That-They're-Getting-a-Divorce Award.

She Says: I think their divorce is robbing the world of equally incomprehensibly-spelled children's names: Abigile, Alleysun, Dawren, Duglous. It's a loss, really.


7. Senator John Ensign's affair with his friend and colleague's wife, Cindy Hamilton
Family Values go to Hell

He Says: On the Senate floor, John Ensign declared,

"Marriage is the cornerstone on which our society was founded. For those who say that the Constitution is so sacred that we cannot or should not adopt the Federal Marriage Amendment. It is not right to mold marriage to fit the desires of a few, against the wishes of so many, and to ignore the important role of marriage."
Sitting at my desk, Jeff Kahn declares, "John Ensign you're a huge fu#*ing hypocrite and the next time you're casting stones at gay marriage not being sacred remember to throw a big fat rock in your own lying cheating face. Good day, sir!"


She Says: Ensign was simply following in the footsteps of Nevada's governor, Jim Gibbons, who last spring was accused by his wife of sending more than 800 text messages to a mistress in 2007. Just another way that technology has let us down.


8. Marriage itself

2009 saw marital happiness lower than ever (same sex couples can marry in Iowa and D.C. but not in the West Village), but even more troubling, low property values and joint health care plans are forcing many couples to stay together. When the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers polled its 1,600 members, nearly 40 percent said that filings were down by 40 percent. We hope the economy recovers so couples can return to business as usual in America. And by that we mean screwing up their relationships and getting the chance to divorce repeatedly (like family values champion Rush Limbaugh, who announced that he'll marry wife #4 on July 4th, 2010).

 
It has been a banner year for marital tankings. We're talking supreme tankage here. Famous flameouts from the world of politics, sports, and celebrities provided countless hours of entertainment, ove...
It has been a banner year for marital tankings. We're talking supreme tankage here. Famous flameouts from the world of politics, sports, and celebrities provided countless hours of entertainment, ove...
 
 
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JuniperSunshine
Libertarian Homeschooling Mom
04:45 PM on 12/30/2009
"but even more troubling, low property values and joint health care plans are forcing many couples to stay together."

Are you equally troubled that young couples who depend on Medicaid for their kids are prevented from marrying in the first place? Pretty much any low-income couple with kids can expect to see an end to any financial assistance from the government if they marry.
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wernerholm
bio doesnt ever meet guidelines
05:55 PM on 12/27/2009
Great year in Marriage for Heterosexuals.....Meanwhile in the real world Maine and New York join the ranks of "hate states"
11:07 AM on 12/27/2009
Almost everyone I know who stays single into middle age end up the same.

Older and ALONE...
And certainly not happier than the couples I know who are happily married.

Yes it's true, there are people out there who manage to stay married... AND happy.
Despite what these people here might have you believe.
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CapableOne
That rug really tied the room together.
02:37 PM on 12/27/2009
Married and happy, like my dear friends Brian and Kevin, who were wed during California's "window". They are raising three wonderful kids and are one of the most beautiful families I have ever known. They inspire me to be a better wife and mom.
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iMissMollyIvins
Middle-aged, Middle class, Midwestern Populist
06:46 PM on 12/31/2009
I'll stand with you and your friends who Value Family against the hypocrites that spout catchphrases like Family Values every time.
09:49 AM on 12/27/2009
Anyone who still believes gay marriage shouldn't be legal should have their voting rights taken away because clearly they have no knowledge of or interest in their own Constitution. Still, I have to wonder why the hell gay people would want to engage in such a failed institution. Couldn't gays come up with something better than this silly institution of marriage? Then maybe gays could deny this new-and-improved way of life to straight people who would be stuck with the ever more incompetent institution of marriage and its entourage of bible thumpers and divorce attorneys.
11:01 AM on 12/27/2009
Why would you think gay people could improve marriage?

Does being gay make you somehow smarter than everyone else?
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PhilipB
03:02 PM on 12/23/2009
In what was a small mention in #8, the biggest story in marriage in 2009 was that Gay couples have been denied marriage, had their ability to marry voted on and stripped away.
Beyond the tabloid stories of a few given weight in the prior examples, the real harm of marriage in-equality which affects so many citizens real lives is the real story here.
I certainly hope for marriage equality in 2010, and I celebrated Mexico City's decision to treat its people fairly in this regard. That is part of the real story of marriage in 2009.
Happy Holidays!
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mad world
If you stand for nothing, you'll fall for anything
12:56 AM on 12/23/2009
Somehow "opposite" marriages all over the country are still falling apart, despite successful attempts to keep gays from forming marriages of their own. So...if they're not hurting marriage, who is? Oh yeah, it's the people that don't take their vows seriously or just didn't think before they wed.

I don't see how a loving gay couple can hurt marriage any worse than Pamela Anderson has singlehandedly.
01:29 PM on 12/23/2009
The states with same sex marriages have had their divorce rates DROP.
So maybe same sex marriages are a good example, or maybe the states CONFIDENT enough to treat LGBT as equals....don't worry about what other couples do in THEIR homes.
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Cyd Norris
08:56 PM on 12/22/2009
We'd better make sure Gay people never marry and sully the sanctity of marriage. Right?
07:40 PM on 12/22/2009
Seems a bit biased. It's OK for Tiger, but no one else, eh?
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LMPE
I connect the most dissimilar things
07:26 PM on 12/22/2009
Oh well. The rest of us can laugh at this.
07:20 PM on 12/22/2009
As a happily married woman, I am flabbergasted at the lack of concern Tiger Woods showed for his wife and children. His promiscuous ways and the reports that he did not always use protection meant he could have introduced STD's to his wife and also his unborn children during the time she was pregnant. That kind of behavior is simply self destructive, but it also put his families lives at risk. He is sick, and he needs help. People who don't see the potential danger in this behavior and maintain a "boys will be boys" mentality, like this article demonstrates, are truly naive.
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oregon bird
01:20 AM on 12/23/2009
Yeah, he's sick. He gets an impulse and follows through, rather than not. Since when is that sick? I went out for the mail wearing a pink plaid shirt and a tie-died orange/grey skirt the other day -- and my neighbors saw me. I acted on impulse, and will pay for the rest of my life. I'm fine with that. And if a rich man with two dozen mistresses shares a few germs with a wife who is happily rewriting their pre/post nups -- and pocketing a diamond ring and a new house WHILE dialing the Dream Team -- go for it. This laptop is the only thing I own worth more than $10. Let them both itch. It will amuse me.
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gardengranny
Ever-hopeful for the best; preparing for the worst
11:05 AM on 12/23/2009
Why did Tiger even bother to get married?

Oh, let's see - his sponsors told him would look better for his image.

Yeah, that's it.

I hate hypocrisy.
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JuniperSunshine
Libertarian Homeschooling Mom
08:15 AM on 12/27/2009
Well, I might have an "impulse" to steal your car, but I suspect you might get all judgmental about it and insist that I restrain myself. Humans can choose to deny their impulses, if sufficiently motivated.
05:42 AM on 12/23/2009
so what you are really angry about is what COULD have happened and not necessarily what did happen.
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gardengranny
Ever-hopeful for the best; preparing for the worst
11:09 AM on 12/23/2009
Tiger Woods behaved recklessly and irresponsibly.

Anyone who says otherwise likely has issues similar to Tiger's.
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TJCole
06:06 PM on 12/22/2009
Marriage, a word that should be pronounced Mirage...!
05:20 PM on 12/22/2009
We could call it "The Year of the Philandering Breeder". But then every year is kind of like that, isn't it. So much for the sanctity of marriage. To all of you philandering breeders who stand behind your Bibles while denying me my rights as a gay person, I have just one thing to say to you; Leviticus 20:10.
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GeorgeBurnsWasRight
My micro-bio is running on empty.
03:37 PM on 12/28/2009
You forget that the Bible only applies to other people.
03:27 PM on 12/22/2009
Finding and maintining a lasting relationshiop has never been more complex in this crazy world !
......but the divorce rate is the lowest since 1970. There are 100m unmarried adults in the USA and for the first time ever the majority of households are headed by an unmarried person!
Get a grip on what's really going on. See "SINGLE" the new documentary film deecribed by Tiffanie Greene NY film critic as " Brilliantly done' and by Juliet Huddy on Fox TV as ' a really cool,cool documentary. www.singlefilm.com for full details.
Happy holidays!
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Anne Johnson
Fairly Unbalanced
01:02 PM on 12/23/2009
Thank you for that link. It looks interesting. I thought there was a poll about a year or so ago that said that the number of unmarried couples living together is now more than the married couples.
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03:01 PM on 12/22/2009
But at least the institution isn't being defiled by gays marrying.

Phew.
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Anne Johnson
Fairly Unbalanced
01:12 PM on 12/23/2009
I'm sure all those guys were so bothered by the thought of gays getting married that it drove them to do all that scrooing around! It couldn't possibly be because they're all just a bunch of weak cowards! ;-)

Maybe they can start a new reality show on TLC. "Sk@nk Hunters"!
02:55 PM on 12/22/2009
IA, MA, NH, CT, VT, and DC

Merry Christmas to the civilized EQUAL states.
05:44 AM on 12/23/2009
if my state does not support marriage for gay couples, then we are uncivilized. do you really believe that insulting people is the way to get them to come over to your side? No wonder states are rejecting this......it feels like coercion.
01:16 PM on 12/23/2009
If your state doesn't treat LGBT families EQUAL to heterosexual families....yes you are UNCIVILIZED. We are Americans with the EXACT same Rights you were endowed with by YOUR CREATOR. It's insulting to LGBTs, you'd even have to ASK.
01:24 PM on 12/23/2009
@jennifer
If you had a gay or lesbian sibling, child, or grandchild would you want ANY LESS for their lives than you are afforded in your life?